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Hello, everyone!
I am new on this board, but I have start reading the blog for a few months.

When I read the post titled "How to get girls: the last post you'll ever need"
There's one thing that really confuses me.

The thing is, I'm in a place where having sex outside marriage is asking for trouble. Even PDA is actually forbidden, set aside making love.(yeah, there's people that just don't care about the law, but even this people will hesitate when it comes to bedding girl). Twisted logic here, since if I just wanna kiss a girl, I should do it in private place and hope things won't escalate to making out and then start getting 'worse'. lol.. yeah, seriously...

I'm still young to go anywhere and to be honest, not that eager to have sex.

The question(s) is:
What should I do to close the game, so I can make her mine, and then spend more time with her later, while avoiding the bf dilemma and the friendzone in the whole process? What must I give to a girl to make her mine without making her sleep with me? Can I just kiss close her and call it the end? How about the girls that just won't kiss me no matter what (even if they're really into me)?
 

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Hi dotm,

I'd be really curious to know where you are that forbids PDA or sexual intercourse... it sounds like a very sad place to be!

That being said, you are also probably in a situation where the women around you are sexually starved and lacking the physical attention necessary by a man to be truly happy and satisfied. This can play to your advantage.

And no matter where you are, private places are where you should always kiss a girl and escalate if possible -- mostly to put her at ease and protect her reputation.

You will have to physically escalate though. There was a topic that was recently posted and is closely related to this. You should definitely check it out here:

https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=3&t=332&p=1589#p1528

- Franco
 
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Thanks for the response, Franco. Currently reading the escalating stuff for a while now.

Just above Australia. Things are pretty tight here, but to be honest, the rules and laws are actually really easy to break without anyone knowing and then you can get away with it (especially if you have money). Damn! There I go... degrading my own great country. (no sarcasm here)

Seems I can't play the game then, haha.. at least for now.
My logistics aren't good enough, and I don't want to risk many things or get into a big mess with my family, or seeing my dream girl go away, since I can't take her as a lover and can't satisfied her..
(I'm still young.. like really, really young. I don't even know if I actually could/should read this stuff or not. lol)
"Being a risk-taker is good," said my Capoeira teacher. "But you must know the line between taking risk and doing suicide. And if you have already know that you will be seriously injured before doing something, and you do it.. You're either a fake people that always please the crowd or simply an idiot.. or maybe both. lol "

Gotta play this the traditional bf/gf society style then, maybe with a little hypermodern game twist, and keep moving fast until I kiss her then see if she really deserves my time to be my gf or let the attraction wanes and make her vanishes from my life (or make me vanishes from her life).
 

Lanoa

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dotm said:
Gotta play this the traditional bf/gf society style then, maybe with a little hypermodern game twist, and keep moving fast until I kiss her then see if she really deserves my time to be my gf or let the attraction wanes and make her vanishes from my life (or make me vanishes from her life).
Be careful about bedding girls that are expecting you to become their boyfriend. If you somehow get past the BF guard system, it is practically impossible to leave the situation afterwards without emotional drama and an hurt girl provided you don't want to be exclusive.
 

Chase

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Hey dotm,

dotm said:
The thing is, I'm in a place where having sex outside marriage is asking for trouble. Even PDA is actually forbidden, set aside making love.(yeah, there's people that just don't care about the law, but even this people will hesitate when it comes to bedding girl). Twisted logic here, since if I just wanna kiss a girl, I should do it in private place and hope things won't escalate to making out and then start getting 'worse'. lol.. yeah, seriously...

I'm not entirely clear on the law in Indonesia, but I know that Sharia law only applies to Muslim women there, so you can probably get around that if you're dating ethnic Chinese. Although, I understand there is some prejudice there against ethnic Chinese and you may have a preference for native Indonesian / Muslim women... if that's the case, yes, you might be stuck. In Malaysia, which follows Sharia law as well, the general advice is if you're going to sleep with a native Malaysian girl, just make sure she isn't one of the ones wearing a headscarf; I'd imagine it's probably something similar in Indonesia, although the law and religion there do seem to be more strict in some parts. You might also consider heading to Bali, where the population is native Indonesian but predominantly Hindu, and Sharia law is not in force.

In any event, most of the enforcement of couples not being alone together in Indo seems to be largely aimed at adultery from what I've seen, not so much at young couples in love, which means you're probably okay unless you're dating married women ;)

dotm said:
The question(s) is:
What should I do to close the game, so I can make her mine, and then spend more time with her later, while avoiding the bf dilemma and the friendzone in the whole process? What must I give to a girl to make her mine without making her sleep with me? Can I just kiss close her and call it the end? How about the girls that just won't kiss me no matter what (even if they're really into me)?

Well, the problem is, everything between men and women centers around sex. That's why Islamic countries, where premarital sex is forbidden, keep men and women so separated - because sex is what naturally occurs between two humans of reproductive age who fancy each other good mates. This is also why, in cultures where premarital sex is forbidden (and with a couple that isn't willing to break societal norms), couples are typically in a big hurry to get married as soon as possible (they're going to do whatever they have to do to get to sex).

What that means is, when you meet a girl who likes you, if you can't be together physically, either she's going to lose interest... or she's going to become inflamed with passion and want desperately for the two of you to be wed. And those, really, are the only two choices, when physical intimacy is off the table.

Chase
 

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Chase,

Chase said:
Well, the problem is, everything between men and women centers around sex. That's why Islamic countries, where premarital sex is forbidden, keep men and women so separated - because sex is what naturally occurs between two humans of reproductive age who fancy each other good mates. This is also why, in cultures where premarital sex is forbidden (and with a couple that isn't willing to break societal norms), couples are typically in a big hurry to get married as soon as possible (they're going to do whatever they have to do to get to sex).

What that means is, when you meet a girl who likes you, if you can't be together physically, either she's going to lose interest... or she's going to become inflamed with passion and want desperately for the two of you to be wed. And those, really, are the only two choices, when physical intimacy is off the table.

You know it's funny that history, women and men relations have always been about sex. and she's lost interest is something nobody explains true in its form until you did. Glad Girlschase existed. Really. :)

Zac
 
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