Does he actually want it?

[tradtx]

I'm a girl and I stumbled across this forum googling about being a virgin who has crazy sexual urges haha welp it's all out there! So now that I'm here it seems like y'all are super knowledgeable on guys thinking so - help please?

I've been talking to/dating a guy thats a bit older (he's in his 20s out of college I'm still in college) for a few months. For periods of time it's been long distance which has made it a slower process. So in the long distance times we talk on the phone almost every day and when we do he always jerks off while we talk and at some point I don't even know how it happened he started guiding me to touching myself too I had never done that before. So now every day I touch myself for him on the phone. In person right from the start the dates were super flirty and we laughed a lot and he was always very touchy with me. Like he'd put his hand on my leg or my lower back or my back or pull me toward him. The second date we went to Top Golf and he was standing behind me running his hands over me. We've been on a bunch of in person dates since then and all of those ones ended up with us alone at his place with him touching me and getting super excited seemingly and it seemed like he might have sex with me but then he doesn't its like he holds back. I'm not going to tell him to have sex with me because I want him to not think I'm a slut and I want him to keep liking me but also what is he waiting for?! Like he has me there? does he not like me?

 

[Bill]

Does he know you’re a virgin? Is he a virgin?

If he knows you‘re a virgin he won’t think you’re a slut, he may be holding back if it’s your first time as that can be intimidating for some guys. If he’s also a virgin he may be nervous himself.

He may just not like PIV sex and prefer masturbation. This is a much less likely explanation but there are some guys like that.

You can breach the topic of sex without directly asking him to have sex with you.

 

[James D]

You can breach the topic of sex without directly asking him to have sex with you.

Second that.

 

[tradtx]

Does he know you’re a virgin? Is he a virgin?

If he knows you‘re a virgin he won’t think you’re a slut, he may be holding back if it’s your first time as that can be intimidating for some guys. If he’s also a virgin he may be nervous himself.

He may just not like PIV sex and prefer masturbation. This is a much less likely explanation but there are some guys like that.

You can breach the topic of sex without directly asking him to have sex with you.

Thanks so much for responding! He does know I'm a virgin and says he likes that. He is definitely not a virgin and has had a lot of experience. He's said when he was dirty talking before that he wanted to be my first and he couldn't wait to be inside me.

So then when he has the opportunity to do that and doesn't I get confused! He's had me down to just my panties even! and chose to focus on my tits instead which felt so good too but i fell asleep wondering why not more.

How do I breach the topic without asking him to?

 

[James D]

He's had me down to just my panties even! and chose to focus on my tits instead which felt so good too but i fell asleep wondering why not more.

How do I breach the topic without asking him to?

If he's had you down to your panties, it's safe to be more suggestive about sex without coming across as a slut.

At this point, sex is like the last 5 %.