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Hello everyone, I've been reading the blog for quite some time, now I've decided to become better acquainted with you guys around the world and learn from field reports and discussions as well.
I wish the title was 100% true, but let me first say that her initial goal in approaching me was to get my signature to donate money to a cancer charity; allow me to start from beginning.
Two days ago, I decided that direct approaching alone in daylight is the most liberating thing I can do for my sexual life (or lack of in this case), before that I had always convinced one of my acquaintances to be my wingman and we would go out after midnight in order to do Nighttime Street Game, which Chase explains clearly in his article. After these fruitless nighttime endeavors (due to my lack of ample approaches and not presenting myself as a sexual man well) I told myself to go out alone again and again until my inner objections and fears died down.
I re-read the fundamentals article, cut myself a sexy facial hair, took much more care in my clothing than I would otherwise, and headed out to the city center. I did the slow walk and ventured into the main street looking out for good opportunities to approach. I took out my short grocery list and went into a supermarket, bought a couple of things, looked around for nice girls didn't find any young people at the moment and headed out. I walked around 50 meters as I was passing through the city square, a girl turned around to face me and started to say "Can I ask you something?". As soon as I saw the clipboard I did the "sceptical look" and said 'Is this about helping old people?" she cracked up and proceeded to explain how she was looking for donations for cancer research. When she asked me if I had any experience with the horrible disease I told her I lost a relative to it, and asked her if she had as well. Then I asked her if she studied here, and she started talking about her major and the projects that she works on, I made a couple of jokes screening her knowledge about video-editing programs and techniques. She started telling a detailed story about her paternal grandfather being from Austria and her already speaking German when I asked her about foreign languages. She went from topic to topic with little work from me, turning her body stance and playing with her hair and touching my shoulder when I gave her a validation while we spoke; our faces were really close to each other throughout the conversation.
I realized we hadn't traded names and asked her name and told her mine in response, she asked me how it was spelled and after that something interesting happened; she took my name and turned it into a nickname. I did the same to hers and she quieted down some, and we were looking each other's eyes in silence, after some pressure built up she cracked and started talking about herself and then suddenly remembered the reason she was talking to me and tried to convince me to sign the donation form. After I circumnavigated the subject of donation and we were both laughing I took out my phone and asked her number, she got a bit nervous and told me she couldn't give it to me, then I saw she was looking at her 'boss" who was walking around and checking other people's work. She said "I love talking to you! I can't believe it's been 35 minutes" so I put the phone in her hands and then she said "I really can't do it while I'm working" so I asked her full name and copied it down. Just as I did that, a mean looking woman came over and said "Normally people talk to her for 2 minutes, you've been wasting our time here!", I told the woman since she was such a friendly woman I might actually change my mind and sign right now, and when she got the message she said "Oh I'm sorry, you know, I mean it's only blablabla per month" I ignored her and looked at the girl and gave her a quick smile. Finally I said "I'm going to let ____ get back to work now, as I was caressing her back in a gesture of support. As I was leaving she came closer and said it was really lovely to talk to you, I smiled back at her and left.
After I went home I found her profile on Facebook, I first thought about sending a quick message using her nickname and setting up a date if she replied, but since I wasn't friends with her the message would go to her "Others" folder and is likely to never see the light of day. So I added her and she hasn't accepted the invitation, nor has she done anything because her profile is quite public I can see her posts and actions, the last of them were a day before we met, Occam's Razor says she hasn't logged in since than. Going further back I saw that she dated a guy for a month and broke up with him because he didn't treat her well (according to her), as I did some simple searching through her social accounts I got the impression that she hasn't had too many boyfriends (or at least announced ones) but I figured if she was to announce a month long one, she would do the other ones as well.
What do you guys think? Was she just going with the flow and enjoying a good conversation for the sake of it and taking a break from her work or did I handle this well? Any tips and criticisms are welcome.
I wish the title was 100% true, but let me first say that her initial goal in approaching me was to get my signature to donate money to a cancer charity; allow me to start from beginning.
Two days ago, I decided that direct approaching alone in daylight is the most liberating thing I can do for my sexual life (or lack of in this case), before that I had always convinced one of my acquaintances to be my wingman and we would go out after midnight in order to do Nighttime Street Game, which Chase explains clearly in his article. After these fruitless nighttime endeavors (due to my lack of ample approaches and not presenting myself as a sexual man well) I told myself to go out alone again and again until my inner objections and fears died down.
I re-read the fundamentals article, cut myself a sexy facial hair, took much more care in my clothing than I would otherwise, and headed out to the city center. I did the slow walk and ventured into the main street looking out for good opportunities to approach. I took out my short grocery list and went into a supermarket, bought a couple of things, looked around for nice girls didn't find any young people at the moment and headed out. I walked around 50 meters as I was passing through the city square, a girl turned around to face me and started to say "Can I ask you something?". As soon as I saw the clipboard I did the "sceptical look" and said 'Is this about helping old people?" she cracked up and proceeded to explain how she was looking for donations for cancer research. When she asked me if I had any experience with the horrible disease I told her I lost a relative to it, and asked her if she had as well. Then I asked her if she studied here, and she started talking about her major and the projects that she works on, I made a couple of jokes screening her knowledge about video-editing programs and techniques. She started telling a detailed story about her paternal grandfather being from Austria and her already speaking German when I asked her about foreign languages. She went from topic to topic with little work from me, turning her body stance and playing with her hair and touching my shoulder when I gave her a validation while we spoke; our faces were really close to each other throughout the conversation.
I realized we hadn't traded names and asked her name and told her mine in response, she asked me how it was spelled and after that something interesting happened; she took my name and turned it into a nickname. I did the same to hers and she quieted down some, and we were looking each other's eyes in silence, after some pressure built up she cracked and started talking about herself and then suddenly remembered the reason she was talking to me and tried to convince me to sign the donation form. After I circumnavigated the subject of donation and we were both laughing I took out my phone and asked her number, she got a bit nervous and told me she couldn't give it to me, then I saw she was looking at her 'boss" who was walking around and checking other people's work. She said "I love talking to you! I can't believe it's been 35 minutes" so I put the phone in her hands and then she said "I really can't do it while I'm working" so I asked her full name and copied it down. Just as I did that, a mean looking woman came over and said "Normally people talk to her for 2 minutes, you've been wasting our time here!", I told the woman since she was such a friendly woman I might actually change my mind and sign right now, and when she got the message she said "Oh I'm sorry, you know, I mean it's only blablabla per month" I ignored her and looked at the girl and gave her a quick smile. Finally I said "I'm going to let ____ get back to work now, as I was caressing her back in a gesture of support. As I was leaving she came closer and said it was really lovely to talk to you, I smiled back at her and left.
After I went home I found her profile on Facebook, I first thought about sending a quick message using her nickname and setting up a date if she replied, but since I wasn't friends with her the message would go to her "Others" folder and is likely to never see the light of day. So I added her and she hasn't accepted the invitation, nor has she done anything because her profile is quite public I can see her posts and actions, the last of them were a day before we met, Occam's Razor says she hasn't logged in since than. Going further back I saw that she dated a guy for a month and broke up with him because he didn't treat her well (according to her), as I did some simple searching through her social accounts I got the impression that she hasn't had too many boyfriends (or at least announced ones) but I figured if she was to announce a month long one, she would do the other ones as well.
What do you guys think? Was she just going with the flow and enjoying a good conversation for the sake of it and taking a break from her work or did I handle this well? Any tips and criticisms are welcome.
