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Hi,
I'm 29 years old and started pick up last year. I also had some more or less good results. Last year in summer I approached like 50 girls and got 4 dates out of it. I made out with one girl, but she told me she doesn't want sex before marriage and so on. With the other girls the dates were also good but they were exchange students, so they had to leave the country again. But whatever, my BIGGEST obstacle of all is that I can't approach girls when people are around. I feel like I have to not only entertain the girl, but also the people who could be hearing all of this. And this is really a problem. My game and appearance are ok I think, I get some looks during the day.
But going out to streetgame is very terrible because my approach number is super low. There were days where I was out for like 6 hours and could only approach 1-2 girls. I have no fear at all to talk to girls who walk alone with no people around, but when I have the feeling that people could be watching I'm super scared.
My usual opener is "Hi I think you look very cool, I just wanted to say hi, how are you?" or similar openers. This is really a huge problem, and I don't know how to get around this. Saying to myself "Just don't give a fuck what people think" is not really working. Same situation at my university (I'm still studying with part-time job). Every now and then a girl start a conversation with me when I'm at a seminar and they sit next to me, but I can't really be myself because of this stupid fear of being judged for what I say.
I know it's irrational, but I can't help myself. Any advice? I thought about to open the girls in a more indirect way like asking for a direction or something. But the problem with this is that I have to change at sometime to direct, because otherwise the girls really don't know what I'm up to. And it's kind of lame to use such an excuse to cold approach a girl. But this would be more socially acceptable if other people hear it.
Greetings from Germany !
I'm 29 years old and started pick up last year. I also had some more or less good results. Last year in summer I approached like 50 girls and got 4 dates out of it. I made out with one girl, but she told me she doesn't want sex before marriage and so on. With the other girls the dates were also good but they were exchange students, so they had to leave the country again. But whatever, my BIGGEST obstacle of all is that I can't approach girls when people are around. I feel like I have to not only entertain the girl, but also the people who could be hearing all of this. And this is really a problem. My game and appearance are ok I think, I get some looks during the day.
But going out to streetgame is very terrible because my approach number is super low. There were days where I was out for like 6 hours and could only approach 1-2 girls. I have no fear at all to talk to girls who walk alone with no people around, but when I have the feeling that people could be watching I'm super scared.
My usual opener is "Hi I think you look very cool, I just wanted to say hi, how are you?" or similar openers. This is really a huge problem, and I don't know how to get around this. Saying to myself "Just don't give a fuck what people think" is not really working. Same situation at my university (I'm still studying with part-time job). Every now and then a girl start a conversation with me when I'm at a seminar and they sit next to me, but I can't really be myself because of this stupid fear of being judged for what I say.
I know it's irrational, but I can't help myself. Any advice? I thought about to open the girls in a more indirect way like asking for a direction or something. But the problem with this is that I have to change at sometime to direct, because otherwise the girls really don't know what I'm up to. And it's kind of lame to use such an excuse to cold approach a girl. But this would be more socially acceptable if other people hear it.
Greetings from Germany !
