Feeling pessimistic

[Red]

I find myself being unable to approach out of pessimism. I've had a run of bad luck and it's affecting my confidence. I know you get more no's than until that yes, but I need some tips to keep my confidence up in the thin times.

 

[Will_V]

The same as you do when you run out of motivation in any other endeavour. Set clear goals, create a routine, track progress, and improve incrementally.

 

[ulrich]

Make it fun.
If approaching is fun, you will get motivated to approach because every interaction is a net win.

 

[Kaida]

I think it’s really just a matter of your perspective. Your Ls keep feeding into a negative loop because you are the one interpreting them as a loss. Instead, try and find a way to frame them as a win in your mind so you can benefit from the winner effect.

I’m a beginner as well. In my approaches I’ve faced a lot of awkwardness and rejections, but I still come out of them feeling slightly better.

Every time I strike out on an approach, I do a fist pump and congratulate myself. Every time you put yourself out there, you’re one step closer to your goals. A lot of guys are pussies, and wont even take that courageous step and would rather sit at home and jack off.

Its a W to even be out there on the field.