Fingering/ going down on a girl

[Verisimilitude]

This clearly isn't 100% about straight sex, but I think it's important, and I haven't really seen any technique discussed about this. The last couple times I've fingered a girl (different ones) they seemed to respond better to deeper spots, not really the "come here motion". Any advice for this? I haven't really made any girls go crazy with fingering them, and I'd like to learn that. Also with tongue, those really aren't options. I'd appreciate any advice you guys have.

 

[Chase]

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This clearly isn't 100% about straight sex, but I think it's important, and I haven't really seen any technique discussed about this. The last couple times I've fingered a girl (different ones) they seemed to respond better to deeper spots, not really the "come here motion". Any advice for this? I haven't really made any girls go crazy with fingering them, and I'd like to learn that. Also with tongue, those really aren't options. I'd appreciate any advice you guys have.

I've never gotten the "come hither" motion to work, but then, I never have spent all that much time on fingering. In my view, its best use is to get a woman primed for penetrative sex.

That said, try rubbing the outside of a woman's vagina with your fingers (your four fingers held flat) up and down the width of the vagina, with your middle finger pressing down on her clitoris. Press harder as she grows more excited. For some variation and to increase sensation for her, switch between this back-and-forth motion and moving your hand around in a circular motion, against maintaining pressure on the clitoris. Most women enjoy this a lot. A surprising number of girls like having their pussies / clitorises slapped, too - a lot of girls laugh the first time I do this with them, and then start moaning.

Oral sex wise, start by licking the inner thighs and labia, and moving ever-inward. Don't lick the clitoris at all until you're ready to commit to it. Tease her by avoiding licking it, and only licking / sucking the other areas around it. Once she's sufficiently primed, start licking it, and just keep licking it until she cums.

If this is the first time you're sleeping with a girl, do not let her cum from these - just bring her close to orgasm. Then take your pants off and go into her. If you bring a girl to orgasm before you enter her, you risk her achieving full satisfaction and then seeing no need to add another number to her partner count - she got what she wants, so now she can just say "no." If she's close to orgasm though, she will never object you entering her - she just wants the pleasure to continue.

Chase

 

[Addicted2height]

Good tip for oral is to write the alphabet with your tongue over her clit. Way more exciting than up and down...

 

[Jay]

CCC,

The main way I use fingering, as Chase said, is to warm a girl up.

However, I also like to use it to make her cum in a different way during fucking, to sort of give her a taste of what is to come. Occasionally if she has already came once or twice and I am trying to last a little longer I will bring her right to the brink of orgasm with my dick, then pull out and finger her really fast. This has led to her cumming a good 9 out of 10 times I have tried it, and it gives me a short break to go back in again for round 2, 3, or 4. Almost every girl who I have gotten to squirt has done it when I did this as well (if that is your kind of thing).

Jay

 

[Verisimilitude]

Good stuff. Are there any parts that I should specifically go for? (besides the ones Chase suggested) I'm also wondering exactly where I find these things (as silly as that sounds). When its dark outside and the lights are off, its difficult.

 

[Jay]

Usually I just stick to a quick (and I mean fucking quick. Think almost vibration speed. It takes practice. If you are a drummer, God is begging you to try this) penetrative, in and out motion, palm down, with my middle finger (add the ring finger too if you think it will fit well enough to not take away form the speed) if I am transitioning to this during oral. If I pull out and do this, I usually like to lick from her nipple to her neck and lightly bite her there right before she comes as I use the same real quick, in and out, penetrative motion this time with my palm up using more forearm muscle to create the vibration effect than wrist. You can also try experimenting with different amounts of pressure on the clit while doing this; I have noticed that just barely brushing it works best.

So in review haha, implement this right as she is about to come (which takes some guesswork and experience to pinpoint with new girls, but it isn't particularly hard to hit the correct window). Shift from quick to slow, deep strokes, then pull out and put in the finger/fingers and finger as fast as you fucking can. My theory is the sudden shift from deep ass strokes to quick, shallow vibration type strokes is what sends the girl over the edge, but truthfully I have no idea, I just up and tried it one day, and it worked.
Note: Licking your finger/fingers also helps with the speed.

 

[Tyme2k]

Good stuff. Are there any parts that I should specifically go for? (besides the ones Chase suggested) I'm also wondering exactly where I find these things (as silly as that sounds). When its dark outside and the lights are off, its difficult.

Your best bet will be to ask a girl when you're in the moment. I do this with most of my new girls, I will ask them how exactly they like rubbing. Chases description with fingers flat is EXACTLY what they will show you. What I will do is take their hand and place it on top of mine (already in the position chase mentioned) and tell them to show me.

Each girl has a slightly different preference, but I will even throw my own spin on it to get them to moan. It all comes down to experience.

 

[Landlord]

I'm surprised by the answers here..it's amazing how different women are!

1. I have great success with "come hither"...not on EVERY girl, but on most...especially those who are relaxed. Don't be too gentle...start softer but increase the pressure. True that the exact 'spot' is different for different women...some like it deeper, some right behind the opening. I like to lick the clit and do come hiterh in tandem. Also, try getting her to sit up, that increases intensity for some women.

2. I aim to make her come from fingering/cunnilingus before penetrative sex for THREE reasons:

A. It makes orgasm through penetrative sex MUCH easier...once a woman has come once, it is easier to go tot he second, etc.
B. It takes ME out of my head, so I have fewer problems with getting hard or controlling ejaculation...because I know I have already pleasured her, now there's no big pressure because she'll be happy anyway
C. I'm a generous lover and I aim to be her best lover ever...if she comes three or four times to my one time, that's just dandy!

 

[Anonymous]

Usually I just stick to a quick (and I mean fucking quick. Think almost vibration speed. It takes practice. If you are a drummer, God is begging you to try this) penetrative, in and out motion, palm down, with my middle finger (add the ring finger too if you think it will fit well enough to not take away form the speed) if I am transitioning to this during oral. If I pull out and do this, I usually like to lick from her nipple to her neck and lightly bite her there right before she comes as I use the same real quick, in and out, penetrative motion this time with my palm up using more forearm muscle to create the vibration effect than wrist. You can also try experimenting with different amounts of pressure on the clit under there while doing this; I have noticed that just barely brushing it works best.

So in review haha, implement this right as she is about to come (which takes some guesswork and experience to pinpoint with new girls, but it isn't particularly hard to hit the correct window). Shift from quick to slow, deep strokes, then pull out and put in the finger/fingers and finger as fast as you fucking can. My theory is the sudden shift from deep ass strokes to quick, shallow vibration type strokes is what sends the girl over the edge, but truthfully I have no idea, I just up and tried it one day, and it worked.
Note: Licking your finger/fingers also helps with the speed.

So i guess i need to be trained to be a drummer lol