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I haven't seen flaking mentioned in the topics so I thought I start one on it. For those who don't know what flaking is, it's when a girl/woman ditches or bails on a date or event you guys had planned together. This also known as bailing/ditching/spinning depending on where you travel. Determining how the event or date was set up she may of had "good" reason to bail.
Maybe family (had to pick up a sibling), Work (she got called in, or is feeling tired, this happens if you pick up cashiers or bar tenders), Too Much Effort (maybe you wanted to go to a movie and she doesn't want to sit through a 2 hour flick). The reasons could go on. The point is whatever her reason, don't take it personal. You'll look way cooler and relaxed when you do.
Reason: When a guy blows up a on a girl and makes a big deal out of stuff, you come off looking desperate, needy, lame, etc... A girl wants to feel comfortable knowing she can come in and out of your life whenever she pleases. That way she won't be verbally harassed when she see you again. You don't make it a big deal. You're just simply not taking it personal. This makes you look strong, confident, and sexy because she'll think you'll have other options. This will intrigue her to wanting to spend more time with you.
Fixer 1: I would say this starts with your logistics, don't make the date anything to complicated. Keep it simple, I just go with a coffee house right by my place. It's relaxed and doesn't really require a whole lot from her. If you're worried about paying, well it's cheap maybe like 2 dollars at least and 6 dollars at most. The best part is if she did flake, well I'm already out and my house is close by. I could either go find another woman or just walk back to my place.
Fixer 2: I would suggest texting or calling a girl maybe the day of if not half an hour before your date. This way if she does bail, like Fixer 1 you got time to find another woman before the night is up.
Conclusion: Remember to keep it cool. If she flakes don't bash her just relax her. Planning simple is better than going complicated.
Take care,
Just Dave
Maybe family (had to pick up a sibling), Work (she got called in, or is feeling tired, this happens if you pick up cashiers or bar tenders), Too Much Effort (maybe you wanted to go to a movie and she doesn't want to sit through a 2 hour flick). The reasons could go on. The point is whatever her reason, don't take it personal. You'll look way cooler and relaxed when you do.
Reason: When a guy blows up a on a girl and makes a big deal out of stuff, you come off looking desperate, needy, lame, etc... A girl wants to feel comfortable knowing she can come in and out of your life whenever she pleases. That way she won't be verbally harassed when she see you again. You don't make it a big deal. You're just simply not taking it personal. This makes you look strong, confident, and sexy because she'll think you'll have other options. This will intrigue her to wanting to spend more time with you.
Fixer 1: I would say this starts with your logistics, don't make the date anything to complicated. Keep it simple, I just go with a coffee house right by my place. It's relaxed and doesn't really require a whole lot from her. If you're worried about paying, well it's cheap maybe like 2 dollars at least and 6 dollars at most. The best part is if she did flake, well I'm already out and my house is close by. I could either go find another woman or just walk back to my place.
Fixer 2: I would suggest texting or calling a girl maybe the day of if not half an hour before your date. This way if she does bail, like Fixer 1 you got time to find another woman before the night is up.
Conclusion: Remember to keep it cool. If she flakes don't bash her just relax her. Planning simple is better than going complicated.
Take care,
Just Dave
