LR First lay through cold approach

[AugusteLoves]

Hi, I'm back. I had sex guys. So this is my first lay through cold approach, and my third lay this year, and the 6th woman I've ever had sex with. I met her in a bar last week and got her number. The biggest thing I feel was super important during the approach was heavy eye contact. I had gone out that night intending to focus on heavy eye contact with girls cuz I had not focused on it before and it worked. I made heavy eye contact with 2 other girls that night and had good convos with them but they didn't work out. My vehicle got towed that night, and I met this girl literally 5 minutes after getting towed, I didn't let the stress of getting towed get to me. I met her while I was waiting for me friend to come pick me up. I remember she looked at me and told me to come over here and we get to talking and I'm being really touchy with her cuz I can tell right away that she's really attracted to me. In fact she told me tonight that I was too handsy when we met cuz my hands were running along the back of her dress and along her thighs, but hey she still came out and fucked me. I remember our conversation when we met consisted of me asking her what was the best sex she's ever had and she said she doesn't talk about that with strangers. Then I started talking about the best sex I ever had with my ex gf. And she told me that she fucks both men and women with a strap on. So I said oh you freaky like Diddy. And then I said something along the lines of I know you like to be submissive to and she said no and I said I know you do or something I don't remember exactly and then she admitted that she does like being submissive and she said she's a switch. I don't remember much else she was talking to her friends and I tried to get her to go to the bathroom with me for bathroom sex. Oh yeah I remember she said she has a boyfriend and I said how long have you been dating and she said a month and I said well have you had the exclusivity talk yet? And she said no, which was a lie btw because she revealed to me tonight that she is supposed to be exclusive with him but she hates him cuz she said he's some big weird fat dude. And I remember she was like so what are we gonna do tonight so it was like damn if I had my vehicle with me I'd already be taking her out of this bar and getting a hotel right now. Which is why I tried to get her to go to the bar bathroom with me but she didn't want to. So anyway then my friend came and picked me up and drove me home since I was without a vehicle and I told my friend how she's so into me and if only I had my vehicle, he was like haha fat chance in hell she didn't seem into you.

I did get my vehicle back that morning at 5am.

So fast forward to yesterday I hit her up and trying to meet up with her, I actually had texted her last week twice but she never responded. She replies and we're planning a meetup and she's busy every day this weekend so finally at this point I'm like well at 2am when the clubs close I can get us a hotel. She's like yeah let's do it. So I went out and did my cold approaches, didn't get any numbers tonight. Then drove to the club she was at and picked her up at 2am met her friends and drove her to the hotel.

So we get to the hotel and she sees me bring in a vibrator and she makes a big deal about it and how we're not going to have sex so I start feeling kinda bad at this point like maybe I'm just a dirty pervert who wants to use women for their bodies. She makes it clear we're not going to have sex so I decide you know what I'm fine with that I'm going to show her what a good guy I am and how I don't need sex and how I respect women. At one point she says you can get into bed with me but don't try anything. So we're in bed for a while both fully clothed and talk a little bit. And god this woman is teasing me she takes her shirt off to reveal her perfect tits and then puts her shirt back on. She takes her pants off and goes over to adjust the AC giving me an amazing view of her ass in that thong. Eventually she's like come cuddle me. So I do and then she criticizes me for cuddling her the wrong way and says do I have to teach you how to cuddle. So then I cuddle her the way she tells me to. With my leg swung her legs in such a way that my dick is pressed up against her ass. I'm getting hard just thinking about cuddling her right now.

Then we're cuddling right and I make small talk ask her what's her favorite drink she says vodka and I say I'm more of a whiskey guy, whiskey on ice. Then I ask her if she's ever had a Tom Collins and she asks me what the fuck is that. SO i explain to her what it is and how I make the best tom collins. THen I asked her if she's ever had a hot toddy, and she said yeah, and then I say I make the best hot toddies and she's like yeah right. So i explain to her the ingredients I use in my own hot toddies at home and she's never heard of them so I'm like see I make the best hot toddies. And then we keep cuddling and then she grabs my hand and puts my hand on her pussy so I know exactly what to do at this point.

I start rubbing her clit and she starts moaning and I'm fingering her pussy and it feels so small and tight it feels so good for both of us I'm breathing on her neck kissing her cheek nibbling her ear while I'm rubbing this sexy woman's clit my dick hard pressing against her ass oh my god and she keeps moaning. And eventually she rolls over and so I takemy pants off and put some coconut oil on my dick and put a condom on and fuck her missionary style. I'm choking her grabbing her tits, licking her feet. I notice she pushes me back a little bit and I realize she wants me to just rub the head of my dick against her g spot area while I fuck her so I do that and try to hit that upward angle cuz that's the motion and the area that's making her moan the most. She asks for me to get the vibrator so I do, even though she criticized me for bringing a vibrator lol. So I'm fucking her missionary style while she's using the vibrator it's hot she has sexy little legs and I'm licking her feet mid sex and at one point she slaps me across the face and she commands me to cum. So then I slap her back and say no you cum first.

At this point she stops the sex and pushes me off her and says she doesn't like being slapped so I apologized. And I explained to her how my ex girlfriend, who was my first girlfriend of my life, loved it when I slapped her how it would turn her on and I would leave bruises and give her a black eye and she would send me bruise pics and tell me how much the bruise pics turn her on. So when I explained that to her it made a lot more sense to her and she said I'm a really nice guy and that she was enjoying the sex up until that point. She said I didn't do anything wrong and she said she would hang out with me again, just no slapping. Her friend came and picked her up and she left. Noticed the condom had broke and neither of us noticed.

So now I'm at home sipping tea and eating nachos as I write this.
To recap, the biggest lesson learned in cold approach here is how important eye contact is, HEAVY EYE CONTACT> I had never focused on making eye contact with girls before and when I did that's when I got laid. HEAVY EYE CONTACT is SUPER IMPORTANT>

And second lesson learned is don't slap a girl you just met without discussing it beforehand. My ex spoiled me with letting me do whatever I want to her in bed and being my little fuck doll to be used and abused. I have to remember I can't treat every woman like that.

Third lesson I majorly need to get better at teasing, this chick tonight teased me so hard and I have basically zero teasing and flirting skills. She kept teasing me and I wish I was more wittier and could tease her back and be more funny like her. She's really funny actually, funnier than me.

 

[spear_kin]

Hey man, just congrats. Seems like a great experience.

 

[Will_V]

Hi, I'm back. I had sex guys. So this is my first lay through cold approach, and my third lay this year, and the 6th woman I've ever had sex with. I met her in a bar last week and got her number. The biggest thing I feel was super important during the approach was heavy eye contact. I had gone out that night intending to focus on heavy eye contact with girls cuz I had not focused on it before and it worked. I made heavy eye contact with 2 other girls that night and had good convos with them but they didn't work out. My vehicle got towed that night, and I met this girl literally 5 minutes after getting towed, I didn't let the stress of getting towed get to me. I met her while I was waiting for me friend to come pick me up. I remember she looked at me and told me to come over here and we get to talking and I'm being really touchy with her cuz I can tell right away that she's really attracted to me. In fact she told me tonight that I was too handsy when we met cuz my hands were running along the back of her dress and along her thighs, but hey she still came out and fucked me. I remember our conversation when we met consisted of me asking her what was the best sex she's ever had and she said she doesn't talk about that with strangers. Then I started talking about the best sex I ever had with my ex gf. And she told me that she fucks both men and women with a strap on. So I said oh you freaky like Diddy. And then I said something along the lines of I know you like to be submissive to and she said no and I said I know you do or something I don't remember exactly and then she admitted that she does like being submissive and she said she's a switch. I don't remember much else she was talking to her friends and I tried to get her to go to the bathroom with me for bathroom sex. Oh yeah I remember she said she has a boyfriend and I said how long have you been dating and she said a month and I said well have you had the exclusivity talk yet? And she said no, which was a lie btw because she revealed to me tonight that she is supposed to be exclusive with him but she hates him cuz she said he's some big weird fat dude. And I remember she was like so what are we gonna do tonight so it was like damn if I had my vehicle with me I'd already be taking her out of this bar and getting a hotel right now. Which is why I tried to get her to go to the bar bathroom with me but she didn't want to. So anyway then my friend came and picked me up and drove me home since I was without a vehicle and I told my friend how she's so into me and if only I had my vehicle, he was like haha fat chance in hell she didn't seem into you.

I did get my vehicle back that morning at 5am.

So fast forward to yesterday I hit her up and trying to meet up with her, I actually had texted her last week twice but she never responded. She replies and we're planning a meetup and she's busy every day this weekend so finally at this point I'm like well at 2am when the clubs close I can get us a hotel. She's like yeah let's do it. So I went out and did my cold approaches, didn't get any numbers tonight. Then drove to the club she was at and picked her up at 2am met her friends and drove her to the hotel.

So we get to the hotel and she sees me bring in a vibrator and she makes a big deal about it and how we're not going to have sex so I start feeling kinda bad at this point like maybe I'm just a dirty pervert who wants to use women for their bodies. She makes it clear we're not going to have sex so I decide you know what I'm fine with that I'm going to show her what a good guy I am and how I don't need sex and how I respect women. At one point she says you can get into bed with me but don't try anything. So we're in bed for a while both fully clothed and talk a little bit. And god this woman is teasing me she takes her shirt off to reveal her perfect tits and then puts her shirt back on. She takes her pants off and goes over to adjust the AC giving me an amazing view of her ass in that thong. Eventually she's like come cuddle me. So I do and then she criticizes me for cuddling her the wrong way and says do I have to teach you how to cuddle. So then I cuddle her the way she tells me to. With my leg swung her legs in such a way that my dick is pressed up against her ass. I'm getting hard just thinking about cuddling her right now.

Then we're cuddling right and I make small talk ask her what's her favorite drink she says vodka and I say I'm more of a whiskey guy, whiskey on ice. Then I ask her if she's ever had a Tom Collins and she asks me what the fuck is that. SO i explain to her what it is and how I make the best tom collins. THen I asked her if she's ever had a hot toddy, and she said yeah, and then I say I make the best hot toddies and she's like yeah right. So i explain to her the ingredients I use in my own hot toddies at home and she's never heard of them so I'm like see I make the best hot toddies. And then we keep cuddling and then she grabs my hand and puts my hand on her pussy so I know exactly what to do at this point.

I start rubbing her clit and she starts moaning and I'm fingering her pussy and it feels so small and tight it feels so good for both of us I'm breathing on her neck kissing her cheek nibbling her ear while I'm rubbing this sexy woman's clit my dick hard pressing against her ass oh my god and she keeps moaning. And eventually she rolls over and so I takemy pants off and put some coconut oil on my dick and put a condom on and fuck her missionary style. I'm choking her grabbing her tits, licking her feet. I notice she pushes me back a little bit and I realize she wants me to just rub the head of my dick against her g spot area while I fuck her so I do that and try to hit that upward angle cuz that's the motion and the area that's making her moan the most. She asks for me to get the vibrator so I do, even though she criticized me for bringing a vibrator lol. So I'm fucking her missionary style while she's using the vibrator it's hot she has sexy little legs and I'm licking her feet mid sex and at one point she slaps me across the face and she commands me to cum. So then I slap her back and say no you cum first.

At this point she stops the sex and pushes me off her and says she doesn't like being slapped so I apologized. And I explained to her how my ex girlfriend, who was my first girlfriend of my life, loved it when I slapped her how it would turn her on and I would leave bruises and give her a black eye and she would send me bruise pics and tell me how much the bruise pics turn her on. So when I explained that to her it made a lot more sense to her and she said I'm a really nice guy and that she was enjoying the sex up until that point. She said I didn't do anything wrong and she said she would hang out with me again, just no slapping. Her friend came and picked her up and she left. Noticed the condom had broke and neither of us noticed.

So now I'm at home sipping tea and eating nachos as I write this.
To recap, the biggest lesson learned in cold approach here is how important eye contact is, HEAVY EYE CONTACT> I had never focused on making eye contact with girls before and when I did that's when I got laid. HEAVY EYE CONTACT is SUPER IMPORTANT>

And second lesson learned is don't slap a girl you just met without discussing it beforehand. My ex spoiled me with letting me do whatever I want to her in bed and being my little fuck doll to be used and abused. I have to remember I can't treat every woman like that.

Third lesson I majorly need to get better at teasing, this chick tonight teased me so hard and I have basically zero teasing and flirting skills. She kept teasing me and I wish I was more wittier and could tease her back and be more funny like her. She's really funny actually, funnier than me.

@AugusteLoves sounds like you had a wild time!

You definitely want to be very chill about stuff like slapping until you know a girl's into it, if there's something you want to do with her it's best to test the waters with something very lowkey and ramp it up slowly over a few nights together.

Good you talked it over with her after, that goes a long way to building her trust.

When she realizes she can do those sorts of things with you and you'll pay attention to her limits, she'll typically get super horny and want to try stuff.

 

[AugusteLoves]

@AugusteLoves sounds like you had a wild time!

You definitely want to be very chill about stuff like slapping until you know a girl's into it, if there's something you want to do with her it's best to test the waters with something very lowkey and ramp it up slowly over a few nights together.

Good you talked it over with her after, that goes a long way to building her trust.

When she realizes she can do those sorts of things with you and you'll pay attention to her limits, she'll typically get super horny and want to try stuff.

thank you will

 

[Chase]

@AugusteLoves,

Props on your first cold approach lay!

(request: add some paragraph breaks when you write though, man. Save our eyesight! )

I had gone out that night intending to focus on heavy eye contact with girls cuz I had not focused on it before and it worked. I made heavy eye contact with 2 other girls that night and had good convos with them but they didn't work out. My vehicle got towed that night, and I met this girl literally 5 minutes after getting towed, I didn't let the stress of getting towed get to me. I met her while I was waiting for me friend to come pick me up. I remember she looked at me and told me to come over here

Eye contact for the win indeed.

Nice going.

In fact she told me tonight that I was too handsy when we met cuz my hands were running along the back of her dress and along her thighs, but hey she still came out and fucked me. I remember our conversation when we met consisted of me asking her what was the best sex she's ever had and she said she doesn't talk about that with strangers. Then I started talking about the best sex I ever had with my ex gf. And she told me that she fucks both men and women with a strap on. So I said oh you freaky like Diddy. And then I said something along the lines of I know you like to be submissive to and she said no and I said I know you do or something I don't remember exactly and then she admitted that she does like being submissive and she said she's a switch.

It's cool to note here that your touch rubbed her the wrong way (pun ) and she balked at first at talking about sex with you as a stranger.

But she still allowed the touch, still yielded to your frame about the sex talk (after you volunteered first), and in the end you laid her.

she revealed to me tonight that she is supposed to be exclusive with him but she hates him cuz she said he's some big weird fat dude.

lol, this chick is a card.

Why's she even with this dude then?

Chicks date guys they hate so often it's not even funny...

So fast forward to yesterday I hit her up and trying to meet up with her, I actually had texted her last week twice but she never responded. She replies and we're planning a meetup and she's busy every day this weekend so finally at this point I'm like well at 2am when the clubs close I can get us a hotel. She's like yeah let's do it. So I went out and did my cold approaches, didn't get any numbers tonight. Then drove to the club she was at and picked her up at 2am met her friends and drove her to the hotel.

That's the way to do it, man.

Sometimes these girls who are not down for any "dates" WILL be down to come straight over to your place (or in your case, a hotel even).

You'll never know if you never propose it.

So we get to the hotel and she sees me bring in a vibrator and she makes a big deal about it and how we're not going to have sex so I start feeling kinda bad at this point like maybe I'm just a dirty pervert who wants to use women for their bodies. She makes it clear we're not going to have sex so I decide you know what I'm fine with that I'm going to show her what a good guy I am and how I don't need sex and how I respect women. At one point she says you can get into bed with me but don't try anything. So we're in bed for a while both fully clothed and talk a little bit. And god this woman is teasing me she takes her shirt off to reveal her perfect tits and then puts her shirt back on. She takes her pants off and goes over to adjust the AC giving me an amazing view of her ass in that thong. Eventually she's like come cuddle me. So I do and then she criticizes me for cuddling her the wrong way and says do I have to teach you how to cuddle. So then I cuddle her the way she tells me to. With my leg swung her legs in such a way that my dick is pressed up against her ass. I'm getting hard just thinking about cuddling her right now.

Then we're cuddling right and I make small talk ask her what's her favorite drink she says vodka and I say I'm more of a whiskey guy, whiskey on ice. Then I ask her if she's ever had a Tom Collins and she asks me what the fuck is that. SO i explain to her what it is and how I make the best tom collins. THen I asked her if she's ever had a hot toddy, and she said yeah, and then I say I make the best hot toddies and she's like yeah right. So i explain to her the ingredients I use in my own hot toddies at home and she's never heard of them so I'm like see I make the best hot toddies. And then we keep cuddling and then she grabs my hand and puts my hand on her pussy so I know exactly what to do at this point.

Great job staying cool despite her objections.

This girl wanted it.

She just needed to be sure you weren't going to push her into anything before she was ready.

So I'm fucking her missionary style while she's using the vibrator it's hot she has sexy little legs and I'm licking her feet mid sex and at one point she slaps me across the face and she commands me to cum. So then I slap her back and say no you cum first.

At this point she stops the sex and pushes me off her and says she doesn't like being slapped so I apologized. And I explained to her how my ex girlfriend, who was my first girlfriend of my life, loved it when I slapped her how it would turn her on and I would leave bruises and give her a black eye and she would send me bruise pics and tell me how much the bruise pics turn her on. So when I explained that to her it made a lot more sense to her and she said I'm a really nice guy and that she was enjoying the sex up until that point. She said I didn't do anything wrong and she said she would hang out with me again, just no slapping. Her friend came and picked her up and she left. Noticed the condom had broke and neither of us noticed.

How the heck did you feel about that slap across the face though, lol?

I've had girls do that to me on rare occasions. Or the "surprise finger in the butt" is another one like that.

It shocks me enough I just stop the sex mid-thrust, and stare like, "Huh?" then tell them, "That's not gonna fly with me, babe."

Almost always the case they had some dude before who loved that shit... or else they read about it somewhere online how men love that shit and figured they'd try it.

Sometimes you've just gotta set the record straight...

Third lesson I majorly need to get better at teasing, this chick tonight teased me so hard and I have basically zero teasing and flirting skills. She kept teasing me and I wish I was more wittier and could tease her back and be more funny like her. She's really funny actually, funnier than me.

Teasing is awesome!

Anyway, great stuff here, man.

You pulled her in with those sexy eyes and got the lay because you were willing to think outside the box (i.e., proposing the hotel when she wasn't down for any dates).

Many more like this to come!

Chase

 

[AugusteLoves]

@AugusteLoves,

Props on your first cold approach lay!

(request: add some paragraph breaks when you write though, man. Save our eyesight! )



Eye contact for the win indeed.

Nice going.



It's cool to note here that your touch rubbed her the wrong way (pun ) and she balked at first at talking about sex with you as a stranger.

But she still allowed the touch, still yielded to your frame about the sex talk (after you volunteered first), and in the end you laid her.



lol, this chick is a card.

Why's she even with this dude then?

Chicks date guys they hate so often it's not even funny...



That's the way to do it, man.

Sometimes these girls who are not down for any "dates" WILL be down to come straight over to your place (or in your case, a hotel even).

You'll never know if you never propose it.



Great job staying cool despite her objections.

This girl wanted it.

She just needed to be sure you weren't going to push her into anything before she was ready.



How the heck did you feel about that slap across the face though, lol?

I've had girls do that to me on rare occasions. Or the "surprise finger in the butt" is another one like that.

It shocks me enough I just stop the sex mid-thrust, and stare like, "Huh?" then tell them, "That's not gonna fly with me, babe."

Almost always the case they had some dude before who loved that shit... or else they read about it somewhere online how men love that shit and figured they'd try it.

Sometimes you've just gotta set the record straight...



Teasing is awesome!

Anyway, great stuff here, man.

You pulled her in with those sexy eyes and got the lay because you were willing to think outside the box (i.e., proposing the hotel when she wasn't down for any dates).

Many more like this to come!

Chase

Thank you CHase, It's funny I used to read your blog as a teenager and didn't understand it and didn't take action. As far as the slap I didn't like it felt weird. But she didn't like it when I slapped her either. My ex girlfriend LOVED it when I slapped her it was a huge turn on for her so that's why I slapped her I thought it would be okay. But now I'm learning you can't do that with all women. It's crazy I'm talking to you now a guy I used to read in my teens years ago. A little starstruck.

 

[Chad Tyrone]

It shocks me enough I just stop the sex mid-thrust, and stare like, "Huh?" then tell them, "That's not gonna fly with me, babe.

lol same had this chick who wanted to choke me every single time we shagged and I'd stop her and tell her not with me

Then she'd beg and I'll keep declining until she quit asking me to let her choke me.

Funny other guys would let a chick dominate them for fear that she would leave.

She'll love them way more if it was the other way round.

This chick would actually grab my hand and push it down on her throat ...of course I'm carefully not to asphyxiate her.

But I'll never let her do that to me lol...idc if she loved doing it to her past partners

Not with me

 

[Arnav]

Hi, I'm back. I had sex guys. So this is my first lay through cold approach, and my third lay this year, and the 6th woman I've ever had sex with. I met her in a bar last week and got her number. The biggest thing I feel was super important during the approach was heavy eye contact. I had gone out that night intending to focus on heavy eye contact with girls cuz I had not focused on it before and it worked. I made heavy eye contact with 2 other girls that night and had good convos with them but they didn't work out. My vehicle got towed that night, and I met this girl literally 5 minutes after getting towed, I didn't let the stress of getting towed get to me. I met her while I was waiting for me friend to come pick me up. I remember she looked at me and told me to come over here and we get to talking and I'm being really touchy with her cuz I can tell right away that she's really attracted to me. In fact she told me tonight that I was too handsy when we met cuz my hands were running along the back of her dress and along her thighs, but hey she still came out and fucked me. I remember our conversation when we met consisted of me asking her what was the best sex she's ever had and she said she doesn't talk about that with strangers. Then I started talking about the best sex I ever had with my ex gf. And she told me that she fucks both men and women with a strap on. So I said oh you freaky like Diddy. And then I said something along the lines of I know you like to be submissive to and she said no and I said I know you do or something I don't remember exactly and then she admitted that she does like being submissive and she said she's a switch. I don't remember much else she was talking to her friends and I tried to get her to go to the bathroom with me for bathroom sex. Oh yeah I remember she said she has a boyfriend and I said how long have you been dating and she said a month and I said well have you had the exclusivity talk yet? And she said no, which was a lie btw because she revealed to me tonight that she is supposed to be exclusive with him but she hates him cuz she said he's some big weird fat dude. And I remember she was like so what are we gonna do tonight so it was like damn if I had my vehicle with me I'd already be taking her out of this bar and getting a hotel right now. Which is why I tried to get her to go to the bar bathroom with me but she didn't want to. So anyway then my friend came and picked me up and drove me home since I was without a vehicle and I told my friend how she's so into me and if only I had my vehicle, he was like haha fat chance in hell she didn't seem into you.

I did get my vehicle back that morning at 5am.

So fast forward to yesterday I hit her up and trying to meet up with her, I actually had texted her last week twice but she never responded. She replies and we're planning a meetup and she's busy every day this weekend so finally at this point I'm like well at 2am when the clubs close I can get us a hotel. She's like yeah let's do it. So I went out and did my cold approaches, didn't get any numbers tonight. Then drove to the club she was at and picked her up at 2am met her friends and drove her to the hotel.

So we get to the hotel and she sees me bring in a vibrator and she makes a big deal about it and how we're not going to have sex so I start feeling kinda bad at this point like maybe I'm just a dirty pervert who wants to use women for their bodies. She makes it clear we're not going to have sex so I decide you know what I'm fine with that I'm going to show her what a good guy I am and how I don't need sex and how I respect women. At one point she says you can get into bed with me but don't try anything. So we're in bed for a while both fully clothed and talk a little bit. And god this woman is teasing me she takes her shirt off to reveal her perfect tits and then puts her shirt back on. She takes her pants off and goes over to adjust the AC giving me an amazing view of her ass in that thong. Eventually she's like come cuddle me. So I do and then she criticizes me for cuddling her the wrong way and says do I have to teach you how to cuddle. So then I cuddle her the way she tells me to. With my leg swung her legs in such a way that my dick is pressed up against her ass. I'm getting hard just thinking about cuddling her right now.

Then we're cuddling right and I make small talk ask her what's her favorite drink she says vodka and I say I'm more of a whiskey guy, whiskey on ice. Then I ask her if she's ever had a Tom Collins and she asks me what the fuck is that. SO i explain to her what it is and how I make the best tom collins. THen I asked her if she's ever had a hot toddy, and she said yeah, and then I say I make the best hot toddies and she's like yeah right. So i explain to her the ingredients I use in my own hot toddies at home and she's never heard of them so I'm like see I make the best hot toddies. And then we keep cuddling and then she grabs my hand and puts my hand on her pussy so I know exactly what to do at this point.

I start rubbing her clit and she starts moaning and I'm fingering her pussy and it feels so small and tight it feels so good for both of us I'm breathing on her neck kissing her cheek nibbling her ear while I'm rubbing this sexy woman's clit my dick hard pressing against her ass oh my god and she keeps moaning. And eventually she rolls over and so I takemy pants off and put some coconut oil on my dick and put a condom on and fuck her missionary style. I'm choking her grabbing her tits, licking her feet. I notice she pushes me back a little bit and I realize she wants me to just rub the head of my dick against her g spot area while I fuck her so I do that and try to hit that upward angle cuz that's the motion and the area that's making her moan the most. She asks for me to get the vibrator so I do, even though she criticized me for bringing a vibrator lol. So I'm fucking her missionary style while she's using the vibrator it's hot she has sexy little legs and I'm licking her feet mid sex and at one point she slaps me across the face and she commands me to cum. So then I slap her back and say no you cum first.

At this point she stops the sex and pushes me off her and says she doesn't like being slapped so I apologized. And I explained to her how my ex girlfriend, who was my first girlfriend of my life, loved it when I slapped her how it would turn her on and I would leave bruises and give her a black eye and she would send me bruise pics and tell me how much the bruise pics turn her on. So when I explained that to her it made a lot more sense to her and she said I'm a really nice guy and that she was enjoying the sex up until that point. She said I didn't do anything wrong and she said she would hang out with me again, just no slapping. Her friend came and picked her up and she left. Noticed the condom had broke and neither of us noticed.

So now I'm at home sipping tea and eating nachos as I write this.
To recap, the biggest lesson learned in cold approach here is how important eye contact is, HEAVY EYE CONTACT> I had never focused on making eye contact with girls before and when I did that's when I got laid. HEAVY EYE CONTACT is SUPER IMPORTANT>

And second lesson learned is don't slap a girl you just met without discussing it beforehand. My ex spoiled me with letting me do whatever I want to her in bed and being my little fuck doll to be used and abused. I have to remember I can't treat every woman like that.

Third lesson I majorly need to get better at teasing, this chick tonight teased me so hard and I have basically zero teasing and flirting skills. She kept teasing me and I wish I was more wittier and could tease her back and be more funny like her. She's really funny actually, funnier than me.

When you say heavy eye contact improved your game, was it just the frequency of eye contact and how long you held it, or did you change how you looked at women, sedictively or thoughtfully, what was the key change?