Getting a passive girl more active and passionate?

[salamis]

Hi,

I've had a few occassions of bringing a girl to bed and having her be very passive (not kissing back very passionately/responding very passively to touch during the escalation phase, or just taking it if we're having sex). Obviously it's more fun if she's passionate, and for me its especially a problem during the escalation phase- it feels weird escalating if she's acting kind of cold. I've seen this more in Latin America, btw, as women here seem to have more traditional views of sex (i.e. that it's more about the man).

Any thoughts on how to get a girl more warmed-up/to be more active during escalation/sex?

 

[Thedoctor]

salamis,

The main thing here is making her feel comfortable. Compliments, lots and lots of compliments.

Sometimes they still just don't fully reciprocate. I've dealt with this a few times in the past. Girls that do this are often very shy and maybe unsure of themselves. What I've found that helps is if you guide her hands where you like having them. ie. taking her hands and placing them on your cheeks or arms.

Communication always helps too. But don't complain about the problem. There's a good chance she's just inexperienced and unsure what to do.
Instead of saying: "Why do you seem so cold?" or "Why don't you get more passionate?"

Say: "It's really hot when you grab my cheeks and pull me in when you kiss me" or "It turns me on when you wrap yourself around me while I'm inside you"

Try not to overdo this though. Just one or two tips every now and then is enough.

-Doc