Hi guys,
Just wanted some advice on a girl situation that has been frustrating me recently. Basically, last year I ended my first 'proper' relationship after many years and although I thought I was okay at the time, it has taken me a long time to get back into meeting girls again. After finding that my approach methods were clumsy to say the least after being out of the game for so long, I decided to try and find some resources that would help me in regaining my confidence around women again. That's where I came across Chase's book and a number of others that have really helped to improve my confidence and feel less fearful when approaching women, especially at bars and nightclubs.
So, I met a girl a few months back whilst on a night out and managed to follow all the guidelines outlined in the books I had read and went back to her place. The morning after, it didn't seem awkward at all and we seemed to get on pretty well, but I didn't think anything of it really as it was just a one night stand. We hooked up again the following night as we both happened to meet up again (I hadn't taken her number after the first night) and the same scenario occurred once more. Now I felt that actually I quite liked her and she was giving me similar signals, but again, I didn't try and read too much into it as we had only met each other twice! I left it a couple of days and texted her and we met up again on more of a date and we seemed to get on well and I ended up going back to hers again. But after this, I waited to see if she would text me as I'd initiated it last time but.. nothing. I was a bit annoyed but tried to leave it.. but found myself texting her again a week or so later, where we arranged again to meet up and we got on really well again. I've now met up with her one on one at least 5-6 times, and each time we seem to get on really well and we are very intimate, but I feel that I am having to do most of the work when it comes to initiating contact after we meet up again.
As I say, I have been out of the loop for a while and so I am totally confused by what's happening. I know I should just probably leave it, but it's messing with my head that she is so warm to me when we are together and we get on really well, but then I hear nothing from her really afterwards. She is a few years younger than me, so maybe she doesn't want anything serious, but I'm not sure I want anything serious either! I just can't figure her out and that's what's doing my head in! Maybe I'm only continuing because I'm 'enjoying the chase' but I feel like I'm not in control, which I should be and it's really frustrating me. I'm possibly meeting her again sometime this week, and I reckon the same pattern will follow.. I'm going to try and just take it for what it is I suppose, which is just a pleasant time with a girl I like, but I just wanted to see if anyone had been in a similar situation and how they dealt with it? I know I am attaching way too much emotion to this 'relationship' and I know it's stupid but for some reason I can't get away from it. I have been with a few girls since this all started but have had no real emotional attachment to any of them, so I'm not naturally 'clingy'... just can't figure this one out at all..
Thanks for reading, hopefully someone can help out!
Just wanted some advice on a girl situation that has been frustrating me recently. Basically, last year I ended my first 'proper' relationship after many years and although I thought I was okay at the time, it has taken me a long time to get back into meeting girls again. After finding that my approach methods were clumsy to say the least after being out of the game for so long, I decided to try and find some resources that would help me in regaining my confidence around women again. That's where I came across Chase's book and a number of others that have really helped to improve my confidence and feel less fearful when approaching women, especially at bars and nightclubs.
So, I met a girl a few months back whilst on a night out and managed to follow all the guidelines outlined in the books I had read and went back to her place. The morning after, it didn't seem awkward at all and we seemed to get on pretty well, but I didn't think anything of it really as it was just a one night stand. We hooked up again the following night as we both happened to meet up again (I hadn't taken her number after the first night) and the same scenario occurred once more. Now I felt that actually I quite liked her and she was giving me similar signals, but again, I didn't try and read too much into it as we had only met each other twice! I left it a couple of days and texted her and we met up again on more of a date and we seemed to get on well and I ended up going back to hers again. But after this, I waited to see if she would text me as I'd initiated it last time but.. nothing. I was a bit annoyed but tried to leave it.. but found myself texting her again a week or so later, where we arranged again to meet up and we got on really well again. I've now met up with her one on one at least 5-6 times, and each time we seem to get on really well and we are very intimate, but I feel that I am having to do most of the work when it comes to initiating contact after we meet up again.
As I say, I have been out of the loop for a while and so I am totally confused by what's happening. I know I should just probably leave it, but it's messing with my head that she is so warm to me when we are together and we get on really well, but then I hear nothing from her really afterwards. She is a few years younger than me, so maybe she doesn't want anything serious, but I'm not sure I want anything serious either! I just can't figure her out and that's what's doing my head in! Maybe I'm only continuing because I'm 'enjoying the chase' but I feel like I'm not in control, which I should be and it's really frustrating me. I'm possibly meeting her again sometime this week, and I reckon the same pattern will follow.. I'm going to try and just take it for what it is I suppose, which is just a pleasant time with a girl I like, but I just wanted to see if anyone had been in a similar situation and how they dealt with it? I know I am attaching way too much emotion to this 'relationship' and I know it's stupid but for some reason I can't get away from it. I have been with a few girls since this all started but have had no real emotional attachment to any of them, so I'm not naturally 'clingy'... just can't figure this one out at all..
Thanks for reading, hopefully someone can help out!