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Hey everyone. Just got back from a party at one of my friend's house. Here's a little info before we get to the good part.
I went to a party with two of my close friends at the house of one of the friends in my extended social circle. I know him pretty well and we had some bonding and such during the party and at previous parties/gatherings. Anyways, his mom was home (we are all in high school), so there was only a little bit of drinking and stuff. Whenever someone got a drink, they'd have to go in a closet and do it secretly so we wouldn't get caught. I wound up drinking 4 mixes of pepsi and vodka in a very short amount of time, which apparently messed me up big time. I still remember everything from the night, but I was very drunk. There was probably around 12 people in total. One of the girls that I used to know kind of well, but not as well now, was there also and we were two of the only people to get really drunk. She had a lot less alcohol than I did, but she is really new to drinking (it was only her second time) and got very drunk.
Anyways, I deep-dived her really well, had very strong eye contact, and we were getting pretty physical. We talked about her interests outside of school, some about her family and her sister, and other similar things. I would also relate to what she said, and it got to be a pretty deep conversation. She also asked me the same sort of questions, and when I would respond to them she seemed very interested. We wound up on the couch next to each other, half-laying down and half-sitting up. We shared a water that one of my friends got for me while I was drunk, and it got pretty physical with a lot of touching (around her face, hands, and belly). The only problem was that a lot of the other people at the party/gathering were watching us and kind of interfering. So I couldn't go as far as I would have liked, because I knew people would interfere. We were never really able to be alone and I know for a fact that people were watching us closely and making sure we didn't do anything. But during the time we were together, I felt like we had something going on. We talked a little about her relationships, while others were still around, and she said some things like this (not exactly though):
She was drunk while saying all of this, so I'm not exactly sure what is the actual truth. Anyways, I guess I was trying to make a move, but in my honest opinion, I was pretty subtle. There was something between us, but I didn't think anybody would really pay attention. Nothing happened between us because she wound up almost passing out, and I had a bunch of shit to deal with other people at the party. As she was leaving, she gave everyone left (only a few people at that point) a hug. When we hugged, it was long and we both said we had fun tonight, but she was really out of it. Afterwards, I talked with the host and another girl (as we were the last 3 people at the party), and they said some people at the party (including themselves) thought I was trying to make a move on her. Both of them said they thought I was flirting with her, and that it looked like I was trying to make a move.
So, I have a couple questions. Firstly, what do I do with the girl? I know there was some tension between us, but I honestly don't know if she will remember anything. Should I talk to her the next time I see her, either at school or outside of school? Should I text her at all? Or should I let it drop? I don't know what the situation is with the boyfriend thing, but I am pretty confident we could have hooked up (not sex though) if other people weren't around. I'm just not sure how much the alcohol had to do with it and how she really feels. Another thing, some of the girls in the group are very over-protective and will cockblock me if I am alone with a girl who is at least a little drunk. I feel like they are judging me, and will now cockblock at every chance they get. Is there any way to stop them from cockblocking, or for me to isolate a girl without other people interfering? Any other advice for how to deal with this situation?
Thanks a ton,
Pato
I went to a party with two of my close friends at the house of one of the friends in my extended social circle. I know him pretty well and we had some bonding and such during the party and at previous parties/gatherings. Anyways, his mom was home (we are all in high school), so there was only a little bit of drinking and stuff. Whenever someone got a drink, they'd have to go in a closet and do it secretly so we wouldn't get caught. I wound up drinking 4 mixes of pepsi and vodka in a very short amount of time, which apparently messed me up big time. I still remember everything from the night, but I was very drunk. There was probably around 12 people in total. One of the girls that I used to know kind of well, but not as well now, was there also and we were two of the only people to get really drunk. She had a lot less alcohol than I did, but she is really new to drinking (it was only her second time) and got very drunk.
Anyways, I deep-dived her really well, had very strong eye contact, and we were getting pretty physical. We talked about her interests outside of school, some about her family and her sister, and other similar things. I would also relate to what she said, and it got to be a pretty deep conversation. She also asked me the same sort of questions, and when I would respond to them she seemed very interested. We wound up on the couch next to each other, half-laying down and half-sitting up. We shared a water that one of my friends got for me while I was drunk, and it got pretty physical with a lot of touching (around her face, hands, and belly). The only problem was that a lot of the other people at the party/gathering were watching us and kind of interfering. So I couldn't go as far as I would have liked, because I knew people would interfere. We were never really able to be alone and I know for a fact that people were watching us closely and making sure we didn't do anything. But during the time we were together, I felt like we had something going on. We talked a little about her relationships, while others were still around, and she said some things like this (not exactly though):
She was drunk while saying all of this, so I'm not exactly sure what is the actual truth. Anyways, I guess I was trying to make a move, but in my honest opinion, I was pretty subtle. There was something between us, but I didn't think anybody would really pay attention. Nothing happened between us because she wound up almost passing out, and I had a bunch of shit to deal with other people at the party. As she was leaving, she gave everyone left (only a few people at that point) a hug. When we hugged, it was long and we both said we had fun tonight, but she was really out of it. Afterwards, I talked with the host and another girl (as we were the last 3 people at the party), and they said some people at the party (including themselves) thought I was trying to make a move on her. Both of them said they thought I was flirting with her, and that it looked like I was trying to make a move.
So, I have a couple questions. Firstly, what do I do with the girl? I know there was some tension between us, but I honestly don't know if she will remember anything. Should I talk to her the next time I see her, either at school or outside of school? Should I text her at all? Or should I let it drop? I don't know what the situation is with the boyfriend thing, but I am pretty confident we could have hooked up (not sex though) if other people weren't around. I'm just not sure how much the alcohol had to do with it and how she really feels. Another thing, some of the girls in the group are very over-protective and will cockblock me if I am alone with a girl who is at least a little drunk. I feel like they are judging me, and will now cockblock at every chance they get. Is there any way to stop them from cockblocking, or for me to isolate a girl without other people interfering? Any other advice for how to deal with this situation?
Thanks a ton,
Pato
