First Location: Community College
Girl 1: walking past me and at an angle, I stop to tell her she has a pretty face. She is surprised, says thank you, and keeps walking. Startled at her expediency, I just say goodbye.
To improve on: Get closer, be louder, tell her to stop or angle my body more towards her and keep asking her questions undeterred
Girl 2: not really an approach, just a girl I knew in high school that I recognized. We engage in pleasant conversation but I don't really feel like making it more than that.
To improve on: perhaps fight the feeling of apathy and make myself engaged? But when I do that before, I come off as tryhard. Maybe just takes practice?
Second Location: University Library
Girl 1: sitting at a table with her laptop. Approach her but am not super smooth. Call her cute but too afraid to say that I thought she had beautiful eyes. Nearest chair is across from her (damn, table is barrier) and off the cuff, I decide that it would be too clunky to move the chair next to her. So, I sit across from her and try to deep dive. My voice feels strained (it actually choked in the approach, she asked me if I was okay :/ ) Conversation about travel and family come up but I even though she is answering questions and I am deep diving decently, she isn't excited to tell me. My major accomplishment in this approach is in utilizing a rudimentary yes ladder. "Do you like talking to me?" "Do you like me?" "Do you want to meet up again?" I try to get the number but she only offers to get mine, which is just a nice blow-off.
To improve on: better voice, try less hard, stronger approach
Girl 2: sitting in front of a computer, I notice a girl swiveling restlessly in her chair. I use my Boredom Opener: "You look so bored, I have to rescue you somehow". Come to think of it though, this opener has never had a high rate of return, so maybe I should junk it? Maybe I should just improve the way I SAY it. It is awkward and I start feeling like I'm trying too hard and I can tell she isn't into it, so I take my leave.
To improve on: match eye level, try less (what the hell does that mean?), better opening
Summary: work on yes ladders, try less (guess it means to stop expecting outcomes and go with the flow), MUCH MORE sexy body language, look at lips, better voice
Girl 1: walking past me and at an angle, I stop to tell her she has a pretty face. She is surprised, says thank you, and keeps walking. Startled at her expediency, I just say goodbye.
To improve on: Get closer, be louder, tell her to stop or angle my body more towards her and keep asking her questions undeterred
Girl 2: not really an approach, just a girl I knew in high school that I recognized. We engage in pleasant conversation but I don't really feel like making it more than that.
To improve on: perhaps fight the feeling of apathy and make myself engaged? But when I do that before, I come off as tryhard. Maybe just takes practice?
Second Location: University Library
Girl 1: sitting at a table with her laptop. Approach her but am not super smooth. Call her cute but too afraid to say that I thought she had beautiful eyes. Nearest chair is across from her (damn, table is barrier) and off the cuff, I decide that it would be too clunky to move the chair next to her. So, I sit across from her and try to deep dive. My voice feels strained (it actually choked in the approach, she asked me if I was okay :/ ) Conversation about travel and family come up but I even though she is answering questions and I am deep diving decently, she isn't excited to tell me. My major accomplishment in this approach is in utilizing a rudimentary yes ladder. "Do you like talking to me?" "Do you like me?" "Do you want to meet up again?" I try to get the number but she only offers to get mine, which is just a nice blow-off.
To improve on: better voice, try less hard, stronger approach
Girl 2: sitting in front of a computer, I notice a girl swiveling restlessly in her chair. I use my Boredom Opener: "You look so bored, I have to rescue you somehow". Come to think of it though, this opener has never had a high rate of return, so maybe I should junk it? Maybe I should just improve the way I SAY it. It is awkward and I start feeling like I'm trying too hard and I can tell she isn't into it, so I take my leave.
To improve on: match eye level, try less (what the hell does that mean?), better opening
Summary: work on yes ladders, try less (guess it means to stop expecting outcomes and go with the flow), MUCH MORE sexy body language, look at lips, better voice
