ending/closing conversation

[Anonymous]

So I've always been a person who has been able to hold down a conversation once it has started although bebefore finding girlschase I wasn't so good at openning I've got that down now! My main issue is closing. Many a time I have opened a girl had a good chin wag and laughs connected well, too a point I have no doubt she likes me, but then leaving the conversation akwardly , harshly or very needy.

For example i met a girl at the bus stop, we chatted on a long bus journey we chated like we knew each other for some time. Whem she was leaving she got up and said 'it was nice meeting you' looking at me, not wanting to sound needy I just stared at her and watched her exit knowing I would see her again.

I saw her again a couple weeks later and she seemed reluctant to say hello which seemed kind of confusing as I knew a lot about her and her about me due to our first meeting.

This isn't the first time this sort of thing has happened and it may not be the last, but I sure as hell want to understand why and i think its the way I close conversations. So I would like to know how to go about closing a conversation or how to go about a second meeting with someone.

This is my first post and possibly my greatest problem. I would love some good feed back from people who know chase or otherwise.
Also thank chase for this site, you can't begin to understand how much you have helped me!

 

[Anonymous]

Should I be expected replys or have I posted in the wrong place?? :/

 

[ProblemSolving]

Hey dudester,

First off, great choice in pickup spot. Bus stops have been very good to me. I have to ask, did you let her know you were interested in her? At a high point in the conversation you MUST let her know that you're interested in seeing her again, at which point you grab her number. Then you set up a simple date later on in the week.

Read Chases article on "Attraction has an Expiry Date", it's likely that she barely even remembers you. Don't think that you can have a conversation with a woman and then pick up right where you left off two weeks later. To her, you were just some friendly guy that she had a chat with, something that happens to attractive women all the time. Next time, state your interest, get her number, and move things faster. Have fun buddy!

 

[Anonymous]

Problem solving,

Nice one pal, read that article and it was enlightening and makes much more sense.
Read a couple more under fundimentals aswell just to equipt myself,but yeah I see where it went balls up. Thanks a mill

 

[Tyme2k]

Don't forget you can ALWAYS reapproach. Just because attraction expires, doesn't mean a fresh start is impossible. I think the second time you saw her it was your job to spark up the interaction again and make her comfortable.

 

[PinotNoir]

Like PS said, you should have asked for her number during a high point. https://www.girlschase.com/content/secrets-getting-girls-natural-number-swapping

If you just forgot, then you should have asked at the end at the very least or even suggest a date then. You always want a plan and a "goal" to be striving for.

1st Goal: Talk to beautiful woman
- Achieved

2nd Goal: Create high not or wait for it
Guy: ...
Girl: "Haha. That's so true! We are so similar."

3rd Goal: Find out if single
Guy: "So will your boyfriend mind you flirting with me today. "
Girl: "No, not at all. I'm single silly!"

4th Goal: This is going really way. Is she free today? Possible date now?
Guy: "Hmmm. And are you free today? When is your stop?"
Girl: "Yes, I'm free. It's just in a few blocks."
(Not much time.)

5th Goal: Get date and persist if necessary (yes-ladder example)
Guy: "Do you like being spontaneous?"
Girl: "Yes"
Guy: "And you're enjoying my company?"
Girl: "Yes"
Guy: "And it's such a lovely day, right?"
Girl: "Yes"
Guy: "Let's have an adventure. Let's get off at this next block together and enjoy a random coffee shop together."
Girl: "Sorry, no, I'm just really tired..."

6th Goal: Didn't go as planned; let's persist
Guy: "Come on. You don't want to wake up tomorrow regretting this night!"
Girl: "Mmmm, maybe. I do like talking with you."
Guy: "When's your bed time?"
Girl: "I don't have one! Haha. No, I'm sorry; I just have to wake up too early..."

7th Goal: Either not interested or actually tired; let's go for phone number
Guy: "That's fine. You got to stop putting so many hours in at the modeling agency."
Girl: "Haha, you're so sweet :"
Guy: "Let's trade contact information so that we can meet when you're awake. And trust me. You'll want to be awake. "
Girl: "Okay! My # is blah...."

This is probably an unrealistic conversation, but just an example of setting goals each time, even on failures! If she turns down even trading numbers, then it's done for.

 

[Anonymous]

Most definatley, I intend on runnunug in to her,grabbing her numer and seeing what can come of it. And about sparking the conversation I honestly expected the spark to just be there but ill just have to get rid if those sortv of expectations.

I like this goal setting idea! I do set goals jus not that many and not to that extent. Its more like chat to this girl and let's see what can come of it, ill give this way a try.
Cheers lads