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Hey guys,
I know Chase has touched on this in some blog posts before now. Basically being the "entertainer" vs. being a "sexy guy".
A lot of PUA techniques seem to revolve around being the entertainer and a lot of conventional advice seems to go that way too. i.e. "Be yourself, make her laugh"...
Here is how I am naturally:
I'm told by friends that I'm quite funny but it's more of a sharp wit than a skill at story telling. I'm pretty good with comebacks and whitty observations but I was never one for telling elaborate funny stories. I tend to tune my wit into the person I'm talking to though so it usually takes me a while before I'm warmed up to someone enough... so for pickup, I always felt that was a sticking point.... I needed to tell more funny jokes and stories!
At the same time, when I see guys trying too hard to be funny and do tricks and stunts to get attention, I always wonder... is she REALLY going for this? Because unless the guys has great looks/game otherwise, I just don't think being the "class clown" actually wins her heart, even if it wins you a quick laugh.
But I get the impression, Chase's style is different, it's less about being the class clown and being more manly, direct and seductive.
I kinda like this because I feel like there's less games involved and less need to learn and rehearse tricks and stories.
My sticking point is this however... I guess 50% of girls I'd talk to are open to this approach. But the other 50% are not... they seem to be EXPECTING to clown act. And I feel I'm coming off to dry. Especially in night game, where things are more high energy, people are drinking, laughing, having fun and I guess I'm coming off too serious or at least my line of conversation is going that way rather than being the guy coming in with jokes.
For example... girls is chatting, drinking, laughing, dancing... then I come in and instead of matching her pace... I begin asking who she is, what she does, what her passions are, all the usual stuff but I just feel like my vibe is WAY off from hers at this point. She needs a more engaging approach to actually distract her from having fun with her friends to actually wanting to talk with me.
I hope all that made sense. Anyway, I guess I'm just asking for any critiques of what I described or pointers. Very much appreciated!
E.
I know Chase has touched on this in some blog posts before now. Basically being the "entertainer" vs. being a "sexy guy".
A lot of PUA techniques seem to revolve around being the entertainer and a lot of conventional advice seems to go that way too. i.e. "Be yourself, make her laugh"...
Here is how I am naturally:
I'm told by friends that I'm quite funny but it's more of a sharp wit than a skill at story telling. I'm pretty good with comebacks and whitty observations but I was never one for telling elaborate funny stories. I tend to tune my wit into the person I'm talking to though so it usually takes me a while before I'm warmed up to someone enough... so for pickup, I always felt that was a sticking point.... I needed to tell more funny jokes and stories!
At the same time, when I see guys trying too hard to be funny and do tricks and stunts to get attention, I always wonder... is she REALLY going for this? Because unless the guys has great looks/game otherwise, I just don't think being the "class clown" actually wins her heart, even if it wins you a quick laugh.
But I get the impression, Chase's style is different, it's less about being the class clown and being more manly, direct and seductive.
I kinda like this because I feel like there's less games involved and less need to learn and rehearse tricks and stories.
My sticking point is this however... I guess 50% of girls I'd talk to are open to this approach. But the other 50% are not... they seem to be EXPECTING to clown act. And I feel I'm coming off to dry. Especially in night game, where things are more high energy, people are drinking, laughing, having fun and I guess I'm coming off too serious or at least my line of conversation is going that way rather than being the guy coming in with jokes.
For example... girls is chatting, drinking, laughing, dancing... then I come in and instead of matching her pace... I begin asking who she is, what she does, what her passions are, all the usual stuff but I just feel like my vibe is WAY off from hers at this point. She needs a more engaging approach to actually distract her from having fun with her friends to actually wanting to talk with me.
I hope all that made sense. Anyway, I guess I'm just asking for any critiques of what I described or pointers. Very much appreciated!
E.
