I've been a long time reader of Girls Chase, probably dating all the way back to 2011/ late 2012 but reading and results are 2 far removed things. I've never had the balls to go out and cold approach, I do okay with girls having had one 'girlfriend' and a few flings in my life but the time between each lay is enormous. Anyway today I woke up and when I could hear me talking myself out of leaving my bed and cold approaching I decided that I was gonna fight. So I took a cold shower and took a matatu (bus, I'm currently in Nairobi, Kenya) to the city centre and decided that I was not leaving until I had at least 2 phone numbers.
When I arrived, at about 10, it felt like there were beautiful woman showing up every 2 minutes as I walked around but I was too scared to approach, one girl might be a bit too far and I didn't wanna walk too quickly or I might be just behind one that would then suddenly swerve out of my way, I let one pass me that I thought could've been my wife one day and really let myself feel that loss. When I saw one that was just okayish, kinda cute, walking in my direction I walked up to her and said "excuse me" smiled "Are You single?" She just stared at me and slowly then quickly backed away getting as far as possible from me, I must've freaked her out some how. Anyway that sucked and the thought to give up started cropping up but I cut it back down by saying Just 2 phone numbers. Just then this one cute girl in a sundress with the FATTEST ASS walked right by me and was walking quite quickly. Earlier on stuff like this deterred me but I thought I have to meet her but she was so far ahead of me by that point. So I started walking quickly but not towards her as that would be creepy, just parallel to her thinking I could get to her eventually. Still she was walking too fast so I ran behind some parked buses so she wouldn't see me and then came out in front of her, smoothly walking out as I did so. I walked ahead of her and let her catch up to me before I leaned out and touched her forearm and looked into her expectant eyes before saying "excuse me I saw you walking over here and had to come upto you and tell you look gorgeous." She said "thanks"with a genuine smile that encouraged me so I told her my name and asked for hers then I asked her if she was single, she dogded for a lil turning it back to me, I said I was recently single. Her name was Jan she's an aspiring actress that was late for a shoot elsewhere in the city but needed to buy some make up before then. Anyway we bantered for a lil bit with me teasing her saying she's a weedhead since she forgot what movies she watches for fun and her telling me I'm the weedhead to which I responded that that's racist against guys with dreadlocks. Town is a very crowded place so there was lots of incidental touching which led to protective touch when I'd lay my hand on the small of her back or hold her hand to drag her through a crowd pushing men out of our way to do so. Now that I think about it I didn't get much investment from her in relation to the investment I gave, since she only gave me her phone number and told me she'd be free from Friday, while I walked her to 2 stores and waited for her while she bought her make up (it was less than 2 minutes at each store as she did rush but still) she even told me she was glad I was there since she doesn't really trust that part of town (so bodyguard friend level investment?) Anyway after I told her where I'm staying with my parents she told me how she lives alone (I had to justify the whole live at home thing by saying I live in England and am here to visit my parents which is partly true) but kinda some ways out and that we can see a movie nearby hers together. We exchanged digits after I walked her to her bus and I was happy AF, think I botched the end a lil with a bit of an awkward hug (I took a deep breath next to her ear so I think she thinks I smelled her) but still gonna text her after I'm done here and I read some of Chase's articles on texting and see if I can turn the number into something.
The 2nd girl I walked up to I opened with excuse me can you show me where.... (then I looked directly at a bank right next to us and said the name of that bank with a cheeky smile) she laughed and said it's right there I said "I'm kidding I just wanted to come tell you you're cute" she said thanks we exchanged names (She's Joan, I called her Jan by accident but luckily you can confuse those names and not be noticed) and then we walked while I talked at her I say talked at her because she was largely unresponsive or gave really low energy one word answers, but I remembered what Chase wrote about reactions vs results so I asked her to grab a seat with me so we sat on a bench and talked about her life and her ex and how she's only had sex with one guy, we started walking towards wherever her bus was when I said that I don't have sex which surprised her, I only have great sex, then sold her an argument as to why everyone should have multiple lovers throughout their life. We talked some more about how she's gonna go home and watch movies, I invited myself on the premise that I wanted to see more of Nairobi, at this point she was holding my hand but declined saying that one of her sisters is at home and she doesn't want her to see her bringing boys around. I said I respect that at which point I noticed that she had walked us in a circle. So I asked her about that and suggested that she was prolonging things to get more face time with me which led back to earlier chase frames I set revolving around her usually telling guys who talked to her to fuck off but me being her dream guy (I joked about this but I was really mad since at this point I passed the most beautiful women of the whole journey with the exception of the first one I talked to and all this extra walking stopped me from meeting them). I did say that I was her new best friend at times earlier in the interaction when she wasn't responding much. She still didn't respond much throughout the interaction but there was plenty of investment so I feel like she's just like that sometimes or didn't know what to make of me. We exchange numbers and I say goodbye this time doing the squeeze hand thing I remember Chase recommended at some point, with strong eye contact. She burst out smiling then laughing and I laughed before saying bye and leaving. I DID IT I GOT 2 NUMBERS was what I thought and was near the buses back home but thought..... What more can I do?
As I walked up the street I missed a few girls to inaction and a few to staring at them unconsciously and them catching me (when that happened I thought there's no point I failed pre opening) until I saw this one girl that was leaning on one of those Red post office pillar boxes, not doing anything, I thought she was kinda cute and not moving like the others, so I approached her. I asked her where the bank across the street from us was (she looked around clearly not very intently) since she said I don't know where that is. I laughed and pointed at it and then introduced myself saying I just wanted to tell her she looks cute, we talked for a bit she seemed apprehensive so eventually I said I'll get going but decided to ask for her number anyway even though I didn't think it was likely she'd give it to me, somehow it worked, she agreed on the condition that I was not to stubborn (I guess that means socially awkward but persistent #HarveyWeinstein) I said I am hella stubborn by nature and then teased her about trying to give me a fake number since she hit a wrong number at some point, and left with a few more smiles and laughs than their were during the interaction
The 4th girl was a girl waiting for a bus that I had passed by but then decided to turn around and talk to when I remembered that I need to buy a notebook and she was in the direction of the notebooks. She's 19 doing actuarial sciences at university so I figured she was pretty smart, she was extremely pretty, model pretty even which I told her, but she wasn't really my type as she was quite skinny. Could def be a model though. Anyway we talked about the struggles of Kenyan bureaucracy, the inefficiency of matatus, the dangers of boda bodas (motorcycle taxis), about how I'm just walking around town cause I don't know as much about Nairobi as I should as well as travel and how India's a dirty country but China's fucking great to visit (she's visited both I've never been) I asked her to walk around town with me on an adventure but she said she was tired, so I asked her for her number, she thought about it then said "yeah cause you at least talked to me first" I acted surprised that people ask for numbers without talking to people first, she said yeah some guys just did it right before I popped up, I told her people are weird, asked her where she thought I could get a notebook from, she told me and I said by and left.
4 numbers I felt like a god.... so obviously I didn't stop
I went to the store to buy a notebook and ended up in line one person behind this cute girl.... I was staring at her trying to think of how to approach her, it would be easy if there wasn't someone in between us, but I noticed that she saw me staring outta the corner of my eye so I left and went to a shorter line. I was directly behind this girl that had a nice ass and an okayish face so I asked if I could cut in front of her, she looked quite uninterested in my presence so she said nah, when I said I was kidding and just wanted to tell her she looked cute she said thanks and turned around. I said something else to her, she didn't respond at all so I just let it go, paid for my notepads and left. Ate at Subway nothing too cute there so just ate and thought about heading home.
When I left Subway I was ambivalent about heading home cause I felt so in state when I saw a girl walk out of subway with short hair and a nice ass, so I walked up to her and asked her where a store right next to her was while pointing at the sign did the usual tell her she was cute and hit her with the usual questions, what she does for fun, what her dreams are etc, this one was done better than previous girls but when I asked for her number she said not now, to which I responded we'll never see each other again. She says that she has lunch at that same Subway every day so if I want her number I should just wait there. I said "you know what I'll take this rejection with grace and leave" right when I turned around I saw a girl that I'd seen throughout the day but the first time I'd seen her I didn't approach and then all the subsequent times I was already talking to girls. So I walked up to her and asked her if she was stalking me we bantered a bit but she was in a rush said she needed to meet a client soon so I took her number and left. Joked a lil about her trying to give me a fake number. Anyway as I walk around the corner I see the finest girl I have seen all day in all black with heels and an ass as phat if not fatter than Jan's with some perky big C's if not D's (best thing about Kenya is the all natural body) and a cute (but make up covered) face. I walked up to her, said excuse me can you tell me where (building next to us is) she's walking away the whole time and says "come on you fool it's right there" then she walked away before I could say anything I just watched her with a dumb smile on my face... This guy that was walking nearby her was looking at me dumbfounded looked like The Great Khali so I just let her go...
ah well
Anyway I finally decide with 5 numbers to just call it a day and go home, as I'm walking to the bus stop and end up buying "How to Enjoy Your Life and Job" by Dale Carnegie after seeing a Hawker selling it on the side of the street. Just before the bus station I see a gorgeous lil thing in a blue dress buying fruit salad and a couple bananas for lunch (now's when I think of the sexual jokes) and I decided to wait for her to finish buying but after waiting a couple seconds figure that that's quite an awkward thing to do so I just walk up to her mid transaction and tell her I saw her and had to tell her she looked beautiful. She said thanks I think we exchanged names but tbh I'm not that sure anyway I walked her to her office told her what my job is and how I'm not from here, probably be out by January and she reached her office and then gave me her number. I left. Came home wrote this report.
Things that I think I need to work on are my fundamentals obviously, specifically, eye contact and standing straight at least just those 2 right now.
With my approach I need to figure out pre-opening in a fast paced environment and vary up my openers, figure out which is needed when I think if I had just opened some of those girls who saw me looking at them already with a direct opener I might have done better.
But overall day 1 has been a good ass day, out of the girls I approached I got 6 numbers and 4 rejections. Batting at 60% isn't that bad for my first day
Gotta run some errands tomorrow but will try to squeeze in a lil pick up in between. Aiming at 20 numbers for the week
My biggest struggle right now is not masturbating to the thought of the girls mixed with some porn rn (it's day 1 of NoFap) But it feels like day 1 of the rest of my life... Thank You Chase Amante!!!
If anyone has any pointers to throw my way I'd be happy to hear em
Cheers Trevor
When I arrived, at about 10, it felt like there were beautiful woman showing up every 2 minutes as I walked around but I was too scared to approach, one girl might be a bit too far and I didn't wanna walk too quickly or I might be just behind one that would then suddenly swerve out of my way, I let one pass me that I thought could've been my wife one day and really let myself feel that loss. When I saw one that was just okayish, kinda cute, walking in my direction I walked up to her and said "excuse me" smiled "Are You single?" She just stared at me and slowly then quickly backed away getting as far as possible from me, I must've freaked her out some how. Anyway that sucked and the thought to give up started cropping up but I cut it back down by saying Just 2 phone numbers. Just then this one cute girl in a sundress with the FATTEST ASS walked right by me and was walking quite quickly. Earlier on stuff like this deterred me but I thought I have to meet her but she was so far ahead of me by that point. So I started walking quickly but not towards her as that would be creepy, just parallel to her thinking I could get to her eventually. Still she was walking too fast so I ran behind some parked buses so she wouldn't see me and then came out in front of her, smoothly walking out as I did so. I walked ahead of her and let her catch up to me before I leaned out and touched her forearm and looked into her expectant eyes before saying "excuse me I saw you walking over here and had to come upto you and tell you look gorgeous." She said "thanks"with a genuine smile that encouraged me so I told her my name and asked for hers then I asked her if she was single, she dogded for a lil turning it back to me, I said I was recently single. Her name was Jan she's an aspiring actress that was late for a shoot elsewhere in the city but needed to buy some make up before then. Anyway we bantered for a lil bit with me teasing her saying she's a weedhead since she forgot what movies she watches for fun and her telling me I'm the weedhead to which I responded that that's racist against guys with dreadlocks. Town is a very crowded place so there was lots of incidental touching which led to protective touch when I'd lay my hand on the small of her back or hold her hand to drag her through a crowd pushing men out of our way to do so. Now that I think about it I didn't get much investment from her in relation to the investment I gave, since she only gave me her phone number and told me she'd be free from Friday, while I walked her to 2 stores and waited for her while she bought her make up (it was less than 2 minutes at each store as she did rush but still) she even told me she was glad I was there since she doesn't really trust that part of town (so bodyguard friend level investment?) Anyway after I told her where I'm staying with my parents she told me how she lives alone (I had to justify the whole live at home thing by saying I live in England and am here to visit my parents which is partly true) but kinda some ways out and that we can see a movie nearby hers together. We exchanged digits after I walked her to her bus and I was happy AF, think I botched the end a lil with a bit of an awkward hug (I took a deep breath next to her ear so I think she thinks I smelled her) but still gonna text her after I'm done here and I read some of Chase's articles on texting and see if I can turn the number into something.
The 2nd girl I walked up to I opened with excuse me can you show me where.... (then I looked directly at a bank right next to us and said the name of that bank with a cheeky smile) she laughed and said it's right there I said "I'm kidding I just wanted to come tell you you're cute" she said thanks we exchanged names (She's Joan, I called her Jan by accident but luckily you can confuse those names and not be noticed) and then we walked while I talked at her I say talked at her because she was largely unresponsive or gave really low energy one word answers, but I remembered what Chase wrote about reactions vs results so I asked her to grab a seat with me so we sat on a bench and talked about her life and her ex and how she's only had sex with one guy, we started walking towards wherever her bus was when I said that I don't have sex which surprised her, I only have great sex, then sold her an argument as to why everyone should have multiple lovers throughout their life. We talked some more about how she's gonna go home and watch movies, I invited myself on the premise that I wanted to see more of Nairobi, at this point she was holding my hand but declined saying that one of her sisters is at home and she doesn't want her to see her bringing boys around. I said I respect that at which point I noticed that she had walked us in a circle. So I asked her about that and suggested that she was prolonging things to get more face time with me which led back to earlier chase frames I set revolving around her usually telling guys who talked to her to fuck off but me being her dream guy (I joked about this but I was really mad since at this point I passed the most beautiful women of the whole journey with the exception of the first one I talked to and all this extra walking stopped me from meeting them). I did say that I was her new best friend at times earlier in the interaction when she wasn't responding much. She still didn't respond much throughout the interaction but there was plenty of investment so I feel like she's just like that sometimes or didn't know what to make of me. We exchange numbers and I say goodbye this time doing the squeeze hand thing I remember Chase recommended at some point, with strong eye contact. She burst out smiling then laughing and I laughed before saying bye and leaving. I DID IT I GOT 2 NUMBERS was what I thought and was near the buses back home but thought..... What more can I do?
As I walked up the street I missed a few girls to inaction and a few to staring at them unconsciously and them catching me (when that happened I thought there's no point I failed pre opening) until I saw this one girl that was leaning on one of those Red post office pillar boxes, not doing anything, I thought she was kinda cute and not moving like the others, so I approached her. I asked her where the bank across the street from us was (she looked around clearly not very intently) since she said I don't know where that is. I laughed and pointed at it and then introduced myself saying I just wanted to tell her she looks cute, we talked for a bit she seemed apprehensive so eventually I said I'll get going but decided to ask for her number anyway even though I didn't think it was likely she'd give it to me, somehow it worked, she agreed on the condition that I was not to stubborn (I guess that means socially awkward but persistent #HarveyWeinstein) I said I am hella stubborn by nature and then teased her about trying to give me a fake number since she hit a wrong number at some point, and left with a few more smiles and laughs than their were during the interaction
The 4th girl was a girl waiting for a bus that I had passed by but then decided to turn around and talk to when I remembered that I need to buy a notebook and she was in the direction of the notebooks. She's 19 doing actuarial sciences at university so I figured she was pretty smart, she was extremely pretty, model pretty even which I told her, but she wasn't really my type as she was quite skinny. Could def be a model though. Anyway we talked about the struggles of Kenyan bureaucracy, the inefficiency of matatus, the dangers of boda bodas (motorcycle taxis), about how I'm just walking around town cause I don't know as much about Nairobi as I should as well as travel and how India's a dirty country but China's fucking great to visit (she's visited both I've never been) I asked her to walk around town with me on an adventure but she said she was tired, so I asked her for her number, she thought about it then said "yeah cause you at least talked to me first" I acted surprised that people ask for numbers without talking to people first, she said yeah some guys just did it right before I popped up, I told her people are weird, asked her where she thought I could get a notebook from, she told me and I said by and left.
4 numbers I felt like a god.... so obviously I didn't stop
I went to the store to buy a notebook and ended up in line one person behind this cute girl.... I was staring at her trying to think of how to approach her, it would be easy if there wasn't someone in between us, but I noticed that she saw me staring outta the corner of my eye so I left and went to a shorter line. I was directly behind this girl that had a nice ass and an okayish face so I asked if I could cut in front of her, she looked quite uninterested in my presence so she said nah, when I said I was kidding and just wanted to tell her she looked cute she said thanks and turned around. I said something else to her, she didn't respond at all so I just let it go, paid for my notepads and left. Ate at Subway nothing too cute there so just ate and thought about heading home.
When I left Subway I was ambivalent about heading home cause I felt so in state when I saw a girl walk out of subway with short hair and a nice ass, so I walked up to her and asked her where a store right next to her was while pointing at the sign did the usual tell her she was cute and hit her with the usual questions, what she does for fun, what her dreams are etc, this one was done better than previous girls but when I asked for her number she said not now, to which I responded we'll never see each other again. She says that she has lunch at that same Subway every day so if I want her number I should just wait there. I said "you know what I'll take this rejection with grace and leave" right when I turned around I saw a girl that I'd seen throughout the day but the first time I'd seen her I didn't approach and then all the subsequent times I was already talking to girls. So I walked up to her and asked her if she was stalking me we bantered a bit but she was in a rush said she needed to meet a client soon so I took her number and left. Joked a lil about her trying to give me a fake number. Anyway as I walk around the corner I see the finest girl I have seen all day in all black with heels and an ass as phat if not fatter than Jan's with some perky big C's if not D's (best thing about Kenya is the all natural body) and a cute (but make up covered) face. I walked up to her, said excuse me can you tell me where (building next to us is) she's walking away the whole time and says "come on you fool it's right there" then she walked away before I could say anything I just watched her with a dumb smile on my face... This guy that was walking nearby her was looking at me dumbfounded looked like The Great Khali so I just let her go...
ah well Anyway I finally decide with 5 numbers to just call it a day and go home, as I'm walking to the bus stop and end up buying "How to Enjoy Your Life and Job" by Dale Carnegie after seeing a Hawker selling it on the side of the street. Just before the bus station I see a gorgeous lil thing in a blue dress buying fruit salad and a couple bananas for lunch (now's when I think of the sexual jokes) and I decided to wait for her to finish buying but after waiting a couple seconds figure that that's quite an awkward thing to do so I just walk up to her mid transaction and tell her I saw her and had to tell her she looked beautiful. She said thanks I think we exchanged names but tbh I'm not that sure anyway I walked her to her office told her what my job is and how I'm not from here, probably be out by January and she reached her office and then gave me her number. I left. Came home wrote this report.
Things that I think I need to work on are my fundamentals obviously, specifically, eye contact and standing straight at least just those 2 right now.
With my approach I need to figure out pre-opening in a fast paced environment and vary up my openers, figure out which is needed when I think if I had just opened some of those girls who saw me looking at them already with a direct opener I might have done better.
But overall day 1 has been a good ass day, out of the girls I approached I got 6 numbers and 4 rejections. Batting at 60% isn't that bad for my first day
Gotta run some errands tomorrow but will try to squeeze in a lil pick up in between. Aiming at 20 numbers for the week
My biggest struggle right now is not masturbating to the thought of the girls mixed with some porn rn (it's day 1 of NoFap) But it feels like day 1 of the rest of my life... Thank You Chase Amante!!!
If anyone has any pointers to throw my way I'd be happy to hear em
Cheers Trevor
