Okay, I think a little bit of backstory is important for this one. I recently hit up this girl I used to know a long time ago through Instagram. We used to know each other back in high school, and she actually was the one interested in me at the time. Admittedly, this was back when I was still a pussy and scared of talking to girls. She would be very assertive towards me and super obvious about her interest in me, and I would always just play the oblivious part and be a complete asshole to her in order to try and get her to leave me alone.
So, that's the way she remembers me. An asshole. The thing is I've always actually liked her, but I was just a pussy at the time. I recently decided to hit her up though after becoming single about a month ago.
She was super surprised about me DMing her, and we had some decent conversation over text. After a bit it seemed pretty obvious that she still remembered me as an asshole and was making it pretty hard to text her, so I decided to just be blunt and forward instead of passive. I was straight up and told her I used to be scared of girls and that's why I was so mean to her, but if she was willing to look past that then I'd like to take her out.
She didn't give a straight answer as expected because it was pretty quick, but seemed somewhat interested. We continued to text for a few more days and I flirted a bit, to which she seemed to like. A few days after I first started texting her, she randomly brought up that she'd be going to the gym tomorrow. We both know we go to the same gym. I told her I was going to hit legs and she responded saying "i can hit legs", which pretty much felt like her asking me to ask her to go together.
So I did, and we agreed to go together the next morning. Come the morning, I wake up to a text from her from 4 AM saying she was barely going to sleep because she had to finish an essay, and that she's sorry and we could go for another day. I was bummed out but that last part made me think it was fine because she was willing to reschedule. Later that day I texted her a basic conversation starter, "What kind of music do you like?", to start a conversation before I would ask her out again (this time I was planning to ask her out somewhere else, the gym feels a bit weird for a first hangout/date).
Two days later and she hasn't opened it, but she continued to post on her story. It was pretty sudden but at this point I knew I was ghosted. I was really surprised because of her assertiveness in planning the original gym date.
I decided to text her one more time before leaving it. 'Let me take you out this weekend, we could go bowling on Sunday.' She responded to that (while ignoring the previous text though about the music though) and said that she was working late on Sunday with a little sad face attached
. I responded asking her if she was good for Friday or Saturday then and yeah it's been a week since then.
I don't plan to text her again and make myself look stupid or desperate, but a few days ago I saw her at the library. I don't know if she saw me but I minded my own business that day and pretty much stayed away. So yeah, I know I've already been ghosted and all but I haven't even been able to see this girl in person since we started talking. I think she probably still remembers the old me.
I'm pretty close with my dad so I asked him about the situation, and his advice was to not give up but still talk to other girls and act as if nothing ever happened. And if possible, to make her see me with another girl to make her jealous because "Girls want what other girls have." I ran into this article after the fact which surprised me because the advice was like the same thing that my dad said. So pretty much, I want to approach her next time I run into her but I'm not sure what I should do or say.
Any advice? I can only think of saying what's up, how are you doing, and just stay a lil flirty with her and be myself. Any advice or thoughts on the whole thing is appreciated. It might be important to mention that she's very attractive and ofc she knows it so there may be competition, and yes she is single. I think I'm decently attractive myself so I don't think its a thing about me being ugly, and she even used to like me, but she could probably remember me as a weirdo since I was such an asshole. I dunno. Thanks.
So, that's the way she remembers me. An asshole. The thing is I've always actually liked her, but I was just a pussy at the time. I recently decided to hit her up though after becoming single about a month ago.
She was super surprised about me DMing her, and we had some decent conversation over text. After a bit it seemed pretty obvious that she still remembered me as an asshole and was making it pretty hard to text her, so I decided to just be blunt and forward instead of passive. I was straight up and told her I used to be scared of girls and that's why I was so mean to her, but if she was willing to look past that then I'd like to take her out.
She didn't give a straight answer as expected because it was pretty quick, but seemed somewhat interested. We continued to text for a few more days and I flirted a bit, to which she seemed to like. A few days after I first started texting her, she randomly brought up that she'd be going to the gym tomorrow. We both know we go to the same gym. I told her I was going to hit legs and she responded saying "i can hit legs", which pretty much felt like her asking me to ask her to go together.
So I did, and we agreed to go together the next morning. Come the morning, I wake up to a text from her from 4 AM saying she was barely going to sleep because she had to finish an essay, and that she's sorry and we could go for another day. I was bummed out but that last part made me think it was fine because she was willing to reschedule. Later that day I texted her a basic conversation starter, "What kind of music do you like?", to start a conversation before I would ask her out again (this time I was planning to ask her out somewhere else, the gym feels a bit weird for a first hangout/date).
Two days later and she hasn't opened it, but she continued to post on her story. It was pretty sudden but at this point I knew I was ghosted. I was really surprised because of her assertiveness in planning the original gym date.
I decided to text her one more time before leaving it. 'Let me take you out this weekend, we could go bowling on Sunday.' She responded to that (while ignoring the previous text though about the music though) and said that she was working late on Sunday with a little sad face attached
. I responded asking her if she was good for Friday or Saturday then and yeah it's been a week since then.I don't plan to text her again and make myself look stupid or desperate, but a few days ago I saw her at the library. I don't know if she saw me but I minded my own business that day and pretty much stayed away. So yeah, I know I've already been ghosted and all but I haven't even been able to see this girl in person since we started talking. I think she probably still remembers the old me.
I'm pretty close with my dad so I asked him about the situation, and his advice was to not give up but still talk to other girls and act as if nothing ever happened. And if possible, to make her see me with another girl to make her jealous because "Girls want what other girls have." I ran into this article after the fact which surprised me because the advice was like the same thing that my dad said. So pretty much, I want to approach her next time I run into her but I'm not sure what I should do or say.
Any advice? I can only think of saying what's up, how are you doing, and just stay a lil flirty with her and be myself. Any advice or thoughts on the whole thing is appreciated. It might be important to mention that she's very attractive and ofc she knows it so there may be competition, and yes she is single. I think I'm decently attractive myself so I don't think its a thing about me being ugly, and she even used to like me, but she could probably remember me as a weirdo since I was such an asshole. I dunno. Thanks.
