Ex's team up

[Whizzy]

Hello Everyone!

So as of yesterday I found out that two of my ex's became best friends and their favorite topic is how much they hate me. I'm perfectly fine with that, however after messaging me on facebook yesterday one of them decided to post our conversation on there for everyone to see. I didn't say anything in the conversation that was insulting, in fact i just make stupid sayings in response since I wasn't too keen on fighting. However she went on about how heartless I am, was never loved etc etc because one of them asked me to honestly tell her why I broke up with her and I responded with the fact that I am not attracted to her physically. I'm looking to diffuse this situation before it can get any worse but they seem really stubborn so I'm unsure of how to do so unless I just ignore them being silly and let things blow over?

 

[trashKENNUT]

Whizzy,

one of them asked me to honestly tell her why I broke up with her and I responded with the fact that I am not attracted to her physically. I'm looking to diffuse this situation before it can get any worse but they seem really stubborn so I'm unsure of how to do so unless I just ignore them being silly and let things blow over?

You shouldn't have fallen into the trap of her asking you why you broke up with her. Women pairing with women can brings lots of dramatical( don't know if the word exist. ) shit that one cannot imagine.

Well, i say let things blow over, and being neutral and protecting yourself.

Zac

 

[Whizzy]

That's what I figured, if they're pissed and just want to fight talking can only make things worse

 

[Vash]

Are you dating women or girls? They're acting like little children over this, and even of you did mess up and tell her why you broke up, you're a busy man, you don't have time for this drama. Play it cool, and just ignore them. If they criticize you, just shrug and walk away.

 

[Tyme2k]

Bro, use this shit! this is such an awesome opportunity to use the "drama". julien from RSD stems his game off drama. What you have here is TWO women that have nothing better to do than think about YOU!

This should show you abundance, use it. Go talk to other women and in your mind know that there are multiple women that cant stop thinking about you. Enough so you have to turn them down. The new girls will sense this and you can even mention it. I would lol. Be like "girls are so crazy, I have these two exes that have nothing better to do but attempt to talk shit about me on fb.. They are so needy and attached it's embarrassing. You don't get like this do you?"

Embrace it and continue, have fun with it.

 

[trashKENNUT]

Whizzy,

while i have to agree with Tyme2k on this great opportunity, i shall remind you what to do if there's a downside.

Don't get yourself get drag out if they get ugly. Be indifferent, don't explain yourself, call out on their bullshit, make it short, draw a line, be neutral and exit yourself.

I had women do this, and basically all of them shut up after i call out on it.

Zac

 

[Estate]

Hello Everyone!

So as of yesterday I found out that two of my ex's became best friends and their favorite topic is how much they hate me. I'm perfectly fine with that, however after messaging me on facebook yesterday one of them decided to post our conversation on there for everyone to see. I didn't say anything in the conversation that was insulting, in fact i just make stupid sayings in response since I wasn't too keen on fighting. However she went on about how heartless I am, was never loved etc etc because one of them asked me to honestly tell her why I broke up with her and I responded with the fact that I am not attracted to her physically. I'm looking to diffuse this situation before it can get any worse but they seem really stubborn so I'm unsure of how to do so unless I just ignore them being silly and let things blow over?

Hey man,
Before ever venturing into or even knowing about Game I had two different experiences of bitter exes. It wasn't the Ex's teaming up, but it was my Ex and several of her friends dragging my name through the dirt, telling everyone they could, everything they could about me, true or not, and using social media (remember when Bebo was the facebook of the time?) to CONSTANTLY post things about me directly and indirectly. I had some of the worst accusations any girl could throw at a guy(yes, think the worst thing I girl could possibly accuse you of...) posted for the world to see (there were no access controls like FB today), we shared a lot of similar people in our lives and lived in a small town.

That was a long time ago though. At the time I admittedly nearly lost my mind it was so bad at times, it was constant, all day, every day. Every time I logged on to my computer at ANY time of day or night there was something new to see.
I had no idea what to do... some people told me ignore them, but ignoring them only made the ramp it up so that'd I'd respond. I tried responding and defending myself but it would never end as long as I kept engaging them.

This was just the worst time of my life, only to have it happen again a few years later with another girl only I handled it better the second time.

The ONLY advice here... WALK AWAY!!!!

It sucks, I know it does. It feels like people must believe this stuff if you don't defend yourself... but that's not the case whatsoever.
Have you ever seen girls posting crap about someone else or their misery about a breakup online? What did you think? NOTHING... I bet you couldn't care less and wished she'd shut the hell up and stop posting this crap.
Bottom line is... Nobody cares!

Sure, a few people who were on the girls side had a bad opinion of me for a while but they weren't friends anyway.

But something crazy happened 2 years ago. I went home for Christmas and bumped into some of her old friends in a nightclub... I just turned to walk away but they grabbed me and wanted to talk... I pulled away saying NO, I don't want to hear it but they insisted I hear them out...
... I listened and they told me they were SORRY. I literally was like "WHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAT?"
They said that they were her friends at the time and obviously believed her stories but that the fact that she COULD NOT LET IT GO and apparently went on about it for YEARS after and went crazy on other guys too... they learned what she was like. They learned none of that stuff was true and they just wanted to say sorry, they didn't realise what she was like at the time but since then have learned what a nutbag she is because she could not let it go.

At the end of the day... these girls are making themselves look bad, not you.
Even when people break up, you don't post these things online.
When you DO post these things people seeing it either don't care, don't beleive it or just roll their eyes at the little girl being a drama queen on Facebook.

Sorry that was long winded but this topic is close to my heart. It broke me at one point the abuse was so bad...
But the only advice I can give is WALK AWAY and DO NOT ENGAGE THEM... people will make up their own minds.
The fact that you can just get on with your life and not act like a drama queen all over facebook tells people a lot more about you than these girls can ever say.

 

[Vash]

To me, they just seem like attention whores, so engaging them is just giving them exactly what they want and add more fuel to the fire. Tyme is right though. They really have nothing better to do but obsess over you. It's up to you how you wanna go about this though man.