Frat Parties - Having Problems with Getting Girls

[Joniman]

Hey Guys,

I am a college student at a university in Queens NY. I have been having some problems with getting any type of action at college during any type of party. I will ask about frat parties since most of the parties we go to are those. So, I arrive at the college frat party but how do i get girls there?

- I get comfortably buzzed with Vodka and go to the party. Sometimes it goes over hand but mostly I get comfortably drunk before I arrive at the party.
- We pre game with couple of friends and go there and we get in without any problems.
- I am lean and would rate myself a 7-8.

SO here are the questions:

1) How do you go about approaching college girls at frat parties? This parties do have a bit of grinding and kissing around, but not a lot of dancing. There is a beer pong table mostly and alcohol isn't a problem.

2) When I arrive at the party with a couple of girls and my friends [We are all socially good-looking], how do I go about meeting people. How do I become the life of the party and meet a lot of people during a frat party? How would I approach a girl or a group?

Basically what I appreciate would be a to do and not to do complete guide on college frat parties and if you also know about college bars

 

[mindful]

don't get drunk.

 

[Joniman]

OK thank you. I am buzzed. I don't get drunk

 

[Tony B]

You go to SJU too?

I'm far from an expert but I will share what works/has worked for me. I'm still a beginner and learning too but my results have been way more good than bad.

NOTE: Go with the intent to have fun. Yeah, ideally you want to lay a girl by the end of the night but a fixated mindset might make you more tense and annoyed when things don't go your way when you are a beginner. Above all else, if one girl rejects you, that doesn't mean that you won't leave with another, so don't give up. Don't ever let a girl ruin your night and ESPECIALLY don't let her be in control of YOUR emotions.

Again, this isn't cut and dry. Not every situation is the same, but this usually works for me when nothing else does.

For Frat Parties (kinda applies bars):
1. Don't get too drunk. Girls sense that as soon as you walk through the door.
2. Approach as many girls as you want but the more you appear to be enjoying yourself, the more available and open you will appear.
3. Don't only stick to your circle but also don't forget to engage with them too. Girls will notice you having fun or dancing with other girls. They'll want to see what all the hype is about.
4. If you recognize a girl, go up and talk to her. I can't tel you how many times this worked for me if I've seen her on multiple occasions.
5. There are probably girls eyeing you down, wishing you would go talk to them. Catch them staring, hold eye contact for a second, smile, then make your move.
6. Don't scare a girl by her not seeing you first (Don't walk up behind her). I personally don't walk straight up to girls unless they either look at me first, or stare me down like a hawk. If you aren't in her field of vision, try to position yourself next to her so that a conversation would happen more naturally. If she's not interested, she'll move away.
7. Everyone asks the whole "What's your Major" question. Yeah its a jaded opener but use it. If you recognize the girl, talk to her about where you might've seen her.
8. Don't stick too much on openers and don't give all of her questions a straightforward answers. If you toy with her a little, it makes room for playfulness conversation to grow.
9. Offer her a drink, and move her. Even if you just move her a step to the side to get out of the way of other people. If she complies, she'll begin to invest and follow your lead.
10. After you successfully lead her, get her to dance with you.
11. When I'm grinding with a girl, (and we have been for more than one song) as they're grinding on me, I usually give them a light kiss on the cheek. Immediately after, they'll swing around, grab me by the face, and go to town.
12. Most likely, If you're making out heavy, you can bring her home. If she's on her period she'll just ask for your number. Which still isn't bad.

Pong tables are hard to get a hold of nowadays- God knows why- but if you can rule a pong table and look like you're the shit and having fun while doing it, it helps so much.

Lastly, the hardest thing for me personally to remember was to let loose and have fun. Even if a girl doesn't go home with you that night, that doesn't mean she won't later on in the night, or on another. This goes without saying but if a girl visibly is trying to avoid you, move on. Last thing you want is to be "that guy." EVERYONE will notice. There are tons of girls at the parties anyways.

I hope this helped and I wish you good luck.