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This is kind of a ongoing thing, because I'll probably meet this girl tonight and go for it, but I want to share this to show people how easy things can be with the right fundamentals, right process, and right intuition. I probably could have done more if my logistics weren't shit (My roommate was asleep).
Background: Just an ordinary Thursday night, some drinking and friends coming over at my house. There were only six girls there for about 25 guys. Sorority recruitment is going on, so most girls can't drink/go out, which is why the number is so low. Out of those six, I didn't know two girls. Out of the other four, I had met one and had decent vibes, had hooked up with one (and now in auto-reject), friends with one, and the last girl wasn't attractive. So I made something happen even when the odds weren't in my favor.
Girl X, the girl in this report had met me before, and shown some interest. It was about a month ago and she was hammered and I was sober (LSAT studying problems). She got realllllllly close, too close, and talked my ear off. If I was drunk, I would have loved this. But being sober, I was a little put-off. I wasn't exactly sure if I wanted to go for her, and she was inches away from my face. Anyways, she kept talking until her friend realized that she was embarrassing herself and pulled her away. I could have gone for it, but I didn't. I also wasn't sure if she was someone who I wanted to sleep with. She's curvy (think 5-10 pounds from skinny, not 50 lol) and she doesn't have a killer face. But still good enough, and I've had worse. Lesson #1 here: Figure out in the first minute what you want from the girl and go for it. Anyways, I just wanted to point out that I had met this chick before, so it made things easier.
We were all playing a drinking game and she was giving me pretty strong eye contact, but nothing special. I wasn't exactly sure what I wanted, and was just chilling. I had no intention of going for her, and I made no moves. One of my fraternity brothers did though. He started getting close to her and was clearly pushing hard. She was receptive too (I think she hasn't had sex in a while/ is at that horny time of the month). My friend even told me, "They're gonna fuck".
By then I was pretty drunk and realized that girl x was my only option for talking to for the night. I'm trying to get back in "shape" and I figured she'd be good practice. I used my peripherals and I saw that she was looking at me. I gave her full eye contact, and she waves me over.
I hesitate, for a couple reasons. The first is, I want to be investing in her/chasing, but it was so small, I wasn't concerned. The second, bigger problem was I'd be cock blocking my fraternity brother. I wasn't sure but then I remembered all the times my brothers have cock blocked me or outright tried to steal my girl, and that same guy had done it to tons of people before (including one of my good friends). Plus, I knew it'd be a good way to test myself. So I thought, "Game on" and sat down.
I used the law of least effort to its fullest here. The guy was trying so hard to get the girl's full attention. Girl x would give him some attention, but then kept giving me more and more as I kept looking less and less invested. Eventually, the other guy stalled out and left. But I didn't get much alone time because as soon as one guy left, another replaced him (this was from the bad guy to girl ratio). But even with the other guy, she was clearly interested in me. From here, it was just following my process. I knew my logistics were shit, so my goal was to get her number.
It was effortless and really routine. Its funny how well things worked when I just said, "fuck it, just go with it" and went on intuition. We sang one song together, and gave each other stronggggg eye contact during the sexual parts. Then, I got her number telling her I'd let her know when she could come by tomorrow. She was obviously flattered (even surprised, because the last time I kind of blew her off) and knew the real reason why I got her number. From then, my intuition told me to move her. It was a clear transition point, but I didn't want to pull her out of the room because she clearly digging the music. If I could do it over again, I'd have told her to come with me and we could dj. Lesson #2 here: Intuition is my best friend. If you feel like its the right time to do something, you'd better do it.
It was getting late, and we jammed to one more song and she went home. I could tell she wanted to be alone with me. When I mentioned the alcohol I had in my room, she seemed really excited and I know I could have pulled her to my room, but my roommate was asleep. I actually lost a roommate and a friend two years ago because he kept having sex in the room when I was trying to sleep, so I wasn't gonna be that guy.
She left and told me to text her, and I'm going to tonight. We'll see what happens
Lessons I learned:
#1 Know what you want from a girl within a minute of meeting her. Don't miss out on an opportunity because you weren't sure what you wanted.
#2 Follow your intuition.
Lessons for others:
#1 Seduction doesn't have to be complicated. I was really sitting with that girl for 15 minutes and I got her number easily. I really did the whole thing on autopilot. Seduction should be effortless.
#2 When competing with another guy, use the law of least effort. If she likes you, you will win every time.
#3 Girls love sex. She wanted to have sex, and she probably still does. And it didn't seem like she was that picky about who it was. I'm not calling her a whore or slut here. What I want to show is if you have decent fundamentals (and mine are really rusty), and take the initiative, you WILL get interest.
EDIT: Oh, I almost forgot. For tonight, I'm gonna get her alone and deep dive ASAP and use pauses, chase frames, and sexual tension builders to communicate my intent. I want her to know that I'm interested and to make sure she doesn't auto-reject. Tonight will be the third time she's chased me, and I think she deserves a reward for her persistence. I also want to set the frame early.
Background: Just an ordinary Thursday night, some drinking and friends coming over at my house. There were only six girls there for about 25 guys. Sorority recruitment is going on, so most girls can't drink/go out, which is why the number is so low. Out of those six, I didn't know two girls. Out of the other four, I had met one and had decent vibes, had hooked up with one (and now in auto-reject), friends with one, and the last girl wasn't attractive. So I made something happen even when the odds weren't in my favor.
Girl X, the girl in this report had met me before, and shown some interest. It was about a month ago and she was hammered and I was sober (LSAT studying problems). She got realllllllly close, too close, and talked my ear off. If I was drunk, I would have loved this. But being sober, I was a little put-off. I wasn't exactly sure if I wanted to go for her, and she was inches away from my face. Anyways, she kept talking until her friend realized that she was embarrassing herself and pulled her away. I could have gone for it, but I didn't. I also wasn't sure if she was someone who I wanted to sleep with. She's curvy (think 5-10 pounds from skinny, not 50 lol) and she doesn't have a killer face. But still good enough, and I've had worse. Lesson #1 here: Figure out in the first minute what you want from the girl and go for it. Anyways, I just wanted to point out that I had met this chick before, so it made things easier.
We were all playing a drinking game and she was giving me pretty strong eye contact, but nothing special. I wasn't exactly sure what I wanted, and was just chilling. I had no intention of going for her, and I made no moves. One of my fraternity brothers did though. He started getting close to her and was clearly pushing hard. She was receptive too (I think she hasn't had sex in a while/ is at that horny time of the month). My friend even told me, "They're gonna fuck".
By then I was pretty drunk and realized that girl x was my only option for talking to for the night. I'm trying to get back in "shape" and I figured she'd be good practice. I used my peripherals and I saw that she was looking at me. I gave her full eye contact, and she waves me over.
I hesitate, for a couple reasons. The first is, I want to be investing in her/chasing, but it was so small, I wasn't concerned. The second, bigger problem was I'd be cock blocking my fraternity brother. I wasn't sure but then I remembered all the times my brothers have cock blocked me or outright tried to steal my girl, and that same guy had done it to tons of people before (including one of my good friends). Plus, I knew it'd be a good way to test myself. So I thought, "Game on" and sat down.
I used the law of least effort to its fullest here. The guy was trying so hard to get the girl's full attention. Girl x would give him some attention, but then kept giving me more and more as I kept looking less and less invested. Eventually, the other guy stalled out and left. But I didn't get much alone time because as soon as one guy left, another replaced him (this was from the bad guy to girl ratio). But even with the other guy, she was clearly interested in me. From here, it was just following my process. I knew my logistics were shit, so my goal was to get her number.
It was effortless and really routine. Its funny how well things worked when I just said, "fuck it, just go with it" and went on intuition. We sang one song together, and gave each other stronggggg eye contact during the sexual parts. Then, I got her number telling her I'd let her know when she could come by tomorrow. She was obviously flattered (even surprised, because the last time I kind of blew her off) and knew the real reason why I got her number. From then, my intuition told me to move her. It was a clear transition point, but I didn't want to pull her out of the room because she clearly digging the music. If I could do it over again, I'd have told her to come with me and we could dj. Lesson #2 here: Intuition is my best friend. If you feel like its the right time to do something, you'd better do it.
It was getting late, and we jammed to one more song and she went home. I could tell she wanted to be alone with me. When I mentioned the alcohol I had in my room, she seemed really excited and I know I could have pulled her to my room, but my roommate was asleep. I actually lost a roommate and a friend two years ago because he kept having sex in the room when I was trying to sleep, so I wasn't gonna be that guy.
She left and told me to text her, and I'm going to tonight. We'll see what happens
Lessons I learned:
#1 Know what you want from a girl within a minute of meeting her. Don't miss out on an opportunity because you weren't sure what you wanted.
#2 Follow your intuition.
Lessons for others:
#1 Seduction doesn't have to be complicated. I was really sitting with that girl for 15 minutes and I got her number easily. I really did the whole thing on autopilot. Seduction should be effortless.
#2 When competing with another guy, use the law of least effort. If she likes you, you will win every time.
#3 Girls love sex. She wanted to have sex, and she probably still does. And it didn't seem like she was that picky about who it was. I'm not calling her a whore or slut here. What I want to show is if you have decent fundamentals (and mine are really rusty), and take the initiative, you WILL get interest.
EDIT: Oh, I almost forgot. For tonight, I'm gonna get her alone and deep dive ASAP and use pauses, chase frames, and sexual tension builders to communicate my intent. I want her to know that I'm interested and to make sure she doesn't auto-reject. Tonight will be the third time she's chased me, and I think she deserves a reward for her persistence
. I also want to set the frame early.
