Have any of you men ever been a victim to this? Basically a Catfish is a girl/guy who uses somebody else's pictures to pose as them while using a different name and trying to seduce you. I was a victim to this last year and it had put me into depression from the emotional damage it had caused (along with another failed relationship that followed after). So yeah I just wanna hear the experiences of other guys on here if they have been through this and if you were able to find the actual identity of the person hiding behind the profile. I think this topic would be a good article for Chase to write on as well.
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I had a girl do this to me back in January. We met up less than a week after we first came into contact and her pictures were mostly of groups of her friends. The only picture of her by herself looked more like another girl in the group shots than it did of her (the perspective was from behind). I believe this was on purpose. The trick that keeps it from working is to meet up soon after contact. Don't have long drawn out dialogues over text. Not only does it prevent this from happening, but it also keeps you from wasting your time with girls who aren't interested in being anything but pen pals.
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Yeah, I got catfished around 3 years ago (I was 15). It sucks when it happens, but relationships aren't really designed to revolve around meeting online. I don't support online dating, as it is a crutch to regular dating. In fact, I hardly ever use any means of e-communication because I find it to be a very weak form of communicating things.
It's important to understand that you are not a victim to this experience.
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-v ... luck-women
You placed yourself in the situation, and it's up to you to fix it. How do you fix it? Seek ideas on how to instead of ruminating over it. If you got catfished, understand that these people that are involved in these stories are afraid to show themselves, and are not inherently bad people. They don't mean to destroy feelings. They created an alternate reality so that they could enjoy the things that we psychologically need.
It's not much different than what all of us have done in our lives. I've constantly changed things to provide alternate realities for myself:
- I used to fear and be scared of what would happen after life. I would lie awake for hours in my bed wondering what would happen, and I kept arriving at life ending in a state of nonexistence. The knowledge of my own death frightened me. But, I had been to church, and I know that people tied into the idea that something would keep our souls living after life. This is an alternate reality that many people buy into.
- I used to have no friends; I had no idea on how to get people at school to like me, and I got excited whenever I got into a conversation with a girl. This was back in 5th grade when my brain had become fully developed. In order to get away from the shunning and depression that came from the frustration of social situations, I turned to playing online games and communicating with people via text. This wasn't the right way of doing things, but I created an alternate reality in which people loved me, because I had power in the game.
The point is, many of us create alternate realities to cope with the things that, psychologically, we don't have. Republicans operate around the belief that democrats are lazy people who are selfish and just want to take away all their money to buy drugs; this isn't true. Democrats operate around the belief that Republicans are selfish and lazy people who never work hard and just want to spend all their money on useless things; this isn't true. We all want to do good and we all want to be accepted.
Catfishers aren't horrible people; they are just like everyone else, trying to cope with the realities of this world. They just are operating on a flawed mentality that they can achieve these things by lying.
It's important to understand that you are not a victim to this experience.
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-v ... luck-women
You placed yourself in the situation, and it's up to you to fix it. How do you fix it? Seek ideas on how to instead of ruminating over it. If you got catfished, understand that these people that are involved in these stories are afraid to show themselves, and are not inherently bad people. They don't mean to destroy feelings. They created an alternate reality so that they could enjoy the things that we psychologically need.
It's not much different than what all of us have done in our lives. I've constantly changed things to provide alternate realities for myself:
- I used to fear and be scared of what would happen after life. I would lie awake for hours in my bed wondering what would happen, and I kept arriving at life ending in a state of nonexistence. The knowledge of my own death frightened me. But, I had been to church, and I know that people tied into the idea that something would keep our souls living after life. This is an alternate reality that many people buy into.
- I used to have no friends; I had no idea on how to get people at school to like me, and I got excited whenever I got into a conversation with a girl. This was back in 5th grade when my brain had become fully developed. In order to get away from the shunning and depression that came from the frustration of social situations, I turned to playing online games and communicating with people via text. This wasn't the right way of doing things, but I created an alternate reality in which people loved me, because I had power in the game.
The point is, many of us create alternate realities to cope with the things that, psychologically, we don't have. Republicans operate around the belief that democrats are lazy people who are selfish and just want to take away all their money to buy drugs; this isn't true. Democrats operate around the belief that Republicans are selfish and lazy people who never work hard and just want to spend all their money on useless things; this isn't true. We all want to do good and we all want to be accepted.
Catfishers aren't horrible people; they are just like everyone else, trying to cope with the realities of this world. They just are operating on a flawed mentality that they can achieve these things by lying.