"Easy" Dates

[Cam87]

Chase mentions the easy date -- where you take her to your place, make some food, watch a movie, get intimate as the general process -- in this post https://www.girlschase.com/content/date- ... ze-returns.

Does this work with girls you've never met before (e.i. online dating girls), or is it better for someone you met out before and meeting up for the first time?

 

[Estate]

No expert here but my 2 cents.

My old process was maybe like 4 "regular dates" (like dinner, movies, outting, etc..) and after that feel out the situation and try to get her to come to mine on a date or after one.
I never wanted to push it so I figured the traditional 3-4 dates and then see how much she was into it meant I wouldn't push her away too fast.

The last girl I dated, I took her to my place on date 2, told her to come over, we'll get food and watch a movie and things got pretty heated... so I pushed it faster and it worked. If I left it longer I might have been "too nice" a guy.

With that said.. I'm guessing you are talking about the first date here and you met her online? To be honest I don't think it's a great idea. She MIGHT be up for it if you frame it right but in that situation some social norms still apply. She doesn't know you in person, she doesn't know what your like, if she's attracted to you, etc...
So in that case I treat the first date as a meetup, push it but don't overdo it. The 2nd date is like your "real" first date and as she now knows you and it's not like meeting a stranger from the internet.
I'm not saying you CAN'T do it, I'm just saying it will be difficult as it gives her no way out of the date if she's not feeling it with would be uncomfortable for her.

That's my experience from online dating. If you want to use this as a way of pushing the interaction to see how far you'll get then go for it but use that as a learning process as it may not work without super strong initial attraction.

 

[Anonymous]

Hey man,

The problem with online dating, is that girls are still a little bit suspicious when they meet you. It happened to me a few times when the « online » or texting conversation went so well that the girl asked me to come to her place or vice-versa.

I would suggest you for the first date to just ask the girl to meet you in a public space (ex: the market) and from there go for a coffee. Meeting in a public space is good because the girl has a sense of security, if you're creepy there will be some other guys to protect her, etc. Then go for the coffee or tea, it's pretty basic and low pressure, after the coffee what I usually do is just « bounce » somewhere else, for example go take walk, then you can ask her casually if she wants to go play cards at your place.

Basically, the key for online dating is to meet the girl, show her that you're normal and cool. Bounce, then you can bring her to your place. That's my humble experience, but for me it works.

Takecare,

Wargrave

 

[trashKENNUT]

Hi Cam87,

Chase mentions the easy date -- where you take her to your place, make some food, watch a movie, get intimate as the general process -- in this post https://www.girlschase.com/content/date- ... ze-returns.

Does this work with girls you've never met before (e.i. online dating girls), or is it better for someone you met out before and meeting up for the first time?

Depends here. Online dating girls presumably NO, but you can try. Often girls whom i assumed not interested would be agreeable to going home or somewhere secluded with me. Sometimes it's a bit shocking, i know. If you want to be safe here, meet in public for a cup of coffee first, and see if she's open to going home with you.

Zac

 

[Cam87]

Thanks for the responses guys.

That's pretty much the feeling I'm getting: use the first date to convey I'm a cool guy and use the second date to escalate further (unless the first dates goes really well and we click).

I'm thinking it would be easier starting at home with a girl you've met out and about, talked with but didn't go home with that night, than a complete stranger. Gonna have to do some testing. Lot's of dates this week so I'll try to report back on results.

 

[trashKENNUT]

That's pretty much the feeling I'm getting: use the first date to convey I'm a cool guy and use the second date to escalate further (unless the first dates goes really well and we click).

I'm thinking it would be easier starting at home with a girl you've met out and about, talked with but didn't go home with that night, than a complete stranger. Gonna have to do some testing. Lot's of dates this week so I'll try to report back on results.

Use the first date to convey you're a cool guy and also escalate! Girls won't get back to you much even if you did good the first date.

Zac

 

[Estate]

Yes, you CAN escalate on a first date.
Just be wary that meeting someone for the first time from online has a different dynamic to going on a date with someone you met in real life before hand.
You don't have that conversation on the street or at the bar before the actual date so with good reason girls can often be sceptical.

If you want the first date to cover the first meet AND making it a real date where you can escalate... it just takes a lot of work. Don't go escalating right off the bat.
Let her get to know you, convey you are cool and later in the date try escalating. If the early part went great, the 2nd part can work. Just be cautious and read how she's reacting. Some girls will be open to it, some just won't on the first date no matter what... online dating creates a different dynamic to things, just be aware of that.

 

[Franco]

To add to the above comments...

If you want the first date to cover the first meet AND making it a real date where you can escalate... it just takes a lot of work. Don't go escalating right off the bat.
Let her get to know you, convey you are cool and later in the date try escalating. If the early part went great, the 2nd part can work. Just be cautious and read how she's reacting. Some girls will be open to it, some just won't on the first date no matter what... online dating creates a different dynamic to things, just be aware of that.

I've actually found that I've had the highest hit percentage with first date lays so far with women over online dating. I think the reason for this is that these women are HOPING to find a guy that is at least decent-looking and normal so that they can get straight to sex. This might seem counter-intuitive at first because you are meeting someone you've never met before, but a couple solid hours over coffee or a drink is usually enough for her to be ready to go home with you -- provided you hammer down on your deep-diving ability and lead her properly.

I DO completely agree, however, with not suggesting your place to meet as a first date with a girl online. The chances of a girl exposing herself to an unknown, private environment with a man she hasn't even come face to face with yet is pretty much slim to none. Meet her for coffee and then invite her back to your place (or suggest going to her's if you've read Chase's recent article on How to Go to Her Place Smoothly, Even If You Just Met).

Cheers,

Franco

 

[Chase]

I've actually found that I've had the highest hit percentage with first date lays so far with women over online dating.

This was my experience with online dating as well. I haven't done that much of it over the past few years, so maybe online's changed, but I doubt it.

The investment level of a woman in online dating is simply higher. She's having to sit, build a profile, type out responses to men, decide on and plan out dates, and run through all of this logically. It's not conducive to most women's dating and mating styles, and that "logic barrier" tends to screen out women who aren't determined and very open to meeting men. Such girls might get a profile up and running, but they quickly abandon responding to messages, sifting through the droves of suitors they attract, and determining which ones they want to go out with.

Most of the guys I've talked to who did online dating extensively agree with this too. The general sentiment in seduction circles is "online dating girls are freaks" ("freaks" here meaning the ghetto slang of "girl who really, REALLY likes sex a LOT").

While inviting her over to your place on Date 1 is probably not going to happen unless you have some truly amazing phone conversations first (and even then... probably not), it's still very easy to meet her for ice cream, coffee, pizza, or beer, and take her back to yours or hers after.

If she meets up with you, you'll be able to tell right away. If she's excited, full steam ahead - give her a token date, then get her out of there and somewhere alone with you pronto for what she really came out on that date for.

Chase