I began talking to the first girl, she was excited to speak to me until her boyfriend came in. Next I began speaking to the one just on the other side of me,by the bar. She may or may not have just seen me speak to the other girl. Anyways,she was cold and so was her friend.
After hanging there for a few more minutes, I walked to another section and saw two Asian girls,sitting quietly in the corner.
I first made myself noticeable by seating a few seats in front of them and making random convo with the guy standing nearby. Then after a few minutes, I moved to where they were sat and began talking to one of them really energetically. My opener: why's the party gone from here.
The girl wasn't very strong on the English tongue but we had a good vibe and she let me into her space. She looked older than most girls there. After speaking for a bit, I noticed that I was leaning in a bit too much, so I teased her and leaned back and she followed my lead and leaned forward.. I saw that as my cue to move her so I offered to go somewhere more quiet. She reclined initially. Previously, I used to wait for their reaction but this time I acted like I had decided for her.. already. She moved and we went to another section and were talking.
As we sat there talking, I touched her lap and rubbed against her body, then said to her that we could go to somewhere with a more quiet music and cheap drinks. The aim was to go home of course. She reclined , returned to her friend somewhat reluctantly and I joined her a bit. It got difficult from there so I left gracefully.
While at the bar again, I saw this pretty girl try to go through the crowd. I pulled her into me and we got talking, then I moved her to the same spot I was with the other girl.(shortly the other girl left the club.) And we were talking . I could see that she was hooking. It was for less than five minutes and I asked for us to leave the club. She followed me outside, probably assuming that we were going to talk some more with less noise, but when I asked her to take a bit of a walk down the street, she reclined and slowly she made away.
#lessons
#reflection #resultoftalk #socialtraining
On checking this, I'm really keen on moving fast with the girl but it seems like I hadn't been taking time to build comfort with the girl first. Even if they made slight moves from location to location, they could have had a deeper resolve to join me.
I also had decided not to make-out with any of the girls because I felt that would stall going home with them.
Thirdly, I want to incorporate more chase framing and pleasant teasing. I think that even if they enjoy talking about themselves and I provide good convo, those two additions would spike my results and make them more excited. My concern though is that, if the venue has much loud music, Chase framing might be a bit reaction focused.
I guess, if I use body language more and eye contact, it would make up for the noise and the words I use.
After hanging there for a few more minutes, I walked to another section and saw two Asian girls,sitting quietly in the corner.
I first made myself noticeable by seating a few seats in front of them and making random convo with the guy standing nearby. Then after a few minutes, I moved to where they were sat and began talking to one of them really energetically. My opener: why's the party gone from here.
The girl wasn't very strong on the English tongue but we had a good vibe and she let me into her space. She looked older than most girls there. After speaking for a bit, I noticed that I was leaning in a bit too much, so I teased her and leaned back and she followed my lead and leaned forward.. I saw that as my cue to move her so I offered to go somewhere more quiet. She reclined initially. Previously, I used to wait for their reaction but this time I acted like I had decided for her.. already. She moved and we went to another section and were talking.
As we sat there talking, I touched her lap and rubbed against her body, then said to her that we could go to somewhere with a more quiet music and cheap drinks. The aim was to go home of course. She reclined , returned to her friend somewhat reluctantly and I joined her a bit. It got difficult from there so I left gracefully.
While at the bar again, I saw this pretty girl try to go through the crowd. I pulled her into me and we got talking, then I moved her to the same spot I was with the other girl.(shortly the other girl left the club.) And we were talking . I could see that she was hooking. It was for less than five minutes and I asked for us to leave the club. She followed me outside, probably assuming that we were going to talk some more with less noise, but when I asked her to take a bit of a walk down the street, she reclined and slowly she made away.
#lessons
#reflection #resultoftalk #socialtraining
On checking this, I'm really keen on moving fast with the girl but it seems like I hadn't been taking time to build comfort with the girl first. Even if they made slight moves from location to location, they could have had a deeper resolve to join me.
I also had decided not to make-out with any of the girls because I felt that would stall going home with them.
Thirdly, I want to incorporate more chase framing and pleasant teasing. I think that even if they enjoy talking about themselves and I provide good convo, those two additions would spike my results and make them more excited. My concern though is that, if the venue has much loud music, Chase framing might be a bit reaction focused.
I guess, if I use body language more and eye contact, it would make up for the noise and the words I use.
