Sticking point I see. Recommendations are welcome.
Saw room, it was kinda packed. A lot of spaces and dark corners. Hung my jacket on a staircase railing. Considering how loose the place was, it didn't seem to have harm pending.
#challenge speak to the ones that I can till I see one that likes me, then attempt to move them.
No.1 was a girl, I just tapped her shoulder and she was thrilled to speak to me..while we were talking, her friend butts in. But she tries to ignore the friend and re engages. Instantly, the friend returns. Crazy..so I left.
No.2 girl was obv bored and left out of her group so I saunter over and begin chatting, her friend who was already being kept busy by some guy, runs over to step in between. She actually tries to cause a scene because she says I should get out. I ignore her and look away. She stands in front of me, I give her a brief glance and remain stood. Then she goes to call the security. I haven't said anything to her. While she's talking to the guard,I slowly walk away into a more visible position. Squashing any anger or bitterness in the process. The night's still full of potential..I can't be side tracked by other bitter folks around me. So I bound off in glee to the opposite side of the dance floor.then comes girl..
No.3 she gladly lets me sit with her with her legs crossed in my direction. She's telling me much about her self. I give I barely three minutes and ask her to come to a more quieter part of the club. She reclines. Says she'll come meet me downstairs. I know this wouldn't work..even though the club is not so packed, how can I take her seriously. I go downstairs to rest at the bar. I'm finding myself thinking about the girl..would she come or not..
No. 4 has already been playing with me at the bar but I know she was only being social cuz her friends were watching her..and me. Playing with me here is like screening the lyrics of the song in unison while walking up to me and laughing. Shaking me on the shoulders a bit. After approaching no. 5, I return to her and hug her. She takes her eyes away, like she's shy but I lean in to her ear to ask where she's from. She answers and when we try to talk some more, she walks away mid sentence.
No. 5 she's standing by the bar, looking well open. I tap her on the corner of her elbow. She turns round, thrilled to speak then, when I motion for us to move closer to the bar she shakes her head and acts like she didn't ever speak to me.
The night is over, as I leave I see no. 3, say hi to her but this time she's cold as Coors light. Dang! These chicks tho.
I've noticed a pattern though. I seem to get them reacting beautifully to me..meaning that they feel my presence when I talk to them or approach them but could it be that my qns seem to monotonous. Asking where they from and what they do..and what brought them out tonight instead of staying in bed..
Do I need to be more talkative to get them to relax instead of only letting them talk.
Also, what's the deal with moving that seems to get these girls shrinking back not in bitterness because I notice that they'd watch me leave with the corner of they eyes or a full glare in my direction. It's like they know I can offer them something but I'm not hitting it yet.
#reflection #resultoftalk #socialtraining
Saw room, it was kinda packed. A lot of spaces and dark corners. Hung my jacket on a staircase railing. Considering how loose the place was, it didn't seem to have harm pending.
#challenge speak to the ones that I can till I see one that likes me, then attempt to move them.
No.1 was a girl, I just tapped her shoulder and she was thrilled to speak to me..while we were talking, her friend butts in. But she tries to ignore the friend and re engages. Instantly, the friend returns. Crazy..so I left.
No.2 girl was obv bored and left out of her group so I saunter over and begin chatting, her friend who was already being kept busy by some guy, runs over to step in between. She actually tries to cause a scene because she says I should get out. I ignore her and look away. She stands in front of me, I give her a brief glance and remain stood. Then she goes to call the security. I haven't said anything to her. While she's talking to the guard,I slowly walk away into a more visible position. Squashing any anger or bitterness in the process. The night's still full of potential..I can't be side tracked by other bitter folks around me. So I bound off in glee to the opposite side of the dance floor.then comes girl..
No.3 she gladly lets me sit with her with her legs crossed in my direction. She's telling me much about her self. I give I barely three minutes and ask her to come to a more quieter part of the club. She reclines. Says she'll come meet me downstairs. I know this wouldn't work..even though the club is not so packed, how can I take her seriously. I go downstairs to rest at the bar. I'm finding myself thinking about the girl..would she come or not..
No. 4 has already been playing with me at the bar but I know she was only being social cuz her friends were watching her..and me. Playing with me here is like screening the lyrics of the song in unison while walking up to me and laughing. Shaking me on the shoulders a bit. After approaching no. 5, I return to her and hug her. She takes her eyes away, like she's shy but I lean in to her ear to ask where she's from. She answers and when we try to talk some more, she walks away mid sentence.
No. 5 she's standing by the bar, looking well open. I tap her on the corner of her elbow. She turns round, thrilled to speak then, when I motion for us to move closer to the bar she shakes her head and acts like she didn't ever speak to me.
The night is over, as I leave I see no. 3, say hi to her but this time she's cold as Coors light. Dang! These chicks tho.
I've noticed a pattern though. I seem to get them reacting beautifully to me..meaning that they feel my presence when I talk to them or approach them but could it be that my qns seem to monotonous. Asking where they from and what they do..and what brought them out tonight instead of staying in bed..
Do I need to be more talkative to get them to relax instead of only letting them talk.
Also, what's the deal with moving that seems to get these girls shrinking back not in bitterness because I notice that they'd watch me leave with the corner of they eyes or a full glare in my direction. It's like they know I can offer them something but I'm not hitting it yet.
#reflection #resultoftalk #socialtraining
