Feminist consent laws nightmare

[Josef]

Hey guys!

I love being concise, so i am going to try not to make this too long.
I have been practicing Girlchase articles since i was 14 years old which is now 10 years ago. I am a highly self-help motivated guy. The type that conqueres the world. I am extremely extroverted and positive despite my upbringing in an unstable home.

I was extremely succesfull as a 21 year old entrepreneur. I layed tons of wonderful girls and i was full of confidence. I started to long for a girlfriend something i had never tried. I wanted a wifey type so i sat down, read some Girlschase and wrote all the qualities i would like in a girl on a piece of paper.
I found that amazing girl working at a prestigious company, asked her out and was dating her when this terrifying thing happened.

I was out dancing in a nightclub (one of those place that let's anyone come in). When a fat girl came on to me hard. We went down to the toilet and had sex for 90 seconds. I was drunk, she was too. And i remembered most of the evening. The day after i was arrested for allegedly sexual assault and put infront of a judge. My lawyer found out that this girl has Borderline personality disorder, she had just had an abortion within 14 days and she had self-harm injuries over her whole body.
She had reported that i had dragged her down to the toilet. That she was afraid of me and that she screamed help! i don't want to!! while she was crying and looking in my eyes. I KNOW that didn't happen. It was an outright lie. Luckily i had CcTV from the scene confirming my version of the evening.

While i was waiting 1 year to get to trial a new girl accused me. That made me doubt myself completely. Am i guilty? How can 2 girls accuse me??!
She is a girl that saw me at work, and found me on social media texting me that she want's to see me again out of the blue. I only spoke to her for 30 seconds. But she wanted to come to my place.After i turned her down many times i said yes after a night out and she drove home to me from another party she was at. We had sex and we hugged goodbye. Later i found out She suffers from Bipolar disorder, and anti-social disorder. I am apparently the 4'th guy she is accusing of sexual Assault and she reported me a year after we were together because she goes to therapy for something else and her therapist said i might have had sex with her without her consent. In both my cases the prosecutor just said that i had another similar case and that was all evidence the judges needed. Because Denmark had passed a consent based law. So now you don't need evidence. The judges just decide which story they want to believe the most. It is a radical shift from all other type of criminal cases. Now evidence is nothing, even witnesses which i had many of where just put aside because all that matters is what happened in the seconds that you were having sex. In other words who is telling the best story.

Luckily my trials where all documented and i am being talked about in podcasts, radio and in a book. People who heard about me sometimes visited me in jail and i even gotten very connected people who help me in all areas of my life

My beautiful girlfriend i told her everything after it had happened. We believed i would be cleared, but through the tragedy both her and her family pulled me through. She was a ray of sunshine - The only sunshine i got - in a time where i was in solitary confinement for 6 months. Now i am in huge debt, my life i just resumed and i have gotten a dream job with the help of some of Denmarks most powerful elite.

My big dillema is this; I am 24 she is 26. I have a drive to conquer. Plans to travel internationally and work. Plans to get to the top of the luxury hospitality industry where i work. I love women. I could have avoided all this tragedy if i always screened for crazy girls. Mind you i have been with a fair amount of women. But i feel the drive to be part of another womens life. I can't explain it. It keeps revisiting me and today i met a lot of stunning girls at work and they were all over me like i was their favourite toy. I would love to date some of them. But my girlfriend is great too. She is pushing right now for us to live together, the next thing is going to be babys. I frankly don't want to live with her because i want my own space. I want children but not before i am in a good place career wise and have lived my life. I do feel i owe my girlfriend alot!! She has been through all of jail with me. I am afraid that if i don't man up and decide what i want we might end up with children and then split. The biggest thing holding me from breaking up with her is that i don't feel i am entitled too.

I need advice from you guys.
What would you do in my situation?

 

[TwoNameGame]

I think you need to consider how you got this far in life. You pushed yourself to take life into your own hands, had massive setbacks, and now are making a new start. You kept pushing for reasons you know best.

What are they? Why do you feel the need to conquer? Why do you like this woman? Why do you like the luxury hospitality industry?

Now, what is your goal to achieve self-satisfaction and what will help you achieve that bliss?

Personally, I'd kill for a supportive woman like that who keeps me going when everything else gets ripped from me. She isn't crazy. Other woman might be better for short bursts of memories, but I doubt I'd think about them while in prison for a crime I didn't commit and I plan ny next move. I'm not saying to settle, I'm saying to stop drilling for oil and start building oil derricks.

Or try getting an open relationship while you're both young if possible. Best of both worlds.

 

[gameboy]

In my experience, whenever I had a stable girlfriend I've always seen a huge increase of girls giving me IOIs or even throwing themselves at me. But once I broke it off with the girlfriend because it felt like I had so many options, those options would suddenly and drastically decrease. It felt like they would could smell the pain of the recent breakup in me, and wouldn't want anything to do with me anymore.

Your girl seems to be a good catch. Many girls aren't, even though we may desire them in the moment.

I understand your dilemma though, I've been in the same spot... sex with the girlfriend seemed shallow and boring, and there seemed to be so many other good options out there. She also gave me drama at least once a week though so... in the end I did break it off.

It's one of theses situations where it's really hard to make the right choice. Whatever you do, part of you will regret it later.

 

[topcat]

Whatever you do, part of you will regret it later.

Not necessarily bruv.. @Josef dyou really wanna be with a girl you feel "obligated" to stay with? Tell her how you feel, give her options, that don't hinder your pursuit of greater, let her make her choice and then live with the consequences. You've only got one life. Women are made daily, "good women" amongst their number.

 

[Josef]

Thank you @TwoNameGame ! That´s a very good set of questions. I have spent yesterday thinking about them and most of my doubts have subsided. When i wrote this thread i was tired, after a looong day where some beautiful girls were throwing themselves at me. The idea that i could never bed one of them bugged me, just like the idea of leaving my girlfriend does.

@topcat your´e right about giving her options. I always do and i think women find that very attractive because your´e not chasing her. You are chasing your mission. I just wish that @Chase had written about the scenarios that can arise when a man has great fundementals, a good devoted girlfriend and still sometimes would like to bed new women.

@gameboy I´m glad u understand. It´s weird because when you have been with many one nights stands you grow tired of it. That´s the reason some men end up finding girlfriends - hopefully - while they are on a good streak. That´s what i did. Maybe it´s our desire as men for novelty that causes our eyes to wander and we just have to restrain ourself. Living with regret is no good, that´s why i want to hear perspectives from others.

Can we get @Chase , @Skills and @Hector Papi Castillo on this! If u guys are up for it i would love to hear what you think and honestly i would love to hear your take on what to do against these feminist consent laws. What would u do?

Best
Josef

 

[Chase]

Can we get @Chase , @Skills and @Hector Papi Castillo on this! If u guys are up for it i would love to hear what you think and honestly i would love to hear your take on what to do against these feminist consent laws. What would u do?

@Josef,

I was out dancing in a nightclub (one of those place that let's anyone come in). When a fat girl came on to me hard. We went down to the toilet and had sex for 90 seconds. I was drunk, she was too.

• Fat girls are a lot more likely to be feminist and nuts (if they weren't, they'd take care of their bodies better)
• Drunk girls coming onto you hard in clubs are a lot more likely to be nuts
• Fat + drunk + aggressive come-ons is

In situations like that, your alarms should be SCREAMING...

Then you just need to say to yourself, "Is whatever I am gonna get from this chick worth a potential FRA?"

If you really want to bang fat chicks, make sure they're stone sober when you do it (not even buzzed). That's my advice.

And i remembered most of the evening. The day after i was arrested for allegedly sexual assault and put infront of a judge. My lawyer found out that this girl has Borderline personality disorder, she had just had an abortion within 14 days and she had self-harm injuries over her whole body.

Fat + drunk + aggressive = bad juju.

Not surprised about the BPD + self-harm.

She is a girl that saw me at work, and found me on social media texting me that she want's to see me again out of the blue. I only spoke to her for 30 seconds. But she wanted to come to my place.

Once again, it is the "very aggressive pursuer" type girl.

You need to be wary with these chicks, man.

It is not typical female nature to aggressively pursue men for sex.

The only time it will NATURALLY happen is if you've run a superior seduction and gradually sucked this girl deeper and deeper in.

That is not what is happening here; these chicks just jumped all over you and went for sex ASAP.

Highly abnormal behavior needs to be looked at very skeptically.

You should be shagging girls YOU seduce, but very wary of "sudden propositions."

(this is one of those cases where you do indeed want to look the gift horse in the mouth)

After i turned her down many times i said yes after a night out and she drove home to me from another party she was at. We had sex and we hugged goodbye. Later i found out She suffers from Bipolar disorder, and anti-social disorder. I am apparently the 4'th guy she is accusing of sexual Assault and she reported me a year after we were together because she goes to therapy for something else and her therapist said i might have had sex with her without her consent. In both my cases the prosecutor just said that i had another similar case and that was all evidence the judges needed. Because Denmark had passed a consent based law. So now you don't need evidence. The judges just decide which story they want to believe the most. It is a radical shift from all other type of criminal cases. Now evidence is nothing, even witnesses which i had many of where just put aside because all that matters is what happened in the seconds that you were having sex. In other words who is telling the best story.

Luckily my trials where all documented and i am being talked about in podcasts, radio and in a book. People who heard about me sometimes visited me in jail and i even gotten very connected people who help me in all areas of my life

Bloody hell. You went to jail over these? Crikey.

My beautiful girlfriend i told her everything after it had happened. We believed i would be cleared, but through the tragedy both her and her family pulled me through. She was a ray of sunshine - The only sunshine i got - in a time where i was in solitary confinement for 6 months. Now i am in huge debt, my life i just resumed and i have gotten a dream job with the help of some of Denmarks most powerful elite.

Glad you made it through.

My big dillema is this; I am 24 she is 26. I have a drive to conquer. Plans to travel internationally and work. Plans to get to the top of the luxury hospitality industry where i work. I love women. I could have avoided all this tragedy if i always screened for crazy girls. Mind you i have been with a fair amount of women. But i feel the drive to be part of another womens life. I can't explain it. It keeps revisiting me and today i met a lot of stunning girls at work and they were all over me like i was their favourite toy. I would love to date some of them. But my girlfriend is great too. She is pushing right now for us to live together, the next thing is going to be babys. I frankly don't want to live with her because i want my own space. I want children but not before i am in a good place career wise and have lived my life. I do feel i owe my girlfriend alot!! She has been through all of jail with me. I am afraid that if i don't man up and decide what i want we might end up with children and then split. The biggest thing holding me from breaking up with her is that i don't feel i am entitled too.

I need advice from you guys.
What would you do in my situation?

Well, look, I am just going to say, based on what I have read here:

• You are not great at making decisions
• You do not appear to see downside risks when they are staring you in the face (or choose to ignore them)

I would keep that in mind.

That said, with the girl, she is older than you, and women also hit their "need to settle down" mark sooner than men do. You are still very young by Western standards to be settling down.

If I was you, I would probably be sitting this girl down to have an emotional heart-to-heart talk with her. It would need to cover:

• You love her so, so much
• You owe everything to her
• You simply are not ready to settle down right now
• You're conflicted over this and it makes you feel like a POS
• You have this drive inside you to be with other women, like you are not ready yet to hang up your spurs and do "forever do us part"
• You just are not sure what to do, because you do not want to hurt her, but you don't want to lie to her either

Then you need to see how she reacts.

At the very least, you will be priming her expectations so if the two of you do split up, it is not going to come out of nowhere.

But you do need to talk about all this with this girl.

I won't go so far as to say you owe her lifelong fealty, but you owe her that much at least (honesty + realistic expectations).

Good luck!

Chase

 

[Josef]

I think when you are 21, on a roll, and are bedding new women regularly, it is flattering when girls come on to you.

Somewhere along the way i developed a mental flaw, where i let girls chase me (good), but sometimes slacked on the screening (bad). Not gonna happen again. Also never equated a FRA into a possible outcome. Just didn´t seem likely.

But the times they are a-changin and it brings on a whole new sets of struggles and obstacles for us men to overcome. As a Danish community we are working on that.

As for my girlfriend issue. I have actually done all that @Chase except for the " I owe you everything" part.

When i wrote this thread i came home from my first shift at a prestigious place (after 2 years of incarceration) and i was blown back at the amount of female attention i was receiving. I mean one cute blonde had to be reminded that she has a boyfriend.

Maybe thinking long - term and building oil derricks is the way to go. Thank you @TwoNameGame

Onwards and upwards
Josef

 

[Skills]

I was out dancing in a nightclub (one of those place that let's anyone come in). When a fat girl came on to me hard. We went down to the toilet and had sex for 90 seconds. I was drunk, she was too. And i remembered most of the evening. The day after i was arrested for allegedly sexual assault and put infront of a judge. My lawyer found out that this girl has Borderline personality disorder, she had just had an abortion within 14 days and she had self-harm injuries over her whole body.
She had reported that i had dragged her down to the toilet. That she was afraid of me and that she screamed help! i don't want to!! while she was crying and looking in my eyes. I KNOW that didn't happen. It was an outright lie. Luckily i had CcTV from the scene confirming my version of the evening.

^ wow! I have been clubbing for about 30 years, minimum 2 times a week (only one year break), What happened to you is very very very very very very UNLIKELY TO HAPPEN! So that is the good news, this is like a dude winning the lottery.... The only caveat is that are your are in SCANDINAVIA, It seems SCANDINAVIA, its a SHIT SHOW, the other player close to me that i know from SCANDINAVIA, got accused as well and he is a day gamer... Seems Scandinavia is a nightmare, would love to have a guy from the region, be more specific on ways around this... IN USA extremely unlikely to happen. My advice would be if you want to game, either try to get specific advice of guys gaming IN THE PRESENT, on that region, on how to mitigate, but again it seems that region is a nightmare, which is a shame so many hot women..... But i also, advice in my style of game to not drink or minimally drink and NOT GOING FOR DRUNK WOMEN.... If she was drunk and you were drunk, that is on you! for reflection...

While i was waiting 1 year to get to trial a new girl accused me. That made me doubt myself completely. Am i guilty? How can 2 girls accuse me??!
She is a girl that saw me at work, and found me on social media texting me that she want's to see me again out of the blue. I only spoke to her for 30 seconds. But she wanted to come to my place.After i turned her down many times i said yes after a night out and she drove home to me from another party she was at. We had sex and we hugged goodbye. Later i found out She suffers from Bipolar disorder, and anti-social disorder. I am apparently the 4'th guy she is accusing of sexual Assault and she reported me a year after we were together because she goes to therapy for something else and her therapist said i might have had sex with her without her consent. In both my cases the prosecutor just said that i had another similar case and that was all evidence the judges needed. Because Denmark had passed a consent based law. So now you don't need evidence. The judges just decide which story they want to believe the most. It is a radical shift from all other type of criminal cases. Now evidence is nothing, even witnesses which i had many of where just put aside because all that matters is what happened in the seconds that you were having sex. In other words who is telling the best story.

^ wow this is totally none sense, (i will post this story in my post that i made on this topic)... Totally retarded.

Luckily my trials where all documented and i am being talked about in podcasts, radio and in a book. People who heard about me sometimes visited me in jail and i even gotten very connected people who help me in all areas of my life

Hopefully you can monetize this or make an advocate biz or something of people going through the same in scandinavia...

My beautiful girlfriend i told her everything after it had happened. We believed i would be cleared, but through the tragedy both her and her family pulled me through. She was a ray of sunshine - The only sunshine i got - in a time where i was in solitary confinement for 6 months. Now i am in huge debt, my life i just resumed and i have gotten a dream job with the help of some of Denmarks most powerful elite.

^ she is awesome! and congrats on the new job

My big dillema is this; I am 24 she is 26. I have a drive to conquer. Plans to travel internationally and work. Plans to get to the top of the luxury hospitality industry where i work. I love women. I could have avoided all this tragedy if i always screened for crazy girls. Mind you i have been with a fair amount of women. But i feel the drive to be part of another womens life. I can't explain it. It keeps revisiting me and today i met a lot of stunning girls at work and they were all over me like i was their favourite toy. I would love to date some of them. But my girlfriend is great too. She is pushing right now for us to live together, the next thing is going to be babys. I frankly don't want to live with her because i want my own space. I want children but not before i am in a good place career wise and have lived my life. I do feel i owe my girlfriend alot!! She has been through all of jail with me. I am afraid that if i don't man up and decide what i want we might end up with children and then split. The biggest thing holding me from breaking up with her is that i don't feel i am entitled too.

I need advice from you guys.
What would you do in my situation?

^ men have a sense of loyalty, i would not get serious with the girl till i am at least 35-40......... Remember the 30s is prime time for men, the 23-28 is women prime to find a suitable partner for marriage.... Women game is containment, men game to be free... You are feeling a sense of indebtness for her sticking around for you in hard times, but this is not enough to be in a marriage...

-moving in together is bad for men, the Coolidge effect will hit quicker and boredom of the relationship due to familiarity will accelerate the process...

p.s. since you are in hospitality find out if your hotel can move you are of Scandinavia That would be awesome!

also check out my post (make sure you see the links attached as well), i may add this post to my post as reference:

Date Plans - The different types of seduction and the levels of risks that come with them (fra risk managment)

First what is fra: FRA.- stands for false rape accusation What is seduction: Seduction.- The act of seducing; especially : the enticement of a person to sexual intercourse something that seduces : temptation something that attracts or charms Now guys somebody close to me got a fra, dude did...

www.skilledseducer.com

P.s. Check out how my accuser help one of the forum posters here, that got accused as a bizarre twist in the answers and comments on the post....

p.s. 2.- get where the dude that i made that post in honor lives, oh wait! Denmark just lol

 

[Josef]

If i had a dollar for everytime i heard someone tell me i´m unlucky i would be rich. But i am happy it is not like that in the US.

In Scandinavia things have truly changed and there is alot of highschool students that end up in court. We are working on giving them - and their families - the psychological tools neccesary to move on stronger after their lifealtering experience.

I think in Denmark i know most about the consent laws. Just not how to mitgate it 100%.
I know one guy who video taped his whole house. He was hit by a FRA, came to court, senteced to 2,5 years, imprisoned, appealed because he had the video, sat in Denmarks worst prison for 9 months awaiting trial. Acquitted for rape in higher court but was senteced 6 months for filming without consent.

It´s the wild west.

As for my dillemma. Thank you for your input. It truly means alot. It´s good to get reassured that her sticking with me through hard times isn´t enough for marriage. Had to look up the coolidge effect but makes perfect sense. Also i think i read @Chase writing about commitment points and that he believes that the best way to do monogamy is to delay commitment points as much as possible. I have to balance that with also making sure i opt out in time for her to find a new man. If i opt out.

You read my mind hospitality wise. My new company is training me to become a manager who works overseas. They have hotels all over the world.

Looking forward to reading your post!! Crazy that he lives in Denmark hahaha

 

[Skills]

I totally forgot this post:

Socializing - Drunk women dynamics....

Well guys this weekend I became captain save a hoe, had a really young blonde Australian in my car, stressed me the fuck out to the point when she felt asleep, i thought she literally was dead, started moving her and nothing, then check her pulse.... went to a very safe and well light up gas...

www.skilledseducer.com