Drilling frame strength into one's bones

[Darius]

Hello, first time posting on the forums but long time lurker, so feel free to go crazy on the jargon hahah

I'm interested in how one can maintain one's frame strength over time, particularly after having been a weak man for a long time.

I think most men that go through big transformations are still in tune with their lame-o self, at least for a while.

Over the past few years I've done the work of developing the marks of a strong and sexually free man, and thanks in no small part to GC, I've had some pretty great fucking experiences. Experiences which only a short while back I could never have fathomed I'd go through (and even better, actually handle with confidence!)

But, every now and again, it seems like the old lame guy in me is taking over. As if the all-powerful person that I was and the experiences that I had were not "real", and, the real "me" was asleep, my body and mind being driven by some fiery, pussy-hungry, hide-yo-wife-and-daughter, dominant spirit that pimped up my life. Essentially, it all feels as if it was a dream.

I'm not entirely sure how common this is, but I'd be willing to bet some people that have gone through major transformations have experienced it at some point.

The problem is that during the bad period, my frame all but collapses. I revert to being a sucky, video-game playing, dorito-munching nerd who could not be social if you put a gun to his head. Takes me a few days to shake off, and when I do it's mostly motivated by getting some syrupy text from a girl, or some friend inviting me to a party. Then my new habits come back and I go into beast mode again for the next month or two.

I cannot seem to control when it happens. And when it does, every part of my life slips up. I perform worse at work, I fail girls' tests and lose them, and I get weird looks from friends. Moreover, I'm now planning on starting a serious relationship, so these kinds of stuff absolutely cannot happen, or they will kill it in its crib.

Assuming this is normal and I'm not messed up in the head, how does one go about drilling a strong frame all the way into one's core? Any suggestions or experiences welcome

Thanks,
Darius

 

[ElderPrice]

Curious to hear others' thoughts.

My thoughts:
1. Old habits die hard
2. Strength is something that is built - it doesn't really have a light switch that you can just flick on. I'm sure there's some tips and tricks that can help a little bit, but prepare yourself for the idea that you'll just have to go through these phases over and over again, gaining a only little bit of new strength each time you bounce back.
3. Don't put extra pressure on yourself. Everyone is imperfect. If you're getting into a serious relationship with someone, then that person should be accepting of your imperfections, and should support you as you're making the effort to work on them. If they're not, then maybe that's not a great person to select as your serious girlfriend.

 

[Derek da man]

Interesting question - my thoughts:

I agree with @ElderPrice "that old habits die hard" and you will often revert, and it may be worth looking at when this happens.

From personal experience I'm naturally an introvert but I've developed an extrovert side that I bring out. As an introvert I'm quite techy and geeky and switched on with stuff around me but am quiet and focused on what I'm doing. As an extrovert I can be outgoing, humerus, and close a woman if I want to. But, and here's my switch, being an extrovert takes a lot of energy both physically and mentally. If I'm not in the mood it is really difficult to be extrovert. Yes you can build momentum and get into a better mind frame but it is never as good as when you are there naturally. Also I've noticed that after several hours out being extroverted I get tired and when I've had enough I know it's time to go home as my game falls off rapidly.

Providing I eat healthily, get enough sleep and exercise regularly I can maintain my energy levels and be extrovert but I know I have to maintain the right balance.

That's what works for me - other may think differently.