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I met a girl for a date last night from online dating. She was attractive but not crazy, maybe a 7. I have been horny AF though, only recently coming out of a lockdown, so i wanted to fuck.
So i sit down at this bar and i'm playing it cool. But from the start I felt like maybe she wasn't that into it. I didn't get any crazy sexual chemistry i'm just being polite to start playing it cool with some fluff. Then i'm thinking 'ok man this is boring' I need to amp this shit up. So i start running her through some states and i try and get more excited in the process i run some emotional gambits, and then sexual stories. She love the sexual stories and lights up a little.
SUMMARY
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(1) I start running her through some states - Firstly some emotional ones, then sexual.
(2) She starts lighting up at the sexual ones a bit.
(3) She finishes her drink and i was going to call it quits because i still wasn't feeling it. But then she says 'hey I want to get another drink and some food. Do you want anything?'
(4) I reassess and now i think "ok maybe i have a chance here." So i'm like fuck it i'll go along.
(5) We sit back down and i close the proximity but still not touching enough. I start friendly touching and at one point i mention her nails and hold her hand.
(6) She didn't feel that comfortable with me holding her hand and has very closed off body language.
(7) Conversation goes back to boring shit again, so i switch it up and do some personality gambit on her.
(8) We finish and i'm trying a bit too hard to get sexual state
(9) Mentions she has to leave.
(10) Walk her back to car where the ending is kinda awkward. I didn't go for anything and played it cool. She's like "ok well, um see you around I guess" OUCH.
On reassessment i don't think she was ever entirely into it or that comfortable and any states i was trying to run her through washed off quickly. I did really have trouble getting into the states myself and I feel this was part of the problem. I just felt a very 'boring neutral vibe' and i really found it hard to change this.
QUESTIONS
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(1) Is the fact i couldn't really get sexual state because she wouldn't let me? How can i override these boring feelings and neutrality get the chemicals flowing?
(2) Should I risk touching more straight up to gauge her interest and then close the date if she rejects me?
(3) I felt like she was keeping it boring as not to get any deep and sexual with me. How can i prevent this in the future?
(4) The conversation lacked fun and humour... Can someone suggest any tactics besides stories to get shit more fun?
(5) The ending for me was quite obvious she wasn't into it. Should I have made sure this was the case? Could I have done more at this point?
(6) Any other advice would be appreciated.
In closing I find that when i'm completely not into a girl to the point i'm actually embarrassed to be seen with her (yes this has happened) girls are totally into me. It's hard to fake this though with a hotter girl. I often wonder what would happen if i felt true feelings of embarrassment with a hot bish if she would also chase me like ugly girls do?
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I met a girl for a date last night from online dating. She was attractive but not crazy, maybe a 7. I have been horny AF though, only recently coming out of a lockdown, so i wanted to fuck.
So i sit down at this bar and i'm playing it cool. But from the start I felt like maybe she wasn't that into it. I didn't get any crazy sexual chemistry i'm just being polite to start playing it cool with some fluff. Then i'm thinking 'ok man this is boring' I need to amp this shit up. So i start running her through some states and i try and get more excited in the process i run some emotional gambits, and then sexual stories. She love the sexual stories and lights up a little.
SUMMARY
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(1) I start running her through some states - Firstly some emotional ones, then sexual.
(2) She starts lighting up at the sexual ones a bit.
(3) She finishes her drink and i was going to call it quits because i still wasn't feeling it. But then she says 'hey I want to get another drink and some food. Do you want anything?'
(4) I reassess and now i think "ok maybe i have a chance here." So i'm like fuck it i'll go along.
(5) We sit back down and i close the proximity but still not touching enough. I start friendly touching and at one point i mention her nails and hold her hand.
(6) She didn't feel that comfortable with me holding her hand and has very closed off body language.
(7) Conversation goes back to boring shit again, so i switch it up and do some personality gambit on her.
(8) We finish and i'm trying a bit too hard to get sexual state
(9) Mentions she has to leave.
(10) Walk her back to car where the ending is kinda awkward. I didn't go for anything and played it cool. She's like "ok well, um see you around I guess" OUCH.
On reassessment i don't think she was ever entirely into it or that comfortable and any states i was trying to run her through washed off quickly. I did really have trouble getting into the states myself and I feel this was part of the problem. I just felt a very 'boring neutral vibe' and i really found it hard to change this.
QUESTIONS
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(1) Is the fact i couldn't really get sexual state because she wouldn't let me? How can i override these boring feelings and neutrality get the chemicals flowing?
(2) Should I risk touching more straight up to gauge her interest and then close the date if she rejects me?
(3) I felt like she was keeping it boring as not to get any deep and sexual with me. How can i prevent this in the future?
(4) The conversation lacked fun and humour... Can someone suggest any tactics besides stories to get shit more fun?
(5) The ending for me was quite obvious she wasn't into it. Should I have made sure this was the case? Could I have done more at this point?
(6) Any other advice would be appreciated.
In closing I find that when i'm completely not into a girl to the point i'm actually embarrassed to be seen with her (yes this has happened) girls are totally into me. It's hard to fake this though with a hotter girl. I often wonder what would happen if i felt true feelings of embarrassment with a hot bish if she would also chase me like ugly girls do?