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I completely missed on this one. Looking back on it, I was just completely oblivious. I'm angry at myself because I don't know how many more days I have like this. I might never go to a college setting party again. So let's get to it...
So I walk into a party and as soon as I walk in, a girl who was in one of my classes says hi and runs over. Ok cool. I've made out with this girl before but she stopped me saying she doesn't want to get involved with too many guys. So since she's already kind of rejected me once, I'm a little less forward this time. Looking back, I think that was a mistake.
We start talking and I get her to sit down and we talk for a while. There's some really good chemistry and she likes me. She's hitting me and talking about meeting up for the summer. But then things just fizzle out. I think I just talked to her for too long. Spell broken. But it would have been weird to invite her up so quick into the party and while her friends were leaving me alone with her, it would have been weird, I still think the best move was to invite her up. So she leaves and I do to. Pretty bad, you'd think I'd have this figured out.
Later, she comes up to me and wants to bong a beer with me and her friend, so I go get some, and she meets me upstairs and grabs my arm. She talks about how she doesn't want everyone to see her because she's embarrassed. When I looked back on this, I was so pissed I didn't see what was going on. Girl meeting me upstairs, touching me (without her friend), and saying how she wants privacy. 1+1=2, V. But oblivious me goes back downstairs, finds one of my friends and her friend and we drink together. I basically cockblocked myself. Even then, her friend and mine leave us by ourselves. I still didn't get the hint. I thought about inviting her up now, but she had just drank, it would be weird to invite her up for more alcohol. I need a new excuse to get people upstairs.
Anyways, this is what happens when you aren't always in the zone and following your process. I was a little nervous because of the failed escalation, but I really had no reason to be. I also need to realize that I should be focusing on girl's actions not their words and keep in mind the context of the situation. If she had been just a little more direct, I would have gotten it, but girls don't always just invite you back to their room.
So guys, stick to your process, keep your eyes open, and don't give up too early. Don't let a easy pull pass you by like I did here.
So I walk into a party and as soon as I walk in, a girl who was in one of my classes says hi and runs over. Ok cool. I've made out with this girl before but she stopped me saying she doesn't want to get involved with too many guys. So since she's already kind of rejected me once, I'm a little less forward this time. Looking back, I think that was a mistake.
We start talking and I get her to sit down and we talk for a while. There's some really good chemistry and she likes me. She's hitting me and talking about meeting up for the summer. But then things just fizzle out. I think I just talked to her for too long. Spell broken. But it would have been weird to invite her up so quick into the party and while her friends were leaving me alone with her, it would have been weird, I still think the best move was to invite her up. So she leaves and I do to. Pretty bad, you'd think I'd have this figured out.
Later, she comes up to me and wants to bong a beer with me and her friend, so I go get some, and she meets me upstairs and grabs my arm. She talks about how she doesn't want everyone to see her because she's embarrassed. When I looked back on this, I was so pissed I didn't see what was going on. Girl meeting me upstairs, touching me (without her friend), and saying how she wants privacy. 1+1=2, V. But oblivious me goes back downstairs, finds one of my friends and her friend and we drink together. I basically cockblocked myself. Even then, her friend and mine leave us by ourselves. I still didn't get the hint. I thought about inviting her up now, but she had just drank, it would be weird to invite her up for more alcohol. I need a new excuse to get people upstairs.
Anyways, this is what happens when you aren't always in the zone and following your process. I was a little nervous because of the failed escalation, but I really had no reason to be. I also need to realize that I should be focusing on girl's actions not their words and keep in mind the context of the situation. If she had been just a little more direct, I would have gotten it, but girls don't always just invite you back to their room.
So guys, stick to your process, keep your eyes open, and don't give up too early. Don't let a easy pull pass you by like I did here.
