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Guys,
I've been thinking about this lately.
With any girls I've been with in recent months, if you keep seeing/sleeping with her there eventually will come a time where she begins to ask or hint at where things are going.
I know the idea is to set yourself up as their lover rather than boyfriend but I feel like this just buys you time, you can't really go beyond maybe a few weeks.
Which is all ok, but how do you handle it? To be honest I haven't really "dealt" with it much, I've just let things fizzle out. I'm not sure how awesome I feel about that but it is what it is I guess unless I felt really strongly about going down the relationship route which I haven't as of yet.
I'm finding myself a little more synical. Younger me would meet a girl and be happy about it and not really look past the moment. More success in this makes me think down the line... do I want to see her any longer than just a fling? And if not, I end up holding back, I don't want her getting invested even if I'd technically like to see her again but can't immediately see her as my girlfriend. Before all that, I'd just keep seeing a girl and if a relationship forms, great. But now I know what I'm looking for, maybe I am looking for a girl that is a 10 to me but I've met some 8/9's so far... I feel like I COULD date them casually but usually I've just backed off to avoid the whole thing.
I'm not really sure how you guys handle this part of things.
I've been thinking about this lately.
With any girls I've been with in recent months, if you keep seeing/sleeping with her there eventually will come a time where she begins to ask or hint at where things are going.
I know the idea is to set yourself up as their lover rather than boyfriend but I feel like this just buys you time, you can't really go beyond maybe a few weeks.
Which is all ok, but how do you handle it? To be honest I haven't really "dealt" with it much, I've just let things fizzle out. I'm not sure how awesome I feel about that but it is what it is I guess unless I felt really strongly about going down the relationship route which I haven't as of yet.
I'm finding myself a little more synical. Younger me would meet a girl and be happy about it and not really look past the moment. More success in this makes me think down the line... do I want to see her any longer than just a fling? And if not, I end up holding back, I don't want her getting invested even if I'd technically like to see her again but can't immediately see her as my girlfriend. Before all that, I'd just keep seeing a girl and if a relationship forms, great. But now I know what I'm looking for, maybe I am looking for a girl that is a 10 to me but I've met some 8/9's so far... I feel like I COULD date them casually but usually I've just backed off to avoid the whole thing.
I'm not really sure how you guys handle this part of things.