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So I decided to combine a couple days of FRs into one because its been a busy time for me and they're all similar. This FR is my first couple days of college.
Tuesday:
Today was the first day of classes and I was hoping to start the year off right, maybe meet a couple girls in my classes.
My first class there was a girl across the row from me who was looking my way, but because there were so many people behind me, it was tough to tell if she was looking at me or the guys behind me. We made eye contact a couple times, but I was never really sure if I should hold it or just look away. How I do eye contact right now is check my peripherals and then turn if shes looking my way. But as class dragged on, it started to get boring and I felt like I missed an opportunity even though there was no way I could have really opened her. After class, I realized that she was taller than me and called the whole thing off.
My second class has a girl who is in my social circle and I sat in front of her. I realized that the best place to be in a class is in the back because you have the best vantage for eye contact (they cant see you but you can see them kind of thing). Nevertheless, I did the best I could with posture and giving her something to look at (its a really boring class).
Besides class, I also hung out with my friends and had a couple drinks later in the night. I was getting lots of eye contact from a girl there, but I didn't approach because of the vibe of the party and because she had her friends close.
Wednesday:
My second day of classes was more of the same. I wanted to get my fundamentals down for this year and I decided to focus today on eye contact. I would use my peripherals to see if a girl was looking at me, make eye contact, and see where things went from there.
My first class had the same girl in my social circle, only this time I was sitting behind her. She would look back a couple times and we talk, but I was having trouble communicating interest. I wasn't feeling good either (from the beer) so it was embarrassing when my stomach started growling.
My second class there were girls sitting in front of me. Real feminine, my kinda type. The problem with eye contact in class is its never clear when the girl is looking at you or the person behind you. I felt like they were looking at me, but I could never be certain.
The biggest chance I had was when I was walking back from class. A girl looked at me and smiled, but I didn't react fast enough to open her.
I also went to a bar with some of my friends. A girl who I knew but not well took my phone and made a tinder account for me. (an online dating app for phones). She added herself as a match and kept on taking my phone and messing with the app. I guess this was a chance to get with her, but it was in a place where all my social circle was there and it would have been strange to just go for it. The best option would have been to message her on the dating app, but she is a little taller than me and I wasn't 100% sure and didn't want to ruin my reputation in my social circle.
That night I cleared up some awkwardness with a girl who I hooked up with last year. She wasn't doing anything more than cuddling with me and I left in the middle of the night. We didn't speak since, but we had a little conversation and I just wanted to make sure we were cool.
Thursday:
My goal for today was body posture and a sexy walk, and I think I pulled it off well. my friends commented on how I looked like I had been working out, and I got a lot more looks from girls when my posture was good.
The only relevant part of today is when we had our Thursday night house party. The girl from two of my classes came up and talked to me alone a couple times, even putting her foot up against my leg. We talked a couple times and I was able to get her to move to a couch with me. I had trouble communicating my interest though because I don't want to ruin my reputation in the social circle by going for a girl who isn't interested. I would like some input on how to subtly communicate my interest and gauge hers without ruining my reputation in the social circle. I've known the girl for a while, but this year we've actually talked and she's made the effort to talk to me. This might be because we have classes together or because she's interested.
The other part of the night was that I tried to talk to a girl who I hooked up with last year. It was simply a, "sit down how did your summer go" and she told me to wait and she'd be back. I just got up and left as soon as she walked away. A girl who won't even be friendly with me isn't worth my time. Its been really awkward with her and her friend since I hooked up with them both. They said they didn't care, but I'm not so sure now.
Another girl who had been staring me a couple nights ago approached me and seemed interested, but she was talking to me about another guy and I heard from my friend that she had and STD and was crazy, so I got out of there as soon as possible.
Things I learned:
I need to be quicker with my approach. I had a girl who clearly was interested, but because I didn't react quick enough, I missed out.
I can fix my approach by having a go-to line when time is short. I'm currently using "Hi, I saw you from over there and I knew I'd beat myself up tomorrow if I didn't at least come talk to you" (props to Rodeo Ryan for this) and I need to start using more cold approaches.
I'm a guy who girls want to approach, but if I chase them, they're not interested. Over these three days, four girls have shown signs that they want me, but the girls who I have approached haven't been interested.
Things I could use help on:
HOOKING UP WITH PEOPLE IN MY SOCIAL CIRCLE: This is huge. If I can get the girl in my social circle, it would be a huge value boost and a good way to start the year off. The problem is there's a lot of risk involved. I don't want the rest of the year to be awkward with this girl because she wasn't interested.
Approach: Any help on this would be appreciated from being able to approach quickly, to not having girls blow me off with my approach
Meeting girls in groups. So many times at our house parties they girls will be together and its very hard to approach them.
How to hook up and not make things awkward later. It seems like every girl I've hooked up with has had things end with where she will stare at me, but won't talk to me or will be cold when I do talk to her. I'm sick of it and I don't want any more hook ups like this.
Geez this is a book. Sorry for the long post, any help would be appreciated. I'm trying to get myself back into school mode.
Tuesday:
Today was the first day of classes and I was hoping to start the year off right, maybe meet a couple girls in my classes.
My first class there was a girl across the row from me who was looking my way, but because there were so many people behind me, it was tough to tell if she was looking at me or the guys behind me. We made eye contact a couple times, but I was never really sure if I should hold it or just look away. How I do eye contact right now is check my peripherals and then turn if shes looking my way. But as class dragged on, it started to get boring and I felt like I missed an opportunity even though there was no way I could have really opened her. After class, I realized that she was taller than me and called the whole thing off.
My second class has a girl who is in my social circle and I sat in front of her. I realized that the best place to be in a class is in the back because you have the best vantage for eye contact (they cant see you but you can see them kind of thing). Nevertheless, I did the best I could with posture and giving her something to look at (its a really boring class).
Besides class, I also hung out with my friends and had a couple drinks later in the night. I was getting lots of eye contact from a girl there, but I didn't approach because of the vibe of the party and because she had her friends close.
Wednesday:
My second day of classes was more of the same. I wanted to get my fundamentals down for this year and I decided to focus today on eye contact. I would use my peripherals to see if a girl was looking at me, make eye contact, and see where things went from there.
My first class had the same girl in my social circle, only this time I was sitting behind her. She would look back a couple times and we talk, but I was having trouble communicating interest. I wasn't feeling good either (from the beer) so it was embarrassing when my stomach started growling.
My second class there were girls sitting in front of me. Real feminine, my kinda type. The problem with eye contact in class is its never clear when the girl is looking at you or the person behind you. I felt like they were looking at me, but I could never be certain.
The biggest chance I had was when I was walking back from class. A girl looked at me and smiled, but I didn't react fast enough to open her.
I also went to a bar with some of my friends. A girl who I knew but not well took my phone and made a tinder account for me. (an online dating app for phones). She added herself as a match and kept on taking my phone and messing with the app. I guess this was a chance to get with her, but it was in a place where all my social circle was there and it would have been strange to just go for it. The best option would have been to message her on the dating app, but she is a little taller than me and I wasn't 100% sure and didn't want to ruin my reputation in my social circle.
That night I cleared up some awkwardness with a girl who I hooked up with last year. She wasn't doing anything more than cuddling with me and I left in the middle of the night. We didn't speak since, but we had a little conversation and I just wanted to make sure we were cool.
Thursday:
My goal for today was body posture and a sexy walk, and I think I pulled it off well. my friends commented on how I looked like I had been working out, and I got a lot more looks from girls when my posture was good.
The only relevant part of today is when we had our Thursday night house party. The girl from two of my classes came up and talked to me alone a couple times, even putting her foot up against my leg. We talked a couple times and I was able to get her to move to a couch with me. I had trouble communicating my interest though because I don't want to ruin my reputation in the social circle by going for a girl who isn't interested. I would like some input on how to subtly communicate my interest and gauge hers without ruining my reputation in the social circle. I've known the girl for a while, but this year we've actually talked and she's made the effort to talk to me. This might be because we have classes together or because she's interested.
The other part of the night was that I tried to talk to a girl who I hooked up with last year. It was simply a, "sit down how did your summer go" and she told me to wait and she'd be back. I just got up and left as soon as she walked away. A girl who won't even be friendly with me isn't worth my time. Its been really awkward with her and her friend since I hooked up with them both. They said they didn't care, but I'm not so sure now.
Another girl who had been staring me a couple nights ago approached me and seemed interested, but she was talking to me about another guy and I heard from my friend that she had and STD and was crazy, so I got out of there as soon as possible.
Things I learned:
I need to be quicker with my approach. I had a girl who clearly was interested, but because I didn't react quick enough, I missed out.
I can fix my approach by having a go-to line when time is short. I'm currently using "Hi, I saw you from over there and I knew I'd beat myself up tomorrow if I didn't at least come talk to you" (props to Rodeo Ryan for this) and I need to start using more cold approaches.
I'm a guy who girls want to approach, but if I chase them, they're not interested. Over these three days, four girls have shown signs that they want me, but the girls who I have approached haven't been interested.
Things I could use help on:
HOOKING UP WITH PEOPLE IN MY SOCIAL CIRCLE: This is huge. If I can get the girl in my social circle, it would be a huge value boost and a good way to start the year off. The problem is there's a lot of risk involved. I don't want the rest of the year to be awkward with this girl because she wasn't interested.
Approach: Any help on this would be appreciated from being able to approach quickly, to not having girls blow me off with my approach
Meeting girls in groups. So many times at our house parties they girls will be together and its very hard to approach them.
How to hook up and not make things awkward later. It seems like every girl I've hooked up with has had things end with where she will stare at me, but won't talk to me or will be cold when I do talk to her. I'm sick of it and I don't want any more hook ups like this.
Geez this is a book. Sorry for the long post, any help would be appreciated. I'm trying to get myself back into school mode.
