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Space Monkey
space monkey
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Unfortunately, again tinder from me, but this time I little bit different.

On Valentine's day, cca 9:30,came from gym and girl with which i have matched cca week ago and I was busy to schedule date texted me to join her and HER FRIENDS on party.

I am all in for fun, wasn't expecting sex but interesting experience, try some routines..

Could not find club (her mistake, women and navigation...:)), she waited me Infront.(i was frustrated from cold and searching it but trying my best to be in mood)

We greet and I told her i knew one bar near (to be honest, i wasn't against joining her friends group or going to club but, i was expecting exactly that but..she agreed) so we went...start was very similar to normal date, i kissed her but convo was like from coffee shop, bye SHE DIDN'T DRINK.

Cca after 5mins(minute from bar i knew) she was like we should join girls, (convo was probably too over the top from me), i was chill with her but told her bar is near.


Btw is cca 11pm

In bar, she started flirting BUT DIDN'T put her coat off(obviously i think that i am ugly). Very hard to keep confidence up.
We were flirting (her long legs, she was touchy , boring classics like show me your necklace or earings worked)

Then she told me she is hot(warm) enough and told me to TOUCH HER NECK. I proceed and play with it, switched to choking position (but didn't squeeze). That was too much, i know but it was acknowledged risk.
She after second moved gently my hand.

We flirted after, she was looking for dentist or it guy (i am) i told her we are worst she should go for football player (i used to play) I was negging her that i don't like good girls who don't drink or do choking. She asked about what i do i free time,i fi like to dance and then asked me to go dance with her and girlfriends to dance club.

I told her i like her company there, it's nice to have her next to me( i could be more percussive) and we should continue here, with girls, then she explained that they took days off to go out and dance. I was not happy and told her that's ok. She left.


2days later i texted her on tinder we should go for coffee/drink.

What date would you advice and what attitude
 
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a good date brings a smile to your lips... and hers

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Tool-Bearing Hominid
Tool-Bearing Hominid
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1. Don't date on Valentine's Day. (It's too loaded)

2. What does cca mean

3. The 'date' (it's not a date) after matching is at best an interview. Would advise not to get involved with people's shit unless a) you know the people and/or b) you know their shit. Hope you enjoyed your chilly club walk, at least she came to find you, some wouldn't have bothered...

3a. You can sometimes move to straight sex from the 'interview.'

3b. Don't bring 'em in the club. (credit R Kelly 2007)

3c. Don't let women run logistics. Logistics are not only your responsbility and benefit you, they are also your tool. They're a gift, even if challenging sometimes.

4. Get off offline. In person dating is better.
 

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Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
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Unfortunately, again tinder from me, but this time I little bit different.

On Valentine's day, cca 9:30,came from gym and girl with which i have matched cca week ago and I was busy to schedule date texted me to join her and HER FRIENDS on party.

I am all in for fun, wasn't expecting sex but interesting experience, try some routines..

Could not find club (her mistake, women and navigation...:)), she waited me Infront.(i was frustrated from cold and searching it but trying my best to be in mood)

We greet and I told her i knew one bar near (to be honest, i wasn't against joining her friends group or going to club but, i was expecting exactly that but..she agreed) so we went...start was very similar to normal date, i kissed her but convo was like from coffee shop, bye SHE DIDN'T DRINK.

Cca after 5mins(minute from bar i knew) she was like we should join girls, (convo was probably too over the top from me), i was chill with her but told her bar is near.


Btw is cca 11pm

In bar, she started flirting BUT DIDN'T put her coat off(obviously i think that i am ugly). Very hard to keep confidence up.
We were flirting (her long legs, she was touchy , boring classics like show me your necklace or earings worked)

Then she told me she is hot(warm) enough and told me to TOUCH HER NECK. I proceed and play with it, switched to choking position (but didn't squeeze). That was too much, i know but it was acknowledged risk.
She after second moved gently my hand.

We flirted after, she was looking for dentist or it guy (i am) i told her we are worst she should go for football player (i used to play) I was negging her that i don't like good girls who don't drink or do choking. She asked about what i do i free time,i fi like to dance and then asked me to go dance with her and girlfriends to dance club.

I told her i like her company there, it's nice to have her next to me( i could be more percussive) and we should continue here, with girls, then she explained that they took days off to go out and dance. I was not happy and told her that's ok. She left.


2days later i texted her on tinder we should go for coffee/drink.

What date would you advice and what attitude

You should not have agreed to date with a bunch of her friends, that was the major mistake... and you should not choke too high risk move and talk about that, cause you don't know if she is into that...

You can study what i advice for dates here, extremely high odds...
 
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