Getting called sweet

[Kvothe]

One thing I have happening for me semi-frequently to regularly is on the approach girls responding to a compliment with "that's so sweet".

On immediate look sure that sounds like a good reaction, but it keeps rubbing me the wrong way. I think because "sweet" seems like it implies "good on you for trying but you're also so beneath me that I'm going to be super nice rejecting you"

I can't tell if I'm overthinking it. But I feel like the best approaches I've had are one where the girl is excited to meet me-not pseudo-happy "sweet".

Granted a lot of the sweet comments are also when I'm approaching while feeling a lot more fear, but I'm still not sure what exact behaviors are leading to girl's reacting this way.

Curious if I'm overthinking, or if people have any suggestions for improving.

 

[James D]

I think you're right.

I don't hear it that often but when I do, it irritates me.

If it's paired with an "aww" as in "aww that's sweet" then I'm even more convinced I blew up the approach.

 

[nikolas]

You're right, the underlying meaning is "Sooo sweeeet, let's arrange a coffee to discuss about my exes, the guy I have a crush one and what color I should paint my nails". They don't see you as a sexual option but as the nice guy friend.

 

[OldGuy]

I would say that they think your approach is OK and not turning them off, but you still give a vibe of a lower SMV than the women you approach. Thus you need to work on the SMV you present

 

[Spike]

you still give a vibe of a lower SMV than the women you approach. Thus you need to work on the SMV you present

Yes. Saying the same things to them would be view differently if they could see you were higher smv than them.

 

[KJ Francis]

Assuming street approach without an opportunity for opening indirect, maybe try verbal false time constraint on the open? And body rocking pointed away from her, face pointed away a bit, looking at her more from the corner of your eye.

Then more emphasis on teasing right away and maybe remaining skeptical, asking about her... Maybe extra nonverbal boldness like piercing sexual eye contact and proximity a "sweet boy" wouldn't do. Reminds me of the bitch shield where you can pass through it by remaining unreactive and not falling in her frame for the first impression.

Maybe worth a read:

How to Counteract the DLV in Cold Approach

@DarkKnight asked (in response to me talking about a client who refused to cold approach because he did not want to ever come in “lower value”): Chase you wrote sometimes that approaching girls indeed brings a slight DLV, and you mentioned that a good seducer knows ways to counteracts this but...

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