escalation once back at your place

[lao che]

on this thread https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=10748 Explosive results asks

Nice report! It covers the initial interaction and pull very well, but unfortunately skips the escalation between getting to the hotel room and the main event.

So how did you escalate once you got her in the room? I'm assuming you didn't throw her on the bed and have your way with her the moment you got there. There was probably some intermediate steps before that...

so inspired by this i thought i'd start a thread of things we say/do once you've got her home. i'll go first but i'll preface it by emphasizing a couple of points for any newer guys -

* the escalation begins way before you get her home. she should be expecting, nay hoping for you to fuck her once you're there.

* give her space and time to get used to your place. calibrate to the girl. the only girl i've ever failed to fuck at my home was precisely because of this. i pushed too fast too soon. i realize this somewhat contradicts the preceeding point, but .... calibrate.

* i personally like afternoon dates, then it's back to mine to cook an early dinner. this is an excellent prequel to sex - you get to show her your skills, boss her around in the kitchen a bit, there's close contact, incidental touch etc. plus food itself is kinda erotic. and you're gonna be eating together alone so you can feed each other etc. however, i always aim to fuck first eat later. Fuck Eat Fuck, that's my motto. for those into nightgame then cutting up fruit for drinks serves the same purpose (credit to mr.rob https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=4&t=10387)

* have your shit together! everything neat and tidy, appropriate drinks in the appropriate place. condoms out-of-sight but conveniently located etc etc some nice plants might help ,-) but you get the picture, obviously if you don't live alone, or you're in a hotel or with your folks, same rules apply just DYB.


now, the following are all things i myself have said or done to escalate to sex

* hypnotic scanning http://krauserpua.com/2011/02/10/hypnotic-scanning/ this works pretty well. you can have her do you as well. can be fun. i don't do it anymore as it's a bit gamey and i find it unnecessary, but it can be quite fun as you can make her feel whatever you say, if your voice is good with good imagination and your EC is strong.

* "hey, come here." **hold EC, lean in, brief but pasionate kiss, maintain EC, break kiss and turn back to what you were doing. with a nonchalant smirk on your face.

* "here, help me check my grocery bill" ** put arm round girls waist, cuddle her from behind and mouth close to her ear. hold the receipt in the other hand and read, in a low voice right into her ear, "so, what's this? ok yeah, we got the tomatoes ... bla bla bla." she will be shivering with anticipation with every hot breath you take.

* take of your shirt! haha i only did this once, and only because it was hot, there was no need for me to use it as a gimmick to escalate but for sure it didn't hinder matters. like that early Simpsons episode "hey babe it's kinda hot in here mind if i take of my shirt?" haha i didn't say that i just did it. a man's home is his castle, after all. but walking around half naked and not really paying attention to your girl - if you're in good shape that's half the battle.

* get a shameless boner i can't even help it. couldn't hide it if i tried. then tell her how fucking sexy she is. "look what you did to me" "how come you're so sexy?" get up close to her and be touching, dancing slowly, holding hands, cuddling, etc (i'm almost always standing, personally. if she sits down i'll put out my hand for her to take and pull her up. "come here" and start just talking shit while holding and touching her.) so you're touching and holding her close, while blaming her for your boner. "where you come from to be so sexy?" "are all the girls from there sexy like you?" if you've ever seen Rocco Siffredi porn, (watch him before they fuck, when he meets girl "for the first time" ) that's the what the vibe should be like. totally shameless and totally appreciative of her sexiness, and totally dominant, without being a jerk. smiling, sexy voice, commanding but gentle. all you really need is "come here, baby" or "hey come over here" and then put your arm around her.

* [get small compliance test]; "thank you baby. gimme a kiss"; tap yourself on the cheek. as she moves to kiss your cheek turn your face and kiss her on the lips cheesy as fuck, i know, but i've done it countless times. best done side-by-side while arm-in-arm, or lying alongside each other on the sofa, perhaps "pass my my drink. thank you baby, gimme a kiss." job done.


my memory works when it wants to not when i want it to so i'm sure more will follow. pls add your own.

 

[lao che]

jimbo jones had mad game

http://www.animetoon.eu/the-simpsons-season-4-episode-8



skip to 17.55, or watch the whole hilarious thing

 

[Bboy100]

Great Tips Lao! Although I'm guessing this does break the 10-minute kiss rule Chase advocates.

Also, about taking your shirt off..would you recommend this only to people who have a flat stomach? Or would this work for everyone?

if you don't live alone, or you're in a hotel or with your folks, same rules apply just DYB.

What does DYB mean?

 

[lao che]

DYB is do your best, like all good boy-scouts should

I'm guessing this does break the 10-minute kiss rule Chase advocates.

not necessarily.

Also, about taking your shirt off..would you recommend this only to people who have a flat stomach? Or would this work for everyone?

what does jimbo jones have to say about this? ,-)

being in shape should be mandatory, but your behaviour should be the same whether you're fat or ripped. i've been a bit fat before, didn't stop me taking my shirt off around girls. don't get me wrong, it's not a) remove shirt b) wait for girl to pounce but if you act nonchalant, do whatever you're doing like it's no big deal, she can see that you're comfortable in your own skin and she can imagine what's coming.

i like to have girls undress me. i know they love it, especially if you're wearing a suit. if you're have a tie and a nice shirt, have her help you take it off. just like this: "hey come here. help me with this" tone and vibe are essential, of course. not bossy, commanding and gentle.

i often suggest a shower to girls. either together, or let her go first then just go in with her, despite her protestations. have her wash my back, give her a bit of a wash, then - i think this is important - get out first, and give her time to do whatever girls do in the shower. you could totally bone-down in the shower, of course. but i prefer to wait, my vibe is always unhurried, like we both know what's gonna happen so let's relish it. so i get out of the shower, dry myself off then wait for her to come to me. "come here. give me a kiss." towel drops to floor and away we go.
or if she declines a shower i might just go ahead anyway, leave her on the sofa listening to music and playing with her phone while i walk through with a towel around me, giving her space, not drawing attention to myself so she can check me out in her peripherals. then after i shower i would do something like this (bear in mind i'm not "hiding the banana" here):

stand in front of her. hold out hand. take her hand. stand her up. pull her into me, arms round her waist/ass. hold EC and say "now, what are we gonna do with you, huh?"

most of this sounds ridiculous, now i type it out, but that's pretty much how it always goes down for me. if you've laid the foundations it shouldn't be any more difficult. and if it's your place, you should be the king in your castle, and she's just a toy for you to enjoy, so you should take your time. be forward, be sexy, but that doesn't always mean you have to kiss (although the ten minute rule is a necessary guideline, esp for less experienced guys). i like to ratchet up the tension without kissing, but always with the promise of a kiss.


another thing i like, which you can use to escalate outside, too, (in quiet areas or after dark so it's more discreet, i don't hold hands or kino much in busy areas, but i'm not doing bar/night game so ..... that's different) is holding hands, so her R hand in your L, then you pass her R hand behind your back, to your own R hand and take her L hand in your L hand so that she's walking behind you. from there you wrap her arms around your waist so she's walking/standing behind you with her arms round you. this is intimate and kinda fun. especially if you're walking somewhere tranquil, talking nonsense to each other. you have to lean back and talk over your shoulder to her, which sets a nice frame, i think.


"what do you like about him? he's just a good-looking rebel who plays by his own rules"

 

[lux7]

* "here, help me check my grocery bill" ** put arm round girls waist, cuddle her from behind and mouth close to her ear. hold the receipt in the other hand and read, in a low voice right into her ear, "so, what's this? ok yeah, we got the tomatoes ... bla bla bla." she will be shivering with anticipation with every hot breath you take.

Check the grocery bill?
High risk of coming across like a cheapo

 

[HellAtlantic]

* "here, help me check my grocery bill" ** put arm round girls waist, cuddle her from behind and mouth close to her ear. hold the receipt in the other hand and read, in a low voice right into her ear, "so, what's this? ok yeah, we got the tomatoes ... bla bla bla." she will be shivering with anticipation with every hot breath you take.

Check the grocery bill?
High risk of coming across like a cheapo

Ha, if you think that's bad then you definitely won't like all the advice in this website about letting the girl pay for her own drink. A stark reminder that this place isn't one size fits all since there's far more broke college guys here than ppl with a job in their 30s. Oh well. Like anything in life you take what advice you can use and disregard what doesn't work or make sense.

 

[lao che]

well, i thought this thread had died the quiet, unceremonious death it probably deserved


my grocery bills are in chinese which i don't read well, but as for coming off cheap - you seem to have missed the point. i used to make my girlfriend squirm just by telling her a recipe for bolognese. anything can be sexy, it's not about the words. hence, the supermarket receipt.

 

[Chase]

I expanded on Lao Che's point about the grocery list here:

Make Boring Stuff Flirting Stuff

So if you're not sure how checking a grocery list relates to flirting, hopefully this post makes it a fair bit more obvious.

Lao Che, nice post! "Thanks baby, gimme a kiss" is creative - haven't seen that one before. Very nice.

Chase