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Addicted2height said:
Just a warning for all of you that the pill is defiantly not 100% effective.
Have just found this out the hard way and looking like life is going to change...
So if you find yourself in a situation where you hate condoms and the girl is on the pill i'd recommend that you still pull out
Is this the girl you thought was not all that great who wanted to wrap you into a relationship?
I'd be surprised if she was using the pill, or if she took it when she was supposed to have. Sounds like she very much wanted to lock you down.
I'd recommend you find an alternate route to settling down with a woman you don't find all that great just because she tricked you into impregnating her - the abortion pill is good up to 6 weeks after conception, for instance. Adoption is another very viable option if you're opposed to aborting a child of yours.
Nothing wrong with having kids, but you'll be a lot happier if you save that for something you do with women you REALLY like and really WANT to have kids with, rather than somebody who's just okay and schemes a way to keep you.
The typical speech for this scenario is, "Look, we can take you to get an abortion, and I'll go with you and support you 100% of the way. Or, if you want to have that child, we can take it to an adoption clinic and make sure it gets a good home. But while I think you're a great girl, personally I'm not doing the white picket fences thing just yet. That's not for me. And I don't want to wreck your life either. So we need to figure out if you can not keep this baby, or if you'd prefer to give it up for adoption after delivery."
If she insists she's keeping it, at that point you can tell her you'll do a DNA test to make sure after it's born, and you'll provide some financial support, but that's all you can provide. It sounds harsh, but if some girl you don't want children with is insisting on having children with you, you have to be supportive but firm and avoid getting roped into a long commitment to someone you don't want that with.
Chase
