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A big part of frame control and being able to talk to and relate to a great many people, is being able to consider everything.
It takes putting your own judgements and hang ups aside and being able to see things from every aspect.
Truth is there is no such thing as the truth. Truth is what you deem to believe in at the moment. It’s not concrete, it’s fluid and subjective to the person.
What may be true in one moment, may not be true in the next. When you consider the good and the bad, or the evil and the just, as mutually exclusive truth’s, you can start to see how everything is connected in one way or another.
This gives you the freedom of frames, because you can consider everything, and it gives you the ability to relate to things you may not relate to as a person per say.
And when you speak, you can speak a truth not easily challenged, because you’re considering all sides, and it’s objectively hard to argue with someone who can look past their own agenda and at the bigger picture.
Most people are biased in their frame work. They only communicate frames that align with their beliefs and agenda or situation. They have things they like and things they don’t.
When you can understand why the things they like aren’t so great and why the things they don’t are only that way because of how they’re framing it. You can flip their frame upside down, and they can’t argue it because they never considered why the things they don’t like might be likeable to other people.
This is powerful two fold because when you consider everything you can see how things on two different ends of the spectrum aren’t all that different in the first place. You see how they connect.
When you can communicate how you’re really talking about the same thing, although different on the surface. You can bring people into your frame because your frames are the same in a way.
For examples sake lets say you have a girl who claims she never gives oral. She just doesn’t it’s gross and she may catch a std.
Well she’s already kissed you. You’re more likely to get a std from kissing than oral sex. And even so oral sex is just skin to skin contact, if she’s kissed you, she’s essentially kissed your dick (lol). In the same way that shaking hands is no more intimate that hugging someone.
Yes there’s more contact in a hug, but the hands are much dirtier than the body. In the same way that the lips are much dirtier than the genitals. They’re more exposed to the elements.
And you both care greatly about your hygiene. So although your lips may not be dirty it’s safe to say that your genitals, your more intimate of areas, are much more taken care of.
Is this the truth? Yes and no.
In the same way having sex is like eating food. Is it done to accomplish some biologal need or to bond in some greater way? Sure. But even more so it’s done for pleasure. If we had the option to take some flavorless pill and be satiated for the day.
Most people would still opt to eat food because it’s an enjoyable experience. People like the feelings, and experiences that come from eating food and having sex.
It doesn’t have to be done to feed some social purpose. Because at the end of the day we do things we like because we like to do them.
It’s being like water because you are neutral in your reception. You don’t agree nor disagree fully. And once you understand their frame and where they’re coming from you can respond using the elements that they gave you. As a wave.
You understand their truth and respond with a greater truth that includes theirs.
It takes putting your own judgements and hang ups aside and being able to see things from every aspect.
Truth is there is no such thing as the truth. Truth is what you deem to believe in at the moment. It’s not concrete, it’s fluid and subjective to the person.
What may be true in one moment, may not be true in the next. When you consider the good and the bad, or the evil and the just, as mutually exclusive truth’s, you can start to see how everything is connected in one way or another.
This gives you the freedom of frames, because you can consider everything, and it gives you the ability to relate to things you may not relate to as a person per say.
And when you speak, you can speak a truth not easily challenged, because you’re considering all sides, and it’s objectively hard to argue with someone who can look past their own agenda and at the bigger picture.
Most people are biased in their frame work. They only communicate frames that align with their beliefs and agenda or situation. They have things they like and things they don’t.
When you can understand why the things they like aren’t so great and why the things they don’t are only that way because of how they’re framing it. You can flip their frame upside down, and they can’t argue it because they never considered why the things they don’t like might be likeable to other people.
This is powerful two fold because when you consider everything you can see how things on two different ends of the spectrum aren’t all that different in the first place. You see how they connect.
When you can communicate how you’re really talking about the same thing, although different on the surface. You can bring people into your frame because your frames are the same in a way.
For examples sake lets say you have a girl who claims she never gives oral. She just doesn’t it’s gross and she may catch a std.
Well she’s already kissed you. You’re more likely to get a std from kissing than oral sex. And even so oral sex is just skin to skin contact, if she’s kissed you, she’s essentially kissed your dick (lol). In the same way that shaking hands is no more intimate that hugging someone.
Yes there’s more contact in a hug, but the hands are much dirtier than the body. In the same way that the lips are much dirtier than the genitals. They’re more exposed to the elements.
And you both care greatly about your hygiene. So although your lips may not be dirty it’s safe to say that your genitals, your more intimate of areas, are much more taken care of.
Is this the truth? Yes and no.
In the same way having sex is like eating food. Is it done to accomplish some biologal need or to bond in some greater way? Sure. But even more so it’s done for pleasure. If we had the option to take some flavorless pill and be satiated for the day.
Most people would still opt to eat food because it’s an enjoyable experience. People like the feelings, and experiences that come from eating food and having sex.
It doesn’t have to be done to feed some social purpose. Because at the end of the day we do things we like because we like to do them.
It’s being like water because you are neutral in your reception. You don’t agree nor disagree fully. And once you understand their frame and where they’re coming from you can respond using the elements that they gave you. As a wave.
You understand their truth and respond with a greater truth that includes theirs.
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