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Evan

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This technique has helped me pull girls from bars this semester. I'm sure this works better on younger women than older ones (specifically college girls) but then again I haven't tried it on older women.

Basically the trick behind this technique is for you evaluate a girl on her looks, personality, lifestyle, etc. and look for whatever you can that isn't perfect about her. That gives you something to "tease" the girl about, and makes her work to impress you. I start by asking questions to get a girl talking about herself, then periodically I call her out or make fun of her on certain things. Naturally I'm a pretty laidback kind of guy so I'm lacking in the playful aspects of the game, but I've found I can beat my friends who are good at getting girls by being playful using this strategy. This technique is helpful for creating sexual tension in as I said college aged girls. The thing is you cannot overdo it or else you will fall into auto-rejection. Either way auto-rejection is an easier end of the spectrum to work your way out of than too easy, so point being mean gets you more girls than nice, especially in the bar scene.
 
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Chase

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Hey Evan,

Good technique. A lot of guys tease, but don't have any real strategy behind it, and sometimes they can do it, and sometimes they don't. Taking a moment to size her up and find something playful to remark about is a far better way of going about it.

One remark on teasing vs. auto-rejecting: you'll find that the higher in value a girl considers you compared to herself, the less teasing you can get away with, and the faster you have to switch to rapport-building and making her feel good. This can be especially disconcerting as you improve your fundamentals and other aspects of your approach with women; you'll start finding that the amount of teasing you used to do that worked perfectly is now blowing girls out left and right and they're going cold on you all of a sudden.

So, calibrate it to value: if she thinks she's a little better / more experienced / more in charge than you are, tease her a bit. If it's the other way around, you can alternately use self-deprecation to make her feel that you're "more human."

Chase
 

Rationalis

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It's incredible how spot on Chase is with rapport building if she perceives you as lower value. If a girl is one of "those girls", then you can suddenly "knock her down a few pegs" and put her on your level/display higher status. However, I have found that you can easily go overboard with this, especially if she was one of those girls that was an "ugly duckling" growing up but just recently became beautiful. Too much teasing can get you thrown out of consideration if you don't have tight game/charm but you can recover if you make lighthearted statements from then on. Great topic.
 

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Chase said:
Hey Evan,

Good technique. A lot of guys tease, but don't have any real strategy behind it, and sometimes they can do it, and sometimes they don't. Taking a moment to size her up and find something playful to remark about is a far better way of going about it.

One remark on teasing vs. auto-rejecting: you'll find that the higher in value a girl considers you compared to herself, the less teasing you can get away with, and the faster you have to switch to rapport-building and making her feel good. This can be especially disconcerting as you improve your fundamentals and other aspects of your approach with women; you'll start finding that the amount of teasing you used to do that worked perfectly is now blowing girls out left and right and they're going cold on you all of a sudden.

So, calibrate it to value: if she thinks she's a little better / more experienced / more in charge than you are, tease her a bit. If it's the other way around, you can alternately use self-deprecation to make her feel that you're "more human."

Chase

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You can really kill a girl who holds you in higher value than herself by teasing her carelessly. You really want to be careful with that. On the flip side you can really kill any chances of anything happening with a girl who perceives her value to be higher than yours if you don't challenge her in one way of another.

For me that's what being a challenge/teasing is largely all about, its a tool to be used accordingly in order to balance values and create an even perception in terms of value between you and a girl. Well, I say even, you've always got to be a little bit of a challenge, but you know what I mean.

It really is all about calibration, some guys have a natural understanding and instinct for it, some don't.
 
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