Establishing deep similarity with girls

[Whiteheart]

Analyzing my previous interactions with girls I have discovered why some girls were interested in me and others not although I had similar level of fundamentals and game. From my experience main reason why guy ends up in friend zone with girls who want long term boyfriends is that they do not feel similar enough on emotional level, i.e. their personality mismatches. Many times I established similarity with girl focused on interests or experiences, built arousal on different ways and still ended in friend zone without one single date. Also, other times we had much less similarity based on interests or experiences but we were similar on the way we think and feel about world and they were much more opened for something romantic with me. By the other world girls who are naturally genuine, selfish, hardworking, lazy, sensitive, kind, etc. mostly want the same guy like they are. Women often sense these things by the way man speaks, facial expressions, etc. and it is hard to trick them.

For example, I am naturally genuine, kind, sensitive and little bit introverted guy and only girls with these personalities were interested in me in past 10 years. Yesterday I was talking with girl for 15 minutes. We were both career oriented, do the same job, go the same sport etc. I gave her eye contact, we were joking, touching etc. but my vibe showed me as sensitive and kind man while her vibe was more flirtatious, little bit selfish and extroverted. And I was friend zoned somewhere about 3 minutes into conversation.
My questions for you today are: 1. Is there a way to bypass obstacle that personality I have and personality she has are different? 2. Is there a way that man can present his characteristics properly so to have more time to game girls and avoid friend zone?

 

[Chase]

@Blackheart,

Yes, you can adapt your personality to that of women's.

There's a sales and management tool called 'Social Styles' that's a useful example of this. Good article on it here:

Social Styles

Here is a model that is used to understand four different social styles.

changingminds.org

Once you understand these basic different personality types, you can adapt yourself to others. e.g., sounds like you might fall into the 'amiable' box, while the flirty girl is 'expressive' or 'driver'. If you can quickly assess someone else's personality, then adjust your behavior to match, she will get that "two peas in a pod" kind of similarity feeling.

If you do enough cold approach seduction you will sort of intuitively just work this out anyway.

But you can jump start it with a tool like social styles (or my '4 Kinds of Girls' graph):

The 4 Kinds of Girls and Which Ones YOU Should Go For

One of the series I introduced on here a while back - only to ever do two real articles in it - was on girl types... some of the different kinds of girls, that is. We've had some requests to do more articles like these, and I wanted to put together one here that's a primer of the four basic...

www.girlschase.com

Just takes a little time figuring out personalities and tweaking and adjusting yours as you come into contact with different ones, and you become much more adaptable.

Chase