I'm wondering if you guys have a certain type of routine you stick to when having sex with a girl for the first time. A sequence of positions you go through, etc.
I've read some differing advice on this. Some guys say do everything possible to make the girl cum. Others say to just be dominant and focus on your pleasure, as that is more alpha and congruent with the masculine frame you set when having sex on the first or second date.
Do you tease the girl first? Do foreplay? Try to stick it in ASAP?
Personally, after I get the girl naked, I'll usually finger her while making out for like 5 mins. I've tried the deep spot method a couple of time (supposed to give girls a vaginal orgasm) but it hasn't worked for me. With no pictures/videos and just a text description, I can't be sure that I'm doing it right.
Then I'll do the adapted missionary position. If she doesn't cum after 10 mins (I now know I should give this more time), I'll switch to her on top, then switch to doggy, and then we're done. This all lasts around 30 mins.
I've had mixed results with this. Some girls cum, some cum 5+ times, some don't cum at all. Some get out of breath. Some give me no indication that they're even enjoying themselves. Sometimes I feel like this girl just isn't going to cum, so I finish once I fee like we've gone long enough.
Seems like the less hot/less experienced they are the easier it is to make them cum. The really hot ones have been difficult for me to retain, so I feel like whatever I'm doing could be improved. What should I be doing differently?
After reading David Shade's book and Sex God Method I feel like it might be more about what you say than what you do, and if I'm being honest I don't say very much during sex. Maybe this is what's missing?
I've read some differing advice on this. Some guys say do everything possible to make the girl cum. Others say to just be dominant and focus on your pleasure, as that is more alpha and congruent with the masculine frame you set when having sex on the first or second date.
Do you tease the girl first? Do foreplay? Try to stick it in ASAP?
Personally, after I get the girl naked, I'll usually finger her while making out for like 5 mins. I've tried the deep spot method a couple of time (supposed to give girls a vaginal orgasm) but it hasn't worked for me. With no pictures/videos and just a text description, I can't be sure that I'm doing it right.
Then I'll do the adapted missionary position. If she doesn't cum after 10 mins (I now know I should give this more time), I'll switch to her on top, then switch to doggy, and then we're done. This all lasts around 30 mins.
I've had mixed results with this. Some girls cum, some cum 5+ times, some don't cum at all. Some get out of breath. Some give me no indication that they're even enjoying themselves. Sometimes I feel like this girl just isn't going to cum, so I finish once I fee like we've gone long enough.
Seems like the less hot/less experienced they are the easier it is to make them cum. The really hot ones have been difficult for me to retain, so I feel like whatever I'm doing could be improved. What should I be doing differently?
After reading David Shade's book and Sex God Method I feel like it might be more about what you say than what you do, and if I'm being honest I don't say very much during sex. Maybe this is what's missing?
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