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Hi, it's me again with another field report. I don't have a whole lot to tell you guys, but it's something nonetheless. I've been working on the social arts, I took a day off from approaching again it's emotional draining, and I'm slowly becoming a popular guy. Everyday I seem to get better at socializing the more I push myself to do it. The thing is, I look back at my interactions and I go over my mistakes and come up with more effective ways to interact with people. I also realized the more I work on my fundamentals the more people want to talk to me. I'll tell you what happened today at my school.
The kids in my first period always comment on my walk. They say I walk like a thug, and they always want to interact with me. I talk to only a few of them, but I'm really socially inept I don't know how to manage the flow of a topic. This boy ,from my first period, we were play fighting in class. Everyone was quit when I started talking to him, I told him to put up his "set". He kept acting tough,so I dropped into my fighting stance with lighting speed (I always use to pratice my fighting skills by watching martial arts video and doing punching exercises. I'm really good at it, I've always been proud of my fighting skills) and the boy retreated and everyone, including the teacher, was flabbergasted. Everyone in there were talking about it (even my teacher, who called me Muhammad Ali) for at least 50 minutes. One of the guys asked "when is he going to talk to us?" I really did wanted to talk to them, but I didn't because 1) I felt drained for the approach from yesterday 2) I sometimes don't want to be judge because of my low social skills ( I really am ashame and it's my fault). I decide next class I'll talk to them and flirt with that cute chick that's been looking at me and brushing her hair/fixing her eyebrows in the mirror when I past by her. I hope they don't reject my approach to speak with them, I'm ashame to be so anxious to socialize with my own species, but I'll get better so I'm not so crushed by the fact that I'm inexperienced. Anyways, enough of me complaining and I'll tell you the rest of my day in school.
3rd period I was socializing with a guy friend, nothing special. In lunch, however, I was talking to an old friend about making new friends. The conversation was really engaging and we both were sharing and learning from each other, something I rarely do with people( I think it was the first time I did so). In 5th period I stayed quite and only did small talk with a new friend of mines. 7th period I stayed quite almost all the time:because I get piss off if I don't complete my personal goals. It was when they called my name and my guy friend on the PA ,or whatever you call those shits , down to the atrium. I spot this girl I've had a little crush and I sat next to her and we talked( she is always overly excited). The principle came out and said that those of use in this room failed the reading fcat. I was understandably mad and the girl I was with was too, she was stressing about that stupid test all year. We Came out of the atrium and decide not to return to class because we were discourage by the news ( school was almost over anyways). Me, my guy friend, and that girl I was with were talking about what just happened. When my guy friend was away from the two of us, I ask her out like so: "[here name], I know this is a bad time to ask, but you want to go out with me?" of course she agreed that it was a bad time and resumed talking about the test and pushing my request aside, ignoring it. ( maybe she'll bring it up tomorrow, but I doubt it-- in my experience they never do). She ends up leaving and I stay for a little to talk to my guy friend and I departed.
I know that was stupid of me, but at least I manage the courage to ask a girl out-- this is the third girl I've asked out. I don't know what I'm doing sometimes and I push for something to happen, so I did at the wrong time. I noticed my guy friends and the girl kept breaking circle with me whenever their friends pass by, or when they hear laughter (espeacially the girl). I have a strong feeling I'm doing something wrong with the way I interact with people.
Like always feel free to share your thoughts and advise on what I've done wrong in socializing and asking that girl out. I feel bad for not passing the reading fcat. I know this is far from seduction, but if you have any tips for me/ advise to improve my reading, writing ,or test score feel free to share. I need all the help I can get,Thanks for reading.
Stay strong,
David
The kids in my first period always comment on my walk. They say I walk like a thug, and they always want to interact with me. I talk to only a few of them, but I'm really socially inept I don't know how to manage the flow of a topic. This boy ,from my first period, we were play fighting in class. Everyone was quit when I started talking to him, I told him to put up his "set". He kept acting tough,so I dropped into my fighting stance with lighting speed (I always use to pratice my fighting skills by watching martial arts video and doing punching exercises. I'm really good at it, I've always been proud of my fighting skills) and the boy retreated and everyone, including the teacher, was flabbergasted. Everyone in there were talking about it (even my teacher, who called me Muhammad Ali) for at least 50 minutes. One of the guys asked "when is he going to talk to us?" I really did wanted to talk to them, but I didn't because 1) I felt drained for the approach from yesterday 2) I sometimes don't want to be judge because of my low social skills ( I really am ashame and it's my fault). I decide next class I'll talk to them and flirt with that cute chick that's been looking at me and brushing her hair/fixing her eyebrows in the mirror when I past by her. I hope they don't reject my approach to speak with them, I'm ashame to be so anxious to socialize with my own species, but I'll get better so I'm not so crushed by the fact that I'm inexperienced. Anyways, enough of me complaining and I'll tell you the rest of my day in school.
3rd period I was socializing with a guy friend, nothing special. In lunch, however, I was talking to an old friend about making new friends. The conversation was really engaging and we both were sharing and learning from each other, something I rarely do with people( I think it was the first time I did so). In 5th period I stayed quite and only did small talk with a new friend of mines. 7th period I stayed quite almost all the time:because I get piss off if I don't complete my personal goals. It was when they called my name and my guy friend on the PA ,or whatever you call those shits , down to the atrium. I spot this girl I've had a little crush and I sat next to her and we talked( she is always overly excited). The principle came out and said that those of use in this room failed the reading fcat. I was understandably mad and the girl I was with was too, she was stressing about that stupid test all year. We Came out of the atrium and decide not to return to class because we were discourage by the news ( school was almost over anyways). Me, my guy friend, and that girl I was with were talking about what just happened. When my guy friend was away from the two of us, I ask her out like so: "[here name], I know this is a bad time to ask, but you want to go out with me?" of course she agreed that it was a bad time and resumed talking about the test and pushing my request aside, ignoring it. ( maybe she'll bring it up tomorrow, but I doubt it-- in my experience they never do). She ends up leaving and I stay for a little to talk to my guy friend and I departed.
I know that was stupid of me, but at least I manage the courage to ask a girl out-- this is the third girl I've asked out. I don't know what I'm doing sometimes and I push for something to happen, so I did at the wrong time. I noticed my guy friends and the girl kept breaking circle with me whenever their friends pass by, or when they hear laughter (espeacially the girl). I have a strong feeling I'm doing something wrong with the way I interact with people.
Like always feel free to share your thoughts and advise on what I've done wrong in socializing and asking that girl out. I feel bad for not passing the reading fcat. I know this is far from seduction, but if you have any tips for me/ advise to improve my reading, writing ,or test score feel free to share. I need all the help I can get,Thanks for reading.
Stay strong,
David
