Me and my GF of 1 year have a semi-LDR (we live in neighboring countries) and for her summer internship she moved to my city and lives with me for 3.5 months.
Now, the deal is that we started off really bad with a lot of arguments, since her internship went badly, she missed her friends, she didn't like my place (which can be inconvenient for two persons) and took that out on me. I stopped it, but it took time to iron it out and did mess up our rapport a bit. Anyway now, I noticed she often complaints that she is bored, we don't do anything together and she is concerned that we don't fit together, since I have a stick up my arse (do not tolerate deprecating jokes on my account). It has gotten so bad, that she refused sex for two weeks by now ("I have no desire") and was really annoyed when asked about the cause.
Meanwhile, over summer I had to write a Master thesis and an extra project for a class, organize moving to another country for job at the end of September, do fitness and generally had very little time and energy, because of these all.
She is used to have more active lifestyle than me (underground theaters, rock-climbing etc.) while I am used to concentrating on long-term goals (PhD anyone?), but nothing this mattered in the first 5 months - we only did sex, movies, long talks about deep and shallow stuff, occasional walks to the city center/mall/some small parties.
Now, generally, I would just follow Chase' advice on boredom and disappear for a few days, concentrate on my work, go out with friends and keep her guessing. However, nothing of this is possible, since I have no time and no place to retreat. I realize I did a mistake by letting her move in, while I myself have to work hard, but I thought it was a great opportunity in our LDR relationship and just wanted to give her chance to have an internship in my city (she would not be able to pay rent alone). There were no clouds on the horizon.
Although I do find time for her (parks, zoo, movies, occasionally some restaurants) I don't think any of this fits and I don't have money/time/energy for anything grandiose right now and cannot apply Chase' original advice in full force. And quite honestly, I don't feel that I have to entertain her at all, since I am busy as hell. I am not sure of a good way to solve this situation. I outright suggested to break up, if it makes he so unhappy, but it was obvious this is not what she wants.
It is hard to point my finger precisely on what the case is (she often changes her answer as well): that we don't have common hobbies/stuff to do, that she is bored (and I am doing a bad job as a jester wtf?), that I have a stick up my ass (I can joke about myself, but she really goes overboard with it and I cut it).
Any ideas what precisely it is about and how to deal with it in my situation? She will leave in 2 weeks anyway, but I would really like to find solution before that.
Now, the deal is that we started off really bad with a lot of arguments, since her internship went badly, she missed her friends, she didn't like my place (which can be inconvenient for two persons) and took that out on me. I stopped it, but it took time to iron it out and did mess up our rapport a bit. Anyway now, I noticed she often complaints that she is bored, we don't do anything together and she is concerned that we don't fit together, since I have a stick up my arse (do not tolerate deprecating jokes on my account). It has gotten so bad, that she refused sex for two weeks by now ("I have no desire") and was really annoyed when asked about the cause.
Meanwhile, over summer I had to write a Master thesis and an extra project for a class, organize moving to another country for job at the end of September, do fitness and generally had very little time and energy, because of these all.
She is used to have more active lifestyle than me (underground theaters, rock-climbing etc.) while I am used to concentrating on long-term goals (PhD anyone?), but nothing this mattered in the first 5 months - we only did sex, movies, long talks about deep and shallow stuff, occasional walks to the city center/mall/some small parties.
Now, generally, I would just follow Chase' advice on boredom and disappear for a few days, concentrate on my work, go out with friends and keep her guessing. However, nothing of this is possible, since I have no time and no place to retreat. I realize I did a mistake by letting her move in, while I myself have to work hard, but I thought it was a great opportunity in our LDR relationship and just wanted to give her chance to have an internship in my city (she would not be able to pay rent alone). There were no clouds on the horizon.
Although I do find time for her (parks, zoo, movies, occasionally some restaurants) I don't think any of this fits and I don't have money/time/energy for anything grandiose right now and cannot apply Chase' original advice in full force. And quite honestly, I don't feel that I have to entertain her at all, since I am busy as hell. I am not sure of a good way to solve this situation. I outright suggested to break up, if it makes he so unhappy, but it was obvious this is not what she wants.
It is hard to point my finger precisely on what the case is (she often changes her answer as well): that we don't have common hobbies/stuff to do, that she is bored (and I am doing a bad job as a jester wtf?), that I have a stick up my ass (I can joke about myself, but she really goes overboard with it and I cut it).
Any ideas what precisely it is about and how to deal with it in my situation? She will leave in 2 weeks anyway, but I would really like to find solution before that.
