FR First Blind Date FU

[monsterslimjim]

I went on a date last night that was set up by a girl that I know. She is just a friend and told me that she had someone that I would really get along with. I never ask to get "set up" by my friends because I think it more fulfilling when I accomplish things on my own. I figured that I would give it a shot anyways.

I was given the girl's number and we exchanged just a few short texts setting up a day and time. Very simple, very easy. I had to drive like 30 mins to pick her up and I didnt know the area that she lived in. That made logistics very difficult.

I picked her up, she ended up being a gorgeous blonde. I got lucky with that one. We talked for a little bit and decided to get food. I wasnt trying to do anything fancy so we stopped at a Culvers. I got a burger and she didnt tell me until we were in line that she was a vegetarian and couldnt eat anything there but french fries... That would have been nice to know before so I could have gone someplace else. But oh well, we went with the flow and it ended up being alright.

We got to deep dive for a while and I tried to set up a sexual frame. I did a really good job with it.
Afterwards we went to a bowling alley, but because it was a saturday night, it was completely packed and they didnt have any lanes open for an hour. That kind of sucked, and it definitely killed the mood.

We left there and she told me there was this cool "haunted cemetary" nearby that she had heard about. I thought that might be a little fun and exciting and it would give her a reason to hold on to me. When we went down the road, it ended up being the complete opposite direction like 40 miles away. Again, that sucked.

So we decided to ditch the cemetary idea and she said there was this gourmet dessert place like 5 mins away. So we went to the dessert place and she offered to buy me a cupcake. It was actually delicious. It was $9 for 2 cupcakes and I thought that was ridiculous, but it was her treat so I didnt really mind. The seating there was extremely tight and we had to sit pretty close together. That went really well. I brought the sexual mood back.

We both didnt want to end things yet because we were enjoying eachother's company. So we went to another bowling alley. They didnt have lanes open for an hour. Go figure. So we just sat in the parking lot for a while and talked. That went really well too. A lot of deep diving and banter.

Still making an effort to go with the flow, we headed towards a movie theatre. I bought the tickets and the theatre was completely empty. Awesome opportunity to hookup right? Not awesome. She forgot to tell me that she had to be home at midnight and it was already 11...

So I got refunded for the tickets because the movie hadnt started yet. At this point I wasnt really happy with the way things were planned, because nothing was really planned at all.

I liked the girl because she was really easy to get along with, and it just felt comfortable. On the way back to her house, she really opened up and said that she was really nervous to meet me because our mutual friend really talked me up and I only exceeded her expectations. She said that she would definitely want to go on another date. I didnt even have to ask so I thought that was cool.

When we got to her house, she hesitated to get out of the car..I assumed it was because she was waiting for me to kiss her, but I totally choked. I never choke. I dont know what happened.

About an hour after I dropped her off, she texted me and said she had a really good time with me and threw a few smiley faces in there. I told her that I had a good time too but that I had to tell her something. She said what? and I said that I wanted to kiss her goodnight before she left. (i dont know why I said that, but I wanted to see what she really thought of me despite how poor the date was) she said that I totally could have.

That just pissed me off that I blew a good chance to kiss her. But on the bright side we are getting together next weekend with a few of our mutual friends so it should be good. I dont have time to waste on a girl that wont hook up with me and she needs a man that wont hesitate. I'm definitely gonna pull the trigger next time I see her. Also, when we get together, I'm going to make sure logistics are 100% set up before hand. Many lessons were learned from this date gone bad, but I managed to hold things together well enough to get her to express that she liked me and to get another date.

Thanks for reading and please give me any feedback!

-Monsterslimjim

 

[Scofield]

Ideally yeah you want to have a better gameplan than you had but it seemed like you went with the flow really well. If she's really into you, it might had been better to hold off on the kiss....it'll make her want you that much more and increase your chances of closing on date 2. Really shouldn't had sent that text, but if she wants you enough I guess it wouldn't matter. TBH, you should have come up with an excuse to go up to her place, use the bathroom, get a glass of water....and make a move. It sounds like she's really into you though, so it's all good.

 

[Tyme2k]

I love dates like this, totally random spontaneous shit. This gives you an opportunity to stay smooth and remain unreactive to curve balls. Look at it this way, girls need someone they know is comfortable in any situation to lead them to safety, fun, excitement, sex, all those things they crave. You did all of that.

Stop sending needy chodey texts tho stay cool like you were on the date, Scofield is right also, don't kiss her right away, definitely have a sexual vibe touch her more than a friend would, but wait for the kiss until you're in an intimate location.

 

[Landlord]

Lame date, so you must be a really cool guy!

Personally, in addition to planning out a great date for next time, I'd kiss her first thing when you meet her next time. Smile, Give her a big hug hello, lift her off the ground and one firm kiss on the mouth, then pull away and say-- "I owed you that one."

This does three things:
1. Surprises/excites her, also re establishes you as a confident man
2. Makes it natural to grab her hand, put your arm around her, etc.
3. Sets up tension for a proper kiss later

Depending on what you want from this girl ( relationship? One night stand? Etc)
Your logistics for date 2 matter... You could go to pick her up again, be a gentleman and expect no more than making out, you could meet near yours and keep it open, or you could learn some nice vegetarian recipes and have dinner at yours.

 

[Chase]

Jim-

The logistics were messy, but you and her hit it off, and that counts for a good bit. And hey... she made you a little gun shy! Sounds like she's a good pick for you.

I like the sound of Landlord's advice here - kiss her first thing and tell her you owed her that. I'd probably advise you to meet her once more before the group meeting again with friends a week later, so that by that point you've already got a pair of dates under your belt and a good "we might or might not be together" vibe going on (assuming you haven't already slept with her by then).

Chase

 

[monsterslimjim]

Thanks for the feedback Chase. I didnt get a chance to go out with her before we met up with friends, but it ended up working out awesome. Her 2 other girlfriends that were there LOVE me, so they pretty much built all the frames for me. When we were all leaving and saying goodbye, I offered to give my girl a ride home but took her to my place instead (; got her in bed and it was all good from there! I didnt give an LR frankly because I dont have much to say about it other than that. Pretty much all of my work was done for me. I was introduced through her friends, and her friends said great things about me. Easy and in the bag. This all happened just shortly after my FR but for a more recent update, this girl and I are now dating. NOT in a relationship, but dating. My old girl just moved out of the state for school this week, so I'm glad to find a new girl to keep around.