I went to a poetry reading in NYC and walking in I saw a energetic young attractive Asian woman. The girl is 4"10 and looks like she could be in middle school, but I instantly knew she was older. I sat away from her on the other side of the room initially and was going to wait after the show was over to go and introduce myself, but remembered the SAC model and how breaking rules is important to evoke arousal. I sat next to her and told her I just wanted to meet her.
We started talking during the reading until being scolded by the host. I learn shes Taiwanese and I tell her I'm Chinese to build similarity but i'm like 13-20% Chinese and don't look it. I tell her she looks absolutely adorable when she dances to let her know my intentions. We make small talk. walk out side and she asks me if I want to grab food or something. I'm absolutely shocked at this IOI, because its a huge sign of interest on her part. I make a mental note to lead more and/or faster, because I'm the man and should lead the interaction.
We end up grabbing coffee at a Starbucks. We talk about cultural identity and american society. She invests a lot into the conversation, because I'm comfortable being silent and she feels a need to fill the silence. But I reward her investment by showing similarity and relating with my own experiences and she feels okay to continue investing. My body language is on point and I continuously touch her as we talk, very lightly on her elbow. She talks about how she wants to make american friends, but its hard. She distanced her self from her Chinese friends who only hang out with other Chinese people. I take this as an verbal IOI. I learn that she is 24 and we talk about her age and how young Americans think she is. She thinks I'm 27 and hints that she thinks I'm mature, I tell her I'm around her age. She really wants to know my age and asks again tells me that age doesn't matter I let her know that I'm 23 to reward her investment. I move next to her so i can watch her video on her phone asks how she can send it to me and I said by number. she suggests Instagram, but I insist and say yeah but I want your number. We then exchange numbers, but she says she should tell me now that she has a boyfriend. She then asks me if I can sit in my seat across the table.
I didn't make a big deal out of her boyfriend or moving seats, because Chinese women don't get very psychical with their family or friends and thus aren't used to it. She was also visibly nervous, but didn't move away which I took as a sign of being okay. Upon reflection I should have moved even closer, I was close so I was hovering, this caused tension to build without being released. Touching her with my leg or shoulder would make her feel relieved. I also don't want to be her boyfriend. Shes invested so much at this point she obviously likes me despite having a boyfriend. I get the feeling like she hasn't dated many men, because Taiwan is much more conservative and men there aren't aggressive. And I think she wants to date an american boy, because her boyfriend is likely Chinese. She tells me later that she view marriage like insurance. That is some one to have your back and take care of you, not really a love type of deal. I view this as a sign she wants to hook up.
I make a plan for us to sit close together and tell her we're going to play a game. She says okay, after she heads to the bathroom. I place a chair next to mine and tell her to sit there because we're going to play the game, she complies. I tell her this is a game I play with my younger sisters. I hold her palms and place them on top of mine with mine facing up. I then quickly move my hands and tap the top of her hands with mine and let her know I've won. She goes next laughs a little like shes embarrassed. I let her know she won, (because I let her that time) to reward her for complying. She says shes had enough. too embarrassed. Dosn't matter to me because she complied and now we are sitting closer to each other. I get her to comply to other things too. like standing up to compare our heights. and having her hand me her hand so I can check out her nails. Have her hand me her glasses. Have her switch seats again. She grows visibly warmer to me with a broad smile and a submissive eye contact. head faced downwards looking up with a smile on her face. giggles and looks really cute.
About an hour into our date I make a mental note I could definitely had pulled, because I built enough S A C, but I didn't have a pull location. She lives on hour or more away from Manhattan in queens And I live an hour away in New jersey. I don't go for the kiss during the date because I read somewhere on girls chase that we shouldn't kiss a girl till we have them in a location where we can escalate to sex. I wanted her to want me to kiss her and to keep having the anticipation of a kiss to keep her arousal up. Before we left I hugged her tightly, because that's how you give a good hug. I told her Americans hug their friends. I wanted her to be unsure of my intentions and implied we're friends. She said yes but i'm nervous. (they don't do that in Taiwan) I said well we can practice so you can hug your american friends. I told her it makes them like you more, Its like saying I trust you( saying you trust her, makes her trust you more). we hugged two more times. she said good by and left.
two hours later she texts me with videos of her singing. I take this as confirmation that the date went well.
questions, where logistically do I pull this girl? I want to pull her fast! We have lots of SAC and the passion is high, but it needs an outlet. I plan on meeting her at the same venue next week. I could rent an airbnb and pull her there, but that's suspect, because you have to rent those in advance. I could book an expensive hotel same night in nyc. I think it would be worth it because I'm a virgin and want to get my first lay. I could try and pull her back to her place, but the ride is an hour subway ride would and that would kill the vibe and put her into a logical mindset. I know of a cheaper love hotel in nyc but it's not close to our meeting location.
On the second date do I have to rebuild SAC all over again. I can't just go pull into a hotel right away?
We started talking during the reading until being scolded by the host. I learn shes Taiwanese and I tell her I'm Chinese to build similarity but i'm like 13-20% Chinese and don't look it. I tell her she looks absolutely adorable when she dances to let her know my intentions. We make small talk. walk out side and she asks me if I want to grab food or something. I'm absolutely shocked at this IOI, because its a huge sign of interest on her part. I make a mental note to lead more and/or faster, because I'm the man and should lead the interaction.
We end up grabbing coffee at a Starbucks. We talk about cultural identity and american society. She invests a lot into the conversation, because I'm comfortable being silent and she feels a need to fill the silence. But I reward her investment by showing similarity and relating with my own experiences and she feels okay to continue investing. My body language is on point and I continuously touch her as we talk, very lightly on her elbow. She talks about how she wants to make american friends, but its hard. She distanced her self from her Chinese friends who only hang out with other Chinese people. I take this as an verbal IOI. I learn that she is 24 and we talk about her age and how young Americans think she is. She thinks I'm 27 and hints that she thinks I'm mature, I tell her I'm around her age. She really wants to know my age and asks again tells me that age doesn't matter I let her know that I'm 23 to reward her investment. I move next to her so i can watch her video on her phone asks how she can send it to me and I said by number. she suggests Instagram, but I insist and say yeah but I want your number. We then exchange numbers, but she says she should tell me now that she has a boyfriend. She then asks me if I can sit in my seat across the table.
I didn't make a big deal out of her boyfriend or moving seats, because Chinese women don't get very psychical with their family or friends and thus aren't used to it. She was also visibly nervous, but didn't move away which I took as a sign of being okay. Upon reflection I should have moved even closer, I was close so I was hovering, this caused tension to build without being released. Touching her with my leg or shoulder would make her feel relieved. I also don't want to be her boyfriend. Shes invested so much at this point she obviously likes me despite having a boyfriend. I get the feeling like she hasn't dated many men, because Taiwan is much more conservative and men there aren't aggressive. And I think she wants to date an american boy, because her boyfriend is likely Chinese. She tells me later that she view marriage like insurance. That is some one to have your back and take care of you, not really a love type of deal. I view this as a sign she wants to hook up.
I make a plan for us to sit close together and tell her we're going to play a game. She says okay, after she heads to the bathroom. I place a chair next to mine and tell her to sit there because we're going to play the game, she complies. I tell her this is a game I play with my younger sisters. I hold her palms and place them on top of mine with mine facing up. I then quickly move my hands and tap the top of her hands with mine and let her know I've won. She goes next laughs a little like shes embarrassed. I let her know she won, (because I let her that time) to reward her for complying. She says shes had enough. too embarrassed. Dosn't matter to me because she complied and now we are sitting closer to each other. I get her to comply to other things too. like standing up to compare our heights. and having her hand me her hand so I can check out her nails. Have her hand me her glasses. Have her switch seats again. She grows visibly warmer to me with a broad smile and a submissive eye contact. head faced downwards looking up with a smile on her face. giggles and looks really cute.
About an hour into our date I make a mental note I could definitely had pulled, because I built enough S A C, but I didn't have a pull location. She lives on hour or more away from Manhattan in queens And I live an hour away in New jersey. I don't go for the kiss during the date because I read somewhere on girls chase that we shouldn't kiss a girl till we have them in a location where we can escalate to sex. I wanted her to want me to kiss her and to keep having the anticipation of a kiss to keep her arousal up. Before we left I hugged her tightly, because that's how you give a good hug. I told her Americans hug their friends. I wanted her to be unsure of my intentions and implied we're friends. She said yes but i'm nervous. (they don't do that in Taiwan) I said well we can practice so you can hug your american friends. I told her it makes them like you more, Its like saying I trust you( saying you trust her, makes her trust you more). we hugged two more times. she said good by and left.
two hours later she texts me with videos of her singing. I take this as confirmation that the date went well.
questions, where logistically do I pull this girl? I want to pull her fast! We have lots of SAC and the passion is high, but it needs an outlet. I plan on meeting her at the same venue next week. I could rent an airbnb and pull her there, but that's suspect, because you have to rent those in advance. I could book an expensive hotel same night in nyc. I think it would be worth it because I'm a virgin and want to get my first lay. I could try and pull her back to her place, but the ride is an hour subway ride would and that would kill the vibe and put her into a logical mindset. I know of a cheaper love hotel in nyc but it's not close to our meeting location.
On the second date do I have to rebuild SAC all over again. I can't just go pull into a hotel right away?
