getting to her door but not getting inside

[JayLR]

Hey guys,

Got this girl which was hitting on me at work for a while. I didn't bother with her untill recently. Went out with her 2 times now and got to her door but didn't get invited in.
Do I need to invite myself in? I haven't tried kissing her but prefered to do this in her appartement.. What is the best option here? I accepted her on facebook, do I maybe ask her why she's not inviting me in? I'm trying to start to lose confidence a bit here because I'm scamming trough the girls who likes me and somehow seem to push all of them away... maybe I'm acting needy or something but I am definitely doing something wrong..

Thanks for the replys,

Cheers
JayLR

 

[ray_zorse]

She's not going to do the work for you, you have to make it happen.

Using her logistics does present some difficulties as you noticed, it would be easier to get her to your place and then pull her inside. But you have to work with what you have, if you're at her place then try to make it happen at her place.

So what I would suggest is using some plausible deniability to get inside -- something like "do you have any coffee" or "can I meet your pet [that you were discussing before]" or something like that. Or just "how about a nightcap before I go". And if that fails then... you have to get out the hard push, she'll keep coming up with objections (such as housemates) and you'll be logically countering all those objections until she begins to weaken, and then you seize the moment and just push the door open and pull her inside. BANG!

Having said all that, you have to be a bit sensitive to context. It's kind of like the guy who meets a girl, has a long and in-depth conversation and then as she is leaving tries to get her number -- it is really lame, by that stage the opportunity is GONE and he's trying to recover. It's much better to pro-act and get the number on a high point. This makes you look cool and in control. Same thing applies if you went on a date, had a good time and the mood has wound down or evaporated and things have reached their emotional conclusion, in that case trying to get inside will look desperate. So it would be really good to plan your logistics beforehand, and if you're planning to use her place then act on that basis, try to get things moving back to her place when things are still on a high point, so that she's expecting to spend time with you there.

Ray