Feeling entitled after having had success

[Jan]

Some call it momentum. Some call it success.

Either way, I have realised that after a period of time when I had made progress both in the process and outcome, it comes a period when my success drops fast and steep. This happens several times in the past. If you drew a success chart on a timescale you would see the chart going up above the most recent highs, and then drop just slightly above lows, then it would go up above the highs and drop again.

I assume that this phenomenon comes from the FEELING OF ENTITLEMENT. Basically, what happens is that my subconscious mind somehow assumes that because I had these recent success, I don't really need to do as much as I did in the past to achieve the success again. As a consequence, QUALITY OF THE PROCESS drops. And because the process drops, RESULTS CANNOT COME.

I have only become aware of this recently, so I would like to ask if any of you guys have also experienced this, and found any good solution, how to overcome this, in order to REACH HIGHER CONSISTENCY.

Peace

 

[DoWhatWorks]

Good topic & very real phenomena.

Short answer: Stick to your process *unless* you’re experimenting to improve.

Easy to get sloppy & skip steps when confidence or even arrogance is high. Results slump then after tightening the process it goes up again.

I wrote about it here on pride comes before the fall FR

It’s hard to avoid because that arrogant “I can fuck whoever I want mentality” gets intoxicating

 

[Don Giovanni]

It’s a thing in all fields not just pick up.

Just wanna add here that it can manifest micro and macro.

A recent example…

Just turned a yellow into a green lead on text. That got my confidence high. Approached a set and got ignored because of a bad angle/ she saw me in scavanger mode. After that opened a hot 2 set, receptive as well but ran the worst verbal game. All because I was trying to wing it, because “I’m that dude” resulted in no strategy and beginner mistakes.

Just a reminder that we tend to put way too much emphasis on mood. We tend to overestimate or underestimate our capabilities. It’s hard to be realistic.

Moral of the story? Be rational, don’t think with your emotions.

 

[SexualHero]

Approaching and seducing women is skill that needs to constantly nurtured. You can look at like going to the gym. If you just stop suddenly then overtime all your muscle gains will disappear.

 

[Lobo]

You need to stay hungry.

I do this by making goals that are impossible. It works for me.

But I do get complacent from time to time. When that happens I watch this.
The metaphor there hits hard.

The paralysis success breeds is fatal, so you need to reality check yourself for a moment and realize your just one step closer and you still have work to do.

 

[TomInHo]

I agree with this 100%

After a string of successes you can get a sense of entitlement and start getting sloppy with your process due to arrogance. But in a weird way those dips are very important for your development in seduction. Because they teach what really matters and what doesn't

So if you stay consistent during the dip, you will usually correct yourself and get even better results later, due to the lessons you learned during the dip.