FR++/FU: Don't get comfortable

[Verisimilitude]

It's been a while. The reason is I've been having sex with the last two LRs I've had. Which is nice, but I'm getting bored and it doesn't motivate me to push my limits. Plus one girl has a boyfriend and is starting to feel bad, and the other I now know wants something long term and knows I'm not down for that. More importantly, when I don't keep improving, things fall apart, like you'll see here.

I had two girls coming to my party. And I knew it was gonna be crazy, so I knew I could always find a girl. As things are starting to heat up, I get a text from one of them saying she's here. So I walk around and stop by and say hi. I wasn't gonna hover so I left. I later see her making out with someone else. I guess because I've been drinking and we had been fucking, I got mad. Which is what she wanted. What I should have done is found someone else. But what I actually did was talk to her. She kept pushing me for what I wanted from her. I'm guessing she wasn't cool with being a hookup and since school is almost over, she knew I wasn't gonna stick around. She also told me that she was about to date someone else. We talked a bit more and I just decided to leave because it wasn't going anywhere.

As I came back, my friends were about to go get food. Lame, but I was getting tired and was upset. I was about to go, when a girl walked up to me. I actually had sex with her last year (Check out viewtopic.php?f=5&t=4015). I say hi, she smiles, walks up, and kisses me on the cheek. Not a friendly kiss. I usually don't like stuff like that, but damn it felt good. She did this crazy thing with her tongue . And its always nice to have you friends see hot girls come up and do that stuff. So I tell my friends I'll see them later and take her upstairs. This is where I started to have my doubts. I was hammered, but she was trashed. We went into my bathroom, and I started making out with her. From here, I figure I'm good to have sex with her.

But then I see how drunk she is. She stops and says she wants to find her friends. I say fine, and then she says, "I don't know what to dooooo" (sloppy drunk girl voice). I tell her she's too drunk and she says she isn't. By now, I know I can have sex with her and I know she wants me, but I just can't go forward with this and feel good about it. Call it the last bits of the nice guy in me. So I go to the bathroom and tell her to go find her friends. I just can't do things with a girl who doesn't know what she's doing. What do you guys think about this?

As I leave, I text two girls and I get replies and interest, but nothing happens. How do I work drunk late night booty calls?

So that was my night. Don't get comfortable. I'm going to get back out there and meet new girls. I can't rely on any past hookups anymore. I gotta get back out there and start approaching.

 

[Pato]

V,

But then I see how drunk she is. She stops and says she wants to find her friends. I say fine, and then she says, "I don't know what to dooooo" (sloppy drunk girl voice). I tell her she's too drunk and she says she isn't. By now, I know I can have sex with her and I know she wants me, but I just can't go forward with this and feel good about it. Call it the last bits of the nice guy in me. So I go to the bathroom and tell her to go find her friends. I just can't do things with a girl who doesn't know what she's doing. What do you guys think about this?

I think you made the right choice here. When a girl gets too drunk, and way too sloppy, it's a definite turn off for me. When a girl drinks too much, she can definitely start to lose some of her appeal. Especially if you're not that drunk at all, it just feels weird if you were gonna get with her. And for some reason I feel like when a girl gets that drunk, it's like all the guys can smell it (like they're sharks or something) and start focusing on her and trying harder to get with her. Maybe it's just me, I dunno.

Anyways, you had been drinking as well, but it didn't seem like you were anywhere close to how drunk she was. Now if you were as drunk or more drunk than her, I think fucking her is fine, especially considering you have already gotten with her. I think for you either way would've been okay, and at this point I probably would've just kept going (partially my inexperience and partially the decisions I make when I'm wasted aren't really thought through at all), but if you weren't feeling it then I think that's a good call. In general I say try to be somewhere close to her levels of intoxication if you are gonna try to hook up with her, otherwise move on to other girls.

-Pato

 

[ocantu1987]

hey man you did good here, you have what I call "humanity". I would only get with a girl who has been drinking light to moderately never heavy.

 

[Casanovelis]

I'd say that you did right as well, even though you both were conscious of what you were doing and consenting. I am afraid of how loosely girls throw around accusations of rape nowadays. I've had girls tell me about being raped. Through further inquiry the whole thing sounded like just something she was iffy about but did it anyways. Then later she realizes she definitely didn't want to and then it was rape.

 

[Verisimilitude]

I'm glad to hear people agree. I didn't put this up to be a nice guy/white knight or anything like that. Because fuck that. Believe me, I'm not a white knight. In all honesty, I consider myself a morally bad person.

I think she wanted me. The "I don't know what to do" was a pretty clear sign that she wanted to fuck me but also didn't want to leave her friends. And we have had sex before and she didn't have any problems with me the day after.

But I'm also not going to ruin my future for one lay. I know this girl is crazy (just the way I like them) and unpredictable. The typical party girl. Which makes for a fun time and great sex, but also some risk. I also did feel a little morally bad. But I'm ok with still having a bit of a conscience. So that's what motivated my decision.

The problem is that there's no way that I can get laid. I could tell her that we can meet up with her friends and then chill (and hope she sobers up), but that's moving backwards and there's friend cockblocking issues. I could have still pulled it off though (I've done it before and when a girl wants me, her friends know to back off). I guess that was the route I should have gone. But the fight I had with the first girl really threw me. It was the first real time I had to admit I had some feelings but didn't want to date her and the fight made me pretty angry.

But the fact that I couldn't close with any of the four girls I interacted with (3 of whom I have had sex with) really was what bothered me the most. Not a good batting average.