Did some night game Last night to be honest was fairly intoxicated but still had control an sense.
During the night i was getting lots of explicit indications of interest which was really positive.
Also was with my buddy who is a Natural and a couple of other who we spent portions of the night with.
From the night i had a Major FU (Learning experience with a situation which was a LR on a Platter.)
The story met up with a girl been talking too for a while got with them on another occasion but then didn't move on the night then have been corresponding had couple of other meetings which i actually redeemed myself form almost auto rejection just by being more dominant.
This brings us to the night out i just had middle of the night she actually tried calling me but since was enjoying my night so much and actually socializing with a group of girls with my natural buddy i didn't notice until later. Gave her a call she tried getting me to come to her location a bit of back and forth i didn't budge didn't think i was going to see her for the whole night but out of no where she appeared at same club.
From there huge kino start then the Huge escalation window appeared which she presented which i didnt over come the whole night until the very end after some advice from my buddy.
Basically i remained dominant cause i was getting token resistance for example she was trying to get us to stay on the balcony with everyone and i just said im going to dance enjoy the night for a bit put my hand said you coming and just lead. On the dance floor i was getting some mixed signals cause she would sometime dance on me then ill dance back then she kept pulling back or if i get close in kissing range she would pull back kinda trying to get me to chase.
With her also build a good kinda role play which was useful throughout the night. I was moving her constantly and building compliance. After a while we where back on the balcony couldn't work out why i was not getting anywhere with escalation and she also kept telling me about how she had lost all her friends phone flat etc. so every time i was trying to escalate this was mentioned. She had no battery cause she was low and left her friends in the club to come to my club so obviously she was down.
At the end i asked my buddy for some advice because even though he suffers from approach anxiety he is definitely a much better at closing and conversing on a normal energy level. which is why its good going out with him cause typically i dont have any approach anxiety unless its high vibe scenarios my conversation is fairly poor although improving (by deep diving better) but still have a some awkward silences which i typically handle with ice breakers the one i used was "The point in time you know your truly comfortable with someone is when you can sit in silence and not feel awkward, we got a lot of work to do" something along that line got the group laughing and got them investing in the conversation.
With the girl in the FU i also had more windows when she was checking my living situations "who you live with ?" as well which i did no pick up immediately as a window. As i said before i got help from my buddy and his advice was simple and advice iv given on the board but failed to implement myself and i genuinely felt like an idiot for not doing it which was too lead like an Alpha male and to just ask or make a statement which i did asking her why doesn't she just stay at mine. At this point her eye lit up insinuating that i finally got the picture after that she was like really in a positive tone, and right this is the bit it FU the most is when she said that and we where having really strong eye contact i did not lead like an alpha male and take her hand and leave i just stuck there in my logical mind while remaining eye contact waiting for a proper response from her. Then a of hers came who she was going to stay with and he was leaving so just ended with her hugging kissing me and leaving. (just because i didn't lead her out instead i just sat there like a deer stuck in head lights).
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From this experience what i learned was
I need to stop thinking logically when trying to escalate and trying to use logic to escalate with women just lead like and alpha male confidently
I need to work on my outcome independence, because before the night i thought i was completely out come independent and was outcome independent with a lot of my interactions but there where many points which i just didn't lead or didn't make a move. (what did i have to lose) and i was also genuinely angry with my self with the FU like i just missed a point blank goal in the grand final.
I need too meet more women to cross over with the previous point if i meet more i wont be so angry for missing the easy shots because ill will have abundance and it wont be a big deal
Also having your logistic sorted is also important cause i remembered my room was really messy and when drunk it was just another excuse early on to not go for the pull even though i over came it mentally.
Feel free to make comments the order is not really set out well but i just put the most imporant point in my opinion as i remembered it.
