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hi guys please give your opinions on this. Their were a few girls I were quite interested in late last year in my school and despite that we are feeling the "chemistry" I just keep repressing my emotions for them.in one case last year me and a male classmate were working on a project and them the girl and him start discussing. Out of nowhere she says I going to be her boyfriend when she breaks up with her boyfriend. Whoa! being an avid reader of this blog I knew that this was clearly her expressing her interest in me . well what happened was that since I haven't experience this before I fumbled the ball woefully .luckily ,her male friend said something and she started saying well he didn't say no! Then we started laughing it out. Despite this I till this day I haven't approached her ,escalation windows have passed, and I still rue not making use of that chance.
their was another instance where I deep dived on a girl I wasn't really but since I was new to the school I decided to be social .well after two days of deep diving I repressed any feels I had for her and reduced the rate in which I talked to her, trying to decide between two girls who were chasing me . well after that a few months later my interest in that girl spiked ,I ended up lasting till the last day of school for that "perfect chance" that I almost missed and got her number. Long story short(due to lack of planning/experience and over-powering emotions)I called her failed to set up a date and ended up spending my whole summer break wondering why she never picked up the phone. Good news is I analyzed even thing and found out what went wrong and learned a lot from it .
I think the main reason I don't express my emotions with girls in high school is because most of the time the girls the I am attracted to are in my class and should I fail don't want what happened to be spread like fire throughout the whole school or an odd feeling between us causing unwanted embarrassment.so my question is should I express the desire of the heart and possibly be ridiculed or should I repress the desires of the heart and wait it out while it builds inside me and just wait for it to mellow out? But not only for girls but also other desires of the heart in general?
their was another instance where I deep dived on a girl I wasn't really but since I was new to the school I decided to be social .well after two days of deep diving I repressed any feels I had for her and reduced the rate in which I talked to her, trying to decide between two girls who were chasing me . well after that a few months later my interest in that girl spiked ,I ended up lasting till the last day of school for that "perfect chance" that I almost missed and got her number. Long story short(due to lack of planning/experience and over-powering emotions)I called her failed to set up a date and ended up spending my whole summer break wondering why she never picked up the phone. Good news is I analyzed even thing and found out what went wrong and learned a lot from it .
I think the main reason I don't express my emotions with girls in high school is because most of the time the girls the I am attracted to are in my class and should I fail don't want what happened to be spread like fire throughout the whole school or an odd feeling between us causing unwanted embarrassment.so my question is should I express the desire of the heart and possibly be ridiculed or should I repress the desires of the heart and wait it out while it builds inside me and just wait for it to mellow out? But not only for girls but also other desires of the heart in general?
