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So I’ve been dealing with a consistent problem with hooking during night game. Over the course of night gaming a lot during the past 4 months or so, I narrowed my biggest issue down to this one. I also recently noticed that alcohol really helps with it but I’m trying to game sober.
Here’s one scenario of how this problem manifests on the field:
I’m dancing with my friends on the dance floor in my regular night game venue when I decide to leave them to take a piss. On my way to the bathroom, I make eye contact with this hot brown Australian girl. We held the eye contact for like 2-3 seconds and while holding it, I walk up to her and open her. She tells me her name and it was totally different from what I expected - she was so obviously brown and her name was so obviously white/basic. I wanted to tell her that but I thought it might be rude so I didn’t. Looking back, I think I should have.
I could tell she was interested so we make some small talk (where are you from? Why did you go to school here? Etc - the basic small talk you have in college)
Then her friends, one guy and a girl, come over and I ask her to introduce me. She does and I decided it was a good time to isolate (I think I might have isolated too early here - we had only been talking for like 2-3 minutes and she didn’t seem officially hooked yet. I isolated because the dancefloor was too loud for a conversation)
She said she was too sober and I tell her we need to catch up with everyone else so we’ll go do shots. Her friends approve and we leave to the bar part of the venue for shots. After taking shots, I don’t really know where to take the conversation and even though I get the feeling that she’s interested, i just can’t shake off the fact that the conversation feels like an interview (I probably should have ignored this feeling and pushed ahead or adjusted the conversation)
To make it worse, her friends come and now it feels like I have to make conversation with them too so I do that a little bit. After about a minute or two, her friends decide to go back to the dancefloor and she follows them without asking me if I wanted to join. I decided to follow them as well but I could tell that I had lost control of the set. When we get to the dance floor, I start to get the feeling that I’m that annoying stranger latching onto them so I just grab her number and tell her I’m going to join my friend.
I would love to get some insights on this because this is how a significant portion of my sets at night game go. I think I filter myself too much and I’m stuck in my head. Is there anything I did wrong that ruined the vibe in the set or my internal momentum? Anything I can do to help me be more present
I’ve gotten a lot of reps but more reps don’t seem to help at this point. They just damage my confidence because I expect every set to go like this now
Here’s one scenario of how this problem manifests on the field:
I’m dancing with my friends on the dance floor in my regular night game venue when I decide to leave them to take a piss. On my way to the bathroom, I make eye contact with this hot brown Australian girl. We held the eye contact for like 2-3 seconds and while holding it, I walk up to her and open her. She tells me her name and it was totally different from what I expected - she was so obviously brown and her name was so obviously white/basic. I wanted to tell her that but I thought it might be rude so I didn’t. Looking back, I think I should have.
I could tell she was interested so we make some small talk (where are you from? Why did you go to school here? Etc - the basic small talk you have in college)
Then her friends, one guy and a girl, come over and I ask her to introduce me. She does and I decided it was a good time to isolate (I think I might have isolated too early here - we had only been talking for like 2-3 minutes and she didn’t seem officially hooked yet. I isolated because the dancefloor was too loud for a conversation)
She said she was too sober and I tell her we need to catch up with everyone else so we’ll go do shots. Her friends approve and we leave to the bar part of the venue for shots. After taking shots, I don’t really know where to take the conversation and even though I get the feeling that she’s interested, i just can’t shake off the fact that the conversation feels like an interview (I probably should have ignored this feeling and pushed ahead or adjusted the conversation)
To make it worse, her friends come and now it feels like I have to make conversation with them too so I do that a little bit. After about a minute or two, her friends decide to go back to the dancefloor and she follows them without asking me if I wanted to join. I decided to follow them as well but I could tell that I had lost control of the set. When we get to the dance floor, I start to get the feeling that I’m that annoying stranger latching onto them so I just grab her number and tell her I’m going to join my friend.
I would love to get some insights on this because this is how a significant portion of my sets at night game go. I think I filter myself too much and I’m stuck in my head. Is there anything I did wrong that ruined the vibe in the set or my internal momentum? Anything I can do to help me be more present
I’ve gotten a lot of reps but more reps don’t seem to help at this point. They just damage my confidence because I expect every set to go like this now
