Female Sexuality

[HoofHearted]

How to Get Comfortable with Female Sexuality

One of the big struggles for men who are waking up on women is getting comfortable with female sexuality. How do you do it? One of the more challenging mental hurdles for the active dater can be overcoming his feelings about female sexuality. This is most true for men who’ve grown up bombarded...

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This was a great article. I'm just kind of dying at the moment.

Recently I've really cracked the seal with women. I've always known, and had experience, with the seeming endless ocean of women's sexual nature. But I simply was not prepared for the new world I've stumbled into.

The bisexuality. The requests for threeways. The comparisons. The unmitigated and sometimes painful honesty that emerges. Desire run rampant to a degree I've never anticipated. Sometimes experiencing it feels like all my nightmares about women coming true. I've always known about these things but am experiencing such an extreme edge as I grow increasingly surrounded by women.

Does anyone have any advice about this? How exactly do you succeed with it? What are the mindsets and perspectives? Very often I feel like shit about it.

 

[Conquistador]

Honestly? This should probably be moved to General. It's an interesting topic, but "requests for threeways" is hardly something most beginners have to deal with.


It was a pretty big deal when, at the end of last semester, I actually got the secret society treatment (without doing anything more than default flirting) from a skinny older girl with a boyfriend whom I thought I was just going to be activity buddies with.
I decided, based on various things, that she was bad news. But it was a very educational, even if it was uncomfortable at times.
And I may have gotten this kind of uninhibited reaction mostly from my looks, not my game.

with the seeming endless ocean of women's sexual nature.

seeming[ly]

But if it really is that way, maybe get yourself a trident (see image below)?

But I simply was not prepared for the new world I've stumbled into.

Lol, I don't think anyone is.

The bisexuality.

That's awesome!
More seriously, as an experienced guy, can you explain how this phenomenon works? I've been told all women are a little bi. I've also been told (mostly by women who haven't been sexually awakened) that straight girls are as completely straight as straight guys. I'm guessing the truth is somewhere in the middle, but can you explain what that means in the field and how women think and feel about it?

The comparisons.

I thought all women do that. It's just that they often keep it in their head. Right?

Desire run rampant to a degree I've never anticipated.

Uninhibited female sexual desire is a fascinating topic. But if Chase isn't going to answer, (and probs some of the other top-tiers aren't old and wise enough to say more than "you just roll with it man")...

YOU should be explaining to us.

That said, isn't it the fundamental nature of a Man to rule over his surroundings? To direct the forces around him?
(I don't mean this in a redpill way, I'm talking metaphysically and philosophically.)

Sometimes experiencing it feels like all my nightmares about women coming true.

I had a (largely unfounded and theoretical) fear of this sort of thing as a teenager.

Perhaps I'll have to revisit it when I get to your level.

But look, I don't think you're dealing with nymphomaniacal she-demons.

You're dealing with real, mortal humans here. Who happen to feel comfortable enough to truly unleash their inner selves.


(As an aside, you might want to do some deep philosophical analysis about what's really going on with the New Age -> mainstream idea of "every woman is a sex goddess".)

What are the mindsets and perspectives?

Well, almost all men (of any age) don't allow themselves to be completely uninhibited. Have you tried giving yourself permission to be like them? Not just in terms of behavior, but psychologically.

Earlier, you compared some women's sexuality to a rather large body of water. But inside that metaphor, you're not a puny human either. Are you?

The ocean, by itself, is as calm as glass. It takes an almost unstoppable force to cause things like rogue waves, hurricanes, and tsunamis.


I really can't share the full story except in DMs (esp as it may have only just begun), but quite recently I had an illuminating experience talking to a 40+ woman whom I know, when I got a brief glimpse of the attraction she was feeling in that moment.

It was nothing like the fears my imagination had conjured as a 14-year-old. Sadly, the circumstances really weren't right to take advantage of the situation.

Very often I feel like shit about it.

Why not feel quite the opposite? If these women are willing to submit to you, then you must have something that makes them want to submit, no?

In the right situation, with the right frame, isn't a tigress just a big, strong pussycat?

If you actually can't handle these sorts of women, then maybe you've got the wrong demographic.


But I doubt that's the case.


Bottom line, it sounds like your issue is "just" cognitive dissonance. Maybe you should just keep going onward?

 

[HoofHearted]

That's awesome!
More seriously, as an experienced guy, can you explain how this phenomenon works? I've been told all women are a little bi. I've also been told (mostly by women who haven't been sexually awakened) that straight girls are as completely straight as straight guys. I'm guessing the truth is somewhere in the middle, but can you explain what that means in the field and how women think and feel about it?

I would say be careful making assumptions about the individual. It seems to be true that women, in general, seem to have a more fluid range of sexual preferences, and are more likely than men to participate in same sex activities. Let's call this the 'red marble.'

You know when you draw a marble from the bag, that most marbles in the bag are red. But there are blue marbles, too, however less likely the draw may be. It just depends on the marble you drew. It just depends on the girl in question.

On top of this is the fact that girls will misrepresent or exaggerate their sexuality sometimes in an effort to appeal to you.

It takes a degree of sensitivity.

I thought all women do that. It's just that they often keep it in their head. Right?

Probably. Here's the thing... the more comfortable you make a woman feel, the more honest she might casually be with you. You might hear things from women you might care about that... can't be unheard.

That said, isn't it the fundamental nature of a Man to rule over his surroundings? To direct the forces around him?
(I don't mean this in a redpill way, I'm talking metaphysically and philosophically.)

I don't think so. Even Marcus Aurelius was a fantastic failure (this is what). But this is hardly related to the subject at hand, as you get older your perspectives and attitudes will shift.

I have always thought that fate is force that presses and directs, and man is just the thing that presses back.

A lot of what goes for ownership or success is really just statistical chance and some sorry soul hanging in there, clinging on for dear life.

Well, almost all men (of any age) don't allow themselves to be completely uninhibited. Have you tried giving yourself permission to be like them? Not just in terms of behavior, but psychologically.

Earlier, you compared some women's sexuality to a rather large body of water. But inside that metaphor, you're not a puny human either. Are you?

It is just not possible imo to go toe-to-toe with women in terms of sexuality. They can fuck more frequently across a wider range of partners. What might be a snap of the fingers to them could be hours of effort for a man, it seems. It's a part of playing field that's uneven for sure.

Why not feel quite the opposite? If these women are willing to submit to you, then you must have something that makes them want to submit, no?

In the right situation, with the right frame, isn't a tigress just a big, strong pussycat?

I think this is close to the right idea. Except she's never really a pussycat. It's always a tigress acting like a pussycat. If you don't believe this, consider a woman who is into you. Think of how she treats you. Now think of how she treats men she sees as weak.

There's always the claws, there's something wild about femininity, and we never own it. We're all kinda just like Siegfried and Roy, closeted gay i mean taming something we don't really control, with a real statistical chance to one day get mauled.

My two cents.