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This is my first field report on this site, but I am familiar with the material on this site.
I went out on Friday to a latin nightclub for a birthday. It was with a group of friends, and I made a late arrival. Once I get there, I'm greeted by males/females, and since it's a fairly smaller club than average, it is pretty noticeable to the crowd, and I get instant social proof.
I get a couple of beers in me, and start setting out the vibe, and chat up a few girls here and there about their night.
Three interactions happened, that I think are worth mentioning.
Girl #1 in the lounge: HB8 petite Persian girl, nicely proportioned body. She's dancing with a few skilled salsa dancers, they are all pulling out their moves for her. I wait until these guys exhaust their dance floor game, and she goes back to her friends. I catch her staring at me, and I give her a signal to come dance, she acts a little shy, so I grab her by the hand, and start dancing. I give a different kind of movement, which involves her body rubbing up on me very sexually; she's aroused. I sexual frame her while dancing. I stop after one song, take her to the bar, get her talking about herself. I buy drinks for both of us. I tell her we should meet up later that night or another day, I ask for her digits. She wants to but hesitates, says she's always unsure about giving out her number. I'm a bit puzzled but play along anyway, I tell her enjoy the drink, and see ya later. I slowly make my way back to my friend. I'm gauging another girl to talk to, when I see the same girl, she is calling me over. I look at her and smile, while signaling for her to come to me. She looks puzzled. I look away and don't pay her no mind for the rest of the night, she leaves. I'm not going to go over to her, when I gave her a chance to move things along with me before. Maybe that's selfish, but that's what I decided to do, so feedback would help.
Girl#2 in the lounge: I pick a corner where there's a group of girls all dressed in white sitting at a booth. I post up near them. I wait 15 seconds, and right on queue, 4 girls get up and start dancing all around me, trying to get my attention. I notice they're trying to push towards their friend, HB8 Romanian girl, nice legs, in a mini skirt, perfect face and hair, I'm instantly attracted and I approach her. Get her talking about herself, she asks me questions about where I'm from, etc. I was a little tipsy, but I remember teasing and making her laugh. We go dance for a bit (she's not that great of a dancer) , and I'm trying to generate intrigue, she gets a little excited, but can tell she likes me. I ask for her digits, she tells me she's going on a trip for 2 months so she doesn't see the point.. I respond with:"no way, I'm leaving on a trip for 3 months!" with a playful sarcastic smile. She smiles, and takes my phone, and puts her number in with her name so fast, I thought it was fake. So I pretend to check if i got her number right by getting her to repeat it to me. She says it all by heart. I tell her:" nice meeting you, talk to you soon". She smiles and goes back to her friends.
I texted her the next day:" Hi (her name), it was nice meeting you last night, if you haven't already left on your trip, hope you got home safe." blah blah. No response since.
Girl #3 (at a pub after the club): she's an older woman, possibly 30. She's a restaurant manager. Our group is getting ready to leave. I start chatting her about speaking french, since it's my second language. She asked me how I learned, I respond (in french):" I spent alot of time watching french movies, and reading the subtitles, with a french dictionary in my hand". I made that up , but that seemed to intrigue her for some reason, she got really into the conversation, and in getting to know me. She's closing up the restaurant, so she asks for my name, I start teasing her, if she always ask customer's for their names, she smiles, and says she finds me interesting, etc. I ask for her digits, so we can meet up for coffee, but gives me her business card for the bar she works at. Never had that before. I tell her I can't keep things professional for too long with a playful smile. She smiles. Nonetheless, she insist I come by while she's working so we talk, etc. Not sure how to proceed with this one.
Now, out of all these interactions, I noticed that I have a hard time building some good rapport, and some sort of connection that will keep them wanting more. All these women seemed to find me physically attractive, and enjoyed talking to me but I felt as if I always came up short when asking for digits, or getting no response if I do get a number and text them. This seems to be my dilemma lately.
Any feedback is welcome. I'm new at the field stuff. Just came out for a 2 and half year relationship, so I'm trying to get back on the horse.
Sorry for any bad format, or spelling errors. I typed this up late.
This is my first field report on this site, but I am familiar with the material on this site.
I went out on Friday to a latin nightclub for a birthday. It was with a group of friends, and I made a late arrival. Once I get there, I'm greeted by males/females, and since it's a fairly smaller club than average, it is pretty noticeable to the crowd, and I get instant social proof.
I get a couple of beers in me, and start setting out the vibe, and chat up a few girls here and there about their night.
Three interactions happened, that I think are worth mentioning.
Girl #1 in the lounge: HB8 petite Persian girl, nicely proportioned body. She's dancing with a few skilled salsa dancers, they are all pulling out their moves for her. I wait until these guys exhaust their dance floor game, and she goes back to her friends. I catch her staring at me, and I give her a signal to come dance, she acts a little shy, so I grab her by the hand, and start dancing. I give a different kind of movement, which involves her body rubbing up on me very sexually; she's aroused. I sexual frame her while dancing. I stop after one song, take her to the bar, get her talking about herself. I buy drinks for both of us. I tell her we should meet up later that night or another day, I ask for her digits. She wants to but hesitates, says she's always unsure about giving out her number. I'm a bit puzzled but play along anyway, I tell her enjoy the drink, and see ya later. I slowly make my way back to my friend. I'm gauging another girl to talk to, when I see the same girl, she is calling me over. I look at her and smile, while signaling for her to come to me. She looks puzzled. I look away and don't pay her no mind for the rest of the night, she leaves. I'm not going to go over to her, when I gave her a chance to move things along with me before. Maybe that's selfish, but that's what I decided to do, so feedback would help.
Girl#2 in the lounge: I pick a corner where there's a group of girls all dressed in white sitting at a booth. I post up near them. I wait 15 seconds, and right on queue, 4 girls get up and start dancing all around me, trying to get my attention. I notice they're trying to push towards their friend, HB8 Romanian girl, nice legs, in a mini skirt, perfect face and hair, I'm instantly attracted and I approach her. Get her talking about herself, she asks me questions about where I'm from, etc. I was a little tipsy, but I remember teasing and making her laugh. We go dance for a bit (she's not that great of a dancer) , and I'm trying to generate intrigue, she gets a little excited, but can tell she likes me. I ask for her digits, she tells me she's going on a trip for 2 months so she doesn't see the point.. I respond with:"no way, I'm leaving on a trip for 3 months!" with a playful sarcastic smile. She smiles, and takes my phone, and puts her number in with her name so fast, I thought it was fake. So I pretend to check if i got her number right by getting her to repeat it to me. She says it all by heart. I tell her:" nice meeting you, talk to you soon". She smiles and goes back to her friends.
I texted her the next day:" Hi (her name), it was nice meeting you last night, if you haven't already left on your trip, hope you got home safe." blah blah. No response since.
Girl #3 (at a pub after the club): she's an older woman, possibly 30. She's a restaurant manager. Our group is getting ready to leave. I start chatting her about speaking french, since it's my second language. She asked me how I learned, I respond (in french):" I spent alot of time watching french movies, and reading the subtitles, with a french dictionary in my hand". I made that up , but that seemed to intrigue her for some reason, she got really into the conversation, and in getting to know me. She's closing up the restaurant, so she asks for my name, I start teasing her, if she always ask customer's for their names, she smiles, and says she finds me interesting, etc. I ask for her digits, so we can meet up for coffee, but gives me her business card for the bar she works at. Never had that before. I tell her I can't keep things professional for too long with a playful smile. She smiles. Nonetheless, she insist I come by while she's working so we talk, etc. Not sure how to proceed with this one.
Now, out of all these interactions, I noticed that I have a hard time building some good rapport, and some sort of connection that will keep them wanting more. All these women seemed to find me physically attractive, and enjoyed talking to me but I felt as if I always came up short when asking for digits, or getting no response if I do get a number and text them. This seems to be my dilemma lately.
Any feedback is welcome. I'm new at the field stuff. Just came out for a 2 and half year relationship, so I'm trying to get back on the horse.
Sorry for any bad format, or spelling errors. I typed this up late.
