Hey guys,
So I had this weird situation happen. Basically, I've mentioned this before, but I used to be an ass hole and have toned it down in the last few weeks.
That being said, I met this girl, let's call her Sarah. I met her through facebook, and when I was messaging/calling her at the time (I eventually got her number), I came across as a bit of an ass to her. When she eventually met me in person, however, she told me, "I was this close to not showing up because of how you treated me before." Also, she felt she could really connect to me and we got along swimmingly. She texted me a few times that night saying that she felt more comfortable talking to me and all. I shot her a text basically saying, 'Oh that's great! I don't really do text convos though
.' She responded with, "True..." and I didn't respond.
So a few days later, I tried texting her just to meetup. I really enjoyed our previous conversation, and if any of you guys notice me posting on here a lot (hope I'm not annoying anyone!) it's because this is my main form of socializing. As many of you are doing, I'm trying to improve my life, and so I felt the need to cut contact with a lot of my friends. A lot have gone off to school, so once summer comes around I'll hangout with them once in a while, but I don't talk to them much anymore. This girl is definitely a beneficial addition and my intention here is to befriend her. Anyways, keep reading...
So after I first met Sarah in person, it went great. I was being chill, working on my sexiness, and I even told her, 'If I ever lead you on, you have the right to slash my tires', as I feel terrible about leading girls on, mainly because I used to do it so much in the past and saw how it affected them.
With that being said, I don't really think I lead Sarah on, but ever since I told her, "I don't do text conversations" she got pretty cold on me, and I haven't seen her since. When I told her I wanted to meetup again, she went along with it, but she was cold in her responses (probably because I said I don't do text convos). Nowadays, she ignores me even when I send, warm friendly texts, and it's just weird. How can friendly intentions lead to auto-rejection? I framed the relationship as a friendship, although I did throw in a few chase frames (I shouldn't have), but I was curious as to if she was into me and I told her that. After I met her, I was thinking, 'Damn, that girl is amazing at conversation, I love talking to her. I don't think I'd pursue her, but let's see what vibe I get from her in order to get more data points.' So I asked her, how she felt about me out of curiosity (I would never ask this to a girl I was pursuing), and she said "I don't like you like that..?" I said, "Of course you do, stop fighting yourself." It went on like that for a bit and I eventually cut it out and stopped texting her shortly after.
When I saw her in person that first time, she also said, "You know, if you did this on any other girl they'd probably fall for you." The vibe I was getting was that she was somewhat into me, but feeling sketchy about my first impression, so she was hesitant and went into auto-rejection or was playing hard to get. I feel like she then filled herself with hate for me so she doesn't get hurt. I'm confused though because I never told her I liked her, I was friendly, and I tried my best not to lead her on.
She then started challenging me on everything I was saying, and was acting as though I was supposed to chase her, as many girls do. I told her I lost some friends (1 of which she knows) so I asked her for this girl's number and I said, "Sarah, do you have (name's) number?" She asked why, so I said, "Burning bridges is bad business." She then says, "Then don't burn them."
Also, she's one of those dominant, high value girls I want to add as a friend. Although I was a bit of an ass hole before, any other girl would have brushed it off and understood where I was coming from, but not this one. I guess that's why I'm intrigued, as we all love a good challenge, even if it involves simply making a new friend.
So my question now is, if you make a poor first impression, are you eternally screwed from that first impression? I know it's definitely possible to make comebacks, but how much does a poor first impression hinder your chances of making a new friend or getting a girlfriend/lover once you try reconnecting over time? This girl Sarah seemed pretty cool, so I would like to know where I went wrong while trying to build a friendship with her.
Cheers,
Garrett
So I had this weird situation happen. Basically, I've mentioned this before, but I used to be an ass hole and have toned it down in the last few weeks.
That being said, I met this girl, let's call her Sarah. I met her through facebook, and when I was messaging/calling her at the time (I eventually got her number), I came across as a bit of an ass to her. When she eventually met me in person, however, she told me, "I was this close to not showing up because of how you treated me before." Also, she felt she could really connect to me and we got along swimmingly. She texted me a few times that night saying that she felt more comfortable talking to me and all. I shot her a text basically saying, 'Oh that's great! I don't really do text convos though
.' She responded with, "True..." and I didn't respond.So a few days later, I tried texting her just to meetup. I really enjoyed our previous conversation, and if any of you guys notice me posting on here a lot (hope I'm not annoying anyone!) it's because this is my main form of socializing. As many of you are doing, I'm trying to improve my life, and so I felt the need to cut contact with a lot of my friends. A lot have gone off to school, so once summer comes around I'll hangout with them once in a while, but I don't talk to them much anymore. This girl is definitely a beneficial addition and my intention here is to befriend her. Anyways, keep reading...
So after I first met Sarah in person, it went great. I was being chill, working on my sexiness, and I even told her, 'If I ever lead you on, you have the right to slash my tires', as I feel terrible about leading girls on, mainly because I used to do it so much in the past and saw how it affected them.
With that being said, I don't really think I lead Sarah on, but ever since I told her, "I don't do text conversations" she got pretty cold on me, and I haven't seen her since. When I told her I wanted to meetup again, she went along with it, but she was cold in her responses (probably because I said I don't do text convos). Nowadays, she ignores me even when I send, warm friendly texts, and it's just weird. How can friendly intentions lead to auto-rejection? I framed the relationship as a friendship, although I did throw in a few chase frames (I shouldn't have), but I was curious as to if she was into me and I told her that. After I met her, I was thinking, 'Damn, that girl is amazing at conversation, I love talking to her. I don't think I'd pursue her, but let's see what vibe I get from her in order to get more data points.' So I asked her, how she felt about me out of curiosity (I would never ask this to a girl I was pursuing), and she said "I don't like you like that..?" I said, "Of course you do, stop fighting yourself
." It went on like that for a bit and I eventually cut it out and stopped texting her shortly after.When I saw her in person that first time, she also said, "You know, if you did this on any other girl they'd probably fall for you." The vibe I was getting was that she was somewhat into me, but feeling sketchy about my first impression, so she was hesitant and went into auto-rejection or was playing hard to get. I feel like she then filled herself with hate for me so she doesn't get hurt. I'm confused though because I never told her I liked her, I was friendly, and I tried my best not to lead her on.
She then started challenging me on everything I was saying, and was acting as though I was supposed to chase her, as many girls do. I told her I lost some friends (1 of which she knows) so I asked her for this girl's number and I said, "Sarah, do you have (name's) number?" She asked why, so I said, "Burning bridges is bad business." She then says, "Then don't burn them."
Also, she's one of those dominant, high value girls I want to add as a friend. Although I was a bit of an ass hole before, any other girl would have brushed it off and understood where I was coming from, but not this one. I guess that's why I'm intrigued, as we all love a good challenge, even if it involves simply making a new friend.
So my question now is, if you make a poor first impression, are you eternally screwed from that first impression? I know it's definitely possible to make comebacks, but how much does a poor first impression hinder your chances of making a new friend or getting a girlfriend/lover once you try reconnecting over time? This girl Sarah seemed pretty cool, so I would like to know where I went wrong while trying to build a friendship with her.
Cheers,
Garrett
